272 pages, 9.19 × 7.34 × 0.59 in
August 14, 2012
The following ISBNs are associated with this title:
ISBN - 10: 0770436552
ISBN - 13: 9780770436551
About the Book
This newly revised and updated edition of shows parents how to build stronger bridges of communication with their children, break the destructive cycles of guilt and blame that occur in parent-teen power struggles, and work toward greater mutual respect with their adolescents.
Read from the Book
How Do You Know When Your Child Becomes a Teen?When Your Child No Longer Thinks You Hang the StarsWhen Sally became a teenager, her mother thought Sally had become a different person. She dressed differently, had different friends, became a rock fan, and started playing the guitar. Underneath, she was still Sally, but now she had taken on a new role: Sally “the rocker.” A friend asked Sally’s mother, “When Sally was little, was she interested in superheroes? Did she ask you to sew a ‘W’ on her leotard so she could pretend to be Wonder Woman? Did you think it was cute?” Mom smiled as she remembered how cute she thought Sally was at this stage of her life. Her friend continued, “Could you think of her that way now? Imagine that she’s put on the suit of a rocker. That’s what is going on; she’s trying on an identity, but the identity is not who Sally really is.”It may help to remember how different your personality is now from the way you were as a teen. Even though living with your adolescent child may seem to last forever, adolescence is just a brief part of the growing process. It is by no means the final destination.The Dream Teen and the Normal TeenIn our workshops on parenting teenagers, we challenge preconceived notions about teens through an activity called “Draw a Teen” (from the manual: Teaching Parenting the Positive Discipline Way by Lynn Lott and Jane Nelsen, 6th edition, 2008). We form two groups. One group is asked to draw a “normal” teen—how most parents see th
Table of Contents
Chapter 1 How Do You Know When Your Child Becomes a
Chapter 2 Whose Side Are You On?
Chapter 3 What Is Your Parenting Style?
Chapter 4 How Can Mistakes Be Wonderful Opportunities to
Chapter 5 How Do You Motivate Teens?
Chapter 6 Does Your Teenager Hear Anything You Say?
Chapter 7 Do Family Meetings Work with Teenagers?
Chapter 8 How Can You Spend Special Time with Your Teen?
Chapter 9 Are You Enabling or Empowering Your Teen?
Chapter 10 Are You Teaching Life Skills?
Chapter 11 How Wired Are Your Teens?
Chapter 12 Why Do They Act Like That?
Chapter 13 What Do You Do About Scary Behavior?
Chapter 14 Are Your Unresolved Teen Issues Getting in Your
From the Publisher
A Positive Approach To Raising Happy, Healthy and Mature Teenagers
Adolescence can be a time of great stress and turmoil—not only for kids going through it, but for their parents as well. It’s normal for teens to explore a new sense of freedom and to redefine the ways in which they relate to their parents, and that process can sometimes leave parents feeling powerless, alienated, or excluded from their children’s lives. These effects can be magnified even further in this modern age of social networks, cell phones, and constant digital distraction.
This newly revised and updated edition of Positive Discipline for Teenagers shows parents how to build stronger bridges of communication with their children, break the destructive cycles of guilt and blame that occur in parent-teen power struggles, and work toward greater mutual respect with their adolescents. At the core of the Positive Discipline approach is the understanding that teens still need their parents, just in different ways--and by better understanding who their teens really are, parents can learn to encourage both their teens and themselves, and instill good judgment without being judgmental. The methods in this book work to build vital social and life skills through encouragement and empowerment--not punishment. Truly effective parenting is about connection before correction.
Over the years, millions of parents have come to trust Jane Nelsen’s classic Positive Discipline series for its consistent, commonsense approach to raising happy, responsible kids. This new edition is filled with proven, effective methods for coping with such parenting challenges as:
-Fostering truly honest discussions with your teen
-Helping your teen handle the online world
-Turning mistakes into opportunities
-Keeping your sanity while raising your teen—and making sure your own teenage issues aren’t weighing you down
-Teaching your teen how to pursue the goal that make them happy…and a few that make you happy too (like chores)
-Making sure you’re on your teen’s side, and that they know that
-Avoiding the pitfalls of excessive control and excessive permissiveness
About the Author
JANE NELSEN, Ed.D., is a licensed family and child therapist and an internationally known speaker LYNN LOTT, M.A., M.F.T., is a therapist and author of more than 18 books and manuals including four in the Positive Discipline series.