I Dont Want To Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression

A national bestseller, this groundbreaking examination of male depression was hailed by Robert Bly as a book that "moves on to new ground in language and in story . . . exhilarating in its honesty and its grief". "A hopeful and important book because it shows a way out of depression for men that carries with its a potential for ending a legacy of violence".--"The New York Times Book Review"

Twenty years of experience treating men and their families has convincedpsychotherapist Terrence Real that depression is a silent epidemic in men -- thatmen hide their condition from family, friends, and themselves to avoid the stigmaof depression''s "un-manliness." Problems that we think of as typicallymale -- difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behavior, andrage-are really attempts to escape depression. And these escape attempts onlyhurt the people men love and pass their condition on to their children.

This groundbreaking book is the "pathway out of darkness" that these men andtheir families seek. Real reveals how men can unearth their pain, healthemselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. He mixespenetrating analysis with compelling tales of his patients and even his ownexperiences with depression as the son of a violent, depressed father and thefather of two young sons.