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Swing Low: A Life

by Miriam Toews

Knopf Canada | March 1, 2005 | Trade Paperback

Swing Low: A Life is rated 4.8333 out of 5 by 6.
After her father took his own life in 1998, Miriam Toews decided to face her confusion and pain straight on. In writing her father’s memoir, she was motivated by two primary goals: For her own sake, she needed to understand, or at least accept, her father’s final decision. For her father’s sake, she needed to honour him, to elucidate his life and to demonstrate its worth.

Apart from its brief prologue and epilogue, Swing Low is written entirely from Mel Toews’s perspective. Miriam Toews has her father tell his story from bed as he waits in a Steinbach hospital to be transferred to a psychiatric facility in Winnipeg. Mel turns to writing to make sense of his condition, to review his life in the hope of seeing it more clearly. He remembers himself as an anxious child, the son of a despondent father and an alcoholic mother, who never once made him feel loved. At seventeen he was diagnosed with manic depression (now known as bipolar disorder). His psychiatrist’s predictions were grim: Mel shouldn’t count on marrying, starting a family or holding down a job. With great courage and determination, Mel went on to do all three: he married his childhood sweetheart, had two happy daughters and was a highly respected and beloved teacher for forty years.

Although Mel was able to keep his disorder hidden from the community, his family frequently witnessed his unravelling. Over the years this schism between his public and private life grew wider. An outgoing and tireless trailblazer at school, he often collapsed into silence and despair at home. Ironically, in trying to win his family’s love through hard work and accomplishments, he deprived them of what they yearned for most: his presence, his voice. Once he retired from teaching – "the daily ritual of stepping outside himself" – Mel lost his creative outlet and, with it, his hope.

In the Globe and Mail, author Moira Farr described Swing Low as "audacious, original and profoundly moving." She added: "Getting into the head of your own father – your own largely silent, mentally ill father, who killed himself – has to be a kind of literary high-wire act that few would dare to try.… Healing is a likely outcome of a book imbued with the righteous anger, compassion and humanity of Swing Low."

Format: Trade Paperback

Dimensions: 240 pages, 8 × 5.21 × 0.63 in

Published: March 1, 2005

Publisher: Knopf Canada

Language: English

The following ISBNs are associated with this title:

ISBN - 10: 0676977189

ISBN - 13: 9780676977189

Found in: Biography and Memoir

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Rated 5 out of 5 by from Absolutely Memorable An unforgettable and tenderly written account about her father’s life and death. Miriam Toews writes this story from Mel Toews’ (her father’s) perspective. Tenderly crafted together from her memory, a daughter’s love and with the many written notes and journals her father created throughout his experience. The reader is truly drawn into Mel’s world; a world full of hope, confusion, sadness and ultimately love. It is a clear window into A Life affected by mental illness – a man who despite this illness, was able to raise a family, build a home and become a pillar in his community. The story pulls you into so many different directions and is full of emotional highs and lows. This is a must-read for anyone, especially those caring for an ill parent or family member. I highly recommend it.
Date published: 2006-05-31
Rated 5 out of 5 by from The Reality of Depression Swing Low gives depression it's due and respect. Most important and remarkable to me is her assertation of how much a person with depression can and does accomplish instead of concentrating on the "weaknesses", like so many people do. I've read other books on depression to help me understand my mothers depression and I found that so many of them are lacking; an upbeat "beat your blues" type, or the "stick it out" and you'll get better type. I'm so thankful she wrote this book, and I hope it gets the attention and readership that it deserves.
Date published: 2001-01-02
Rated 5 out of 5 by from A contrast of depression A beautifully written novel, I've spent alot of time thinking about depression, and I love how Toews has captured the two lifestyles of her father, but ultimately, how they are the same.
Date published: 2000-12-16
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Not Depressed I picked this book up without having dealt with depression, or having someone close suffer from depression. Just to have a good book to read. And it is. Honestly and craftily written, it grabbed me from the first few pages. I found myself swinging back and forth between laughing and wanting to cry, eventually doing both at the same time.
Date published: 2000-10-17
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Swing Low If you know someone who suffers from depression or you suffer from it yourself, you should read this book. This book is a beautiful memoir written by Toews about her father's life. He suffered from depression all his life and at the end of it he felt like he had done nothing exceptional. Miriam Toews proves her father wrong with this wonderful book that will make you cry.
Date published: 2000-08-15
Rated 5 out of 5 by from True to life page-turner. I felt this was a fairly accurate description coming from someone who grew up in a home where a parent suffered from manic depression. I could identify with many of the things that went on in the home. I wondered what kind of impact reading this would have on me. The impact surprised me...it was very freeing. I experience freedom from focusing on the "rules and regulations" of a conservative mennonite background. I have grown increasingly more aware of what God's grace really is. My focus needs to be on God and His love for me, rather than all the rules that we box our lives into. For if we box our lives, neatly into a set of rules, we lose sight of God's love and incredible grace. This is what I came away with from this book.
Date published: 2000-08-11

