Reconcilable Differences: Marriages End. Families Don't.

Separation and divorce can be a grueling and cruel experience. Spouses who once loved each other can be swept up by an adversarial system where they declare war on each other, forgetting all that was good between them and disregarding the needs of their children. It doesn''t have to be that way. "When our marriage failed three years ago, my ex-husband and I tried an unusual arrangement to keep our family together," says author Cate Cochran. "We share a house. He lives upstairs, I live downstairs, and our young children and dog float between us. It is unorthodox, but we''ve discovered we''re part of a growing number of couples who, for the sake of their children, are creatively reconfiguring their families from the ruins of disintegrating marriages." Few public models and fewer resources exist for retooling a family. Cate Cochran has interviewed rearranged families -- the adults and their children -- from across Canada and tells the stories of ten "successfully failed" marriages in her groundbreaking book, Reconcilable Differences. Families interviewed are from Toronto, Montreal, Ottawa, Denman Island, Saskatoon, Windsor (NS), Unionville, and Uxbridge.

Cate Cochran is a producer with CBC Radio''s The Sunday Edition and lives in downtown Toronto, where she shares a house with her ex-husband, two teenage children, and a dog. Born in Toronto, she has lived in Saint John, Montreal, and Ottawa, where she attended Carleton University. Cate was the art director for The Globe and Mail Report on Business magazine before becoming a writer, radio producer, and award-winning documentary maker.