This book has touched me in many ways. One of the best chapters in this book is the chapter on how to deal with personal anger and frustration. I have children that are very active, more then some other kids and they are also very sensitive. My children take any negative comments as a personal put down. This book offers different solutions to say some of the same things that you want to bark, but in a nice way. As parents we are constantly facing the dilemma of if we did or are doing the right thing.
Many books I have read about child discipline and child rearing focus on making children conform. They also seem to want you believe that children only misbehave to manipulate you. Elizabeth Pantley allows us to see child behavior through the child's eyes. She offers solid and usable tips and solutions for parents to help them deal with a range of discipline issues. The No-Cry Discipline Solution is parent and child-friendly.

This book is an easy read, it is also easy for reference.
I think this is perfect for a parent that is tired and frustrated.
The last thing I need is a thick meaty book where I have to think more.
After spending the day thinking and trying to keep my kids safe, I need someone to work for me a little. This book does that, She lists things that are happening, and how you can change your wording or actions slightly, to get the end result you want, with out some of the tears and frustration
As far as it being no cry- I am not sure, because children being children, still want their way, they can not see logic the same way we can, but it is a nicer way of communicating, and i am sure will cause less tears and frustration on all fronts. This book gave me better tools in my bag of tricks then I have been using, and that is a great thing.

There are some practical suggestions that are very helpful. Like instead of saying "go get in the car right now!", trying something like, "Can you hop to the car?" or "Do you want to walk or skip to the car?"

She clearly indicates in her books that she will provide you with different strategies as there is no "one size fits all" solution to any of the challenges we parents face. One is able to take what fits their family and leave the rest. This book does not make you feel like a bad parent for not having thought of these ideas yourself.
I really like the honesty of this, it is real, and she is not assuming she knows everything, or that her methods are the only things that will work.
I like how there are many suggestions for similar issues, it is a great touch to have so many parents have feedback in the book. It makes it seem so much more real.

"The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior Without Whining, Tantrums, and Tears" by Elizabeth Pantley is a compact book that tackles, in an understanding and comprehensive way, the main problems parents and kids face when growing up together. Recognizing that the parents are perhaps the most important side of the equation, the author dedicates a great deal of the book to us grown-ups, suggesting ways in which we can improve ourselves in our relationship with our offspring (anger management, and the likes!)
Three of Elizabeth Pantley's key concepts in this book are (I'm writing from memory so don't take this as an actual quote!!!):
- There is no such thing as perfect parenting: she says something like "if you manage to get it right 70% of the times, you're doing a wonderful job"! I , the mother of a 3.5 year old girl, have thanked her in spirit again and again for this!
- A rule of life is that when you finally know how to deal with your kids they'll grow into some new stage and you have to learn how to be a parent all over again! She invites parents to use her book as a manual, that they can turn to when the going gets tough again, for new ideas!
- Kids are the same wherever you go, so we may build from the experience and advice gathered by the author from moms, dads, and kids around the Earth!
I can guarantee that her advice works for my Portuguese daughter and her Portuguese parents!
Thank you, Elizabeth Pantley, and keep up the good work!

Again, another brillant book from Elizabeth
I have used and STILL use the techniques in this book with my daughter and son.
I love her 'easy' to read sections along with a section of 'what to do " with certain situations!!!
EXCELLENT

I am a counselor in private practice, as well as the mother of a toddler. This book has offered my husband and I very practical, and even fun ways of approaching discipline. Our 21 month old son enjoys picking up his toys and putting them away, and he even puts his dishes in the sink when he done without being asked. In addition, since reading the book and following the ideas, our son is much more pleasant to interact with. We as parents are much more pleasant as well! I refer to the book often at home, and I frequently recommend it to my clients who are struggling with parenting and discipline. I would highly recommend this book. It is a great resource for all parents.
Kim Rapach, LCSW
Counselor