We spend too much precious time and energy managing perception
and creating carefully edited versions of ourselves to show to the
world. As hard as we try, we can?t seem to turn off the tapes that
fill our heads with messages like ?Never good enough!? and ?What
will people think??
Why? What fuels this unattainable need to look like we always
have it all together? At first glance we might think it?s because
we admire perfection, but that?s not the case. We are actually the
most attracted to people we consider to be authentic and
down-to-earth. We love people who are ?real??we?re drawn to those
who both embrace their imperfections and radiate
There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us
that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate.
Everywhere we turn there are messages that tell us who, what, and
how we?re supposed to be. So we learn to hide our struggles and
protect ourselves from shame, judgment, criticism, and blame by
seeking safety in pretending and perfection.
Based on seven years of groundbreaking research and hundreds of
interviews, I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn?t) shines
a long-overdue light on an important truth: Our imperfections are
what connect us to one another and to our humanity. Our
vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to
keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that we?re all in
Dr. Brown writes, ?We need our lives back. It?s time to reclaim
the gifts of imperfection?the courage to be real, the compassion we
need to love ourselves and others, and the connection that gives
true purpose and meaning to life. These are the gifts that bring
love, laughter, gratitude, empathy, and joy into our lives.?