From the author of the blockbuster bestseller The
Game: A shockingly personal, surprisingly relatable, brutally
honest memoir, in which the celebrated dating expert confronts the
greatest challenge he has ever faced: monogamy and
Most of us are told, from the moment we are old enough to
understand a story, that there is a golden path waiting to take us
safely through the jungle of life: get a good job, fall in love,
get married, have children, and live happily ever after.
It sounds simple enough. Yet as a species, we seem to have an
incredibly difficult time making it happen. So, one day, I looked
around and saw my friends frustrated and neglected in their
marriages-some being unfaithful, others white-knuckling it, many
surrendering to their fate, and a few living in denial. And I saw
myself still unmarried, childless, and, in the biggest
disappointment of all to myself, cheating. And I wondered if it was
possible to change the odds-and the rules-for myself . . .
The story that follows, however, is not a journey that was
undertaken by choice or for the purposes of a book. It is a
painfully honest account of a life crisis that was forced on me by
my own behavior and its consequences. And as such, it requires
sharing a lot of things I''m not proud of-and a few things I feel
like I should regret a whole lot more than I actually do. Because,
unfortunately, I am not the hero in this tale. I am the
Neil Strauss became famous to millions around the world as the
author of The Game, a funny and slyly instructive account
of how he transformed himself from a scrawny, insecure nerd into
the ultra-confident, ultra-successful "pickup artist" known as
Style. The book jump-started the international "seduction
community," and made Strauss a household name-revered or
notorious-among single men and women alike.
But the experience of writing The Game also transformed
Strauss into a man who could have what every man wants: the ability
to date-and/or have casual sex with-almost every woman he met. The
results were heady, to be sure. But they also conditioned him to
view the world as a kind of constant parade of women, sex, and
opportunity-with intimacy and long-term commitment taking a back
seat. That is, until he met the woman who forced him to choose
between herself and the parade. The choice was not only difficult,
it was wrenching. It forced him deep into his past, to confront not
only the moral dimensions of his pickup lifestyle, but also a
wrenching mystery in his childhood that shaped the man that he
became. It sent him into extremes of behavior that exposed just how
conflicted his life had become. And it made him question everything
he knew about himself, and about the way men and women live with
and without each other.
He would never be the same again.
Searingly honest, compulsively readable, this new book may have
the same effect on you.