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Swing Low: A Life

by Miriam Toews

Format: Trade Paperback

Dimensions: 240 pages, 8 × 5.21 × 0.63 in

Published: March 1, 2005

Publisher: Knopf Canada

Language: English

The following ISBNs are associated with this title:

ISBN - 10: 0676977189

ISBN - 13: 9780676977189

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Prologue "Nothing accomplished." I don’t know what my father meant when he said it. I had asked him, the day before he took his own life, what he was thinking about, and that was his reply. Two hopeless words, spoken in a whisper by a man who felt he had failed on every level. This book is my attempt to prove my father wrong. At the age of seventeen, he was diagnosed as suffering from the mental illness known then as manic depression and today as bipolar disorder. His method of self-defence, along with the large amounts of medication he was prescribed, was silence. And maybe, for him, it worked. He managed, against the advice of his psychiatrist, to get married, to rear a family, and to teach elementary school for more than forty years. His psychiatrist warned him, way back in the early 1950s, that the odds of living a normal life were heavily stacked against him. In fact, Dad’s life fell into the typical pattern of our small town of Steinbach, Manitoba: an ordered existence of work, church, and family, with the occasional inevitable upsets along the way. His managing to live an ordinary life was an extraordinary accomplishment. It is a measure of his strength, his high (some would say impossibly high) personal standards, and his extreme self-discipline that he managed to stay sane, organized, and ordinary for so long. A year or so after his retirement, my parents went out for a drive in the countryside around town. “Well,” said my father aft
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After her father took his own life in 1998, Miriam Toews decided to face her confusion and pain straight on. In writing her father’s memoir, she was motivated by two primary goals: For her own sake, she needed to understand, or at least accept, her father’s final decision. For her father’s sake, she needed to honour him, to elucidate his life and to demonstrate its worth.

Apart from its brief prologue and epilogue, Swing Low is written entirely from Mel Toews’s perspective. Miriam Toews has her father tell his story from bed as he waits in a Steinbach hospital to be transferred to a psychiatric facility in Winnipeg. Mel turns to writing to make sense of his condition, to review his life in the hope of seeing it more clearly. He remembers himself as an anxious child, the son of a despondent father and an alcoholic mother, who never once made him feel loved. At seventeen he was diagnosed with manic depression (now known as bipolar disorder). His psychiatrist’s predictions were grim: Mel shouldn’t count on marrying, starting a family or holding down a job. With great courage and determination, Mel went on to do all three: he married his childhood sweetheart, had two happy daughters and was a highly respected and beloved teacher for forty years.

Although Mel was able to keep his disorder hidden from the community, his family frequently witnessed his unravelling. Over the years this schism between his public and private life grew wider. An outgoing and tireless trailblazer at school, he often collapsed into silence and despair at home. Ironically, in trying to win his family’s love through hard work and accomplishments, he deprived them of what they yearned for most: his presence, his voice. Once he retired from teaching – "the daily ritual of stepping outside himself" – Mel lost his creative outlet and, with it, his hope.

In the Globe and Mail, author Moira Farr described Swing Low as "audacious, original and profoundly moving." She added: "Getting into the head of your own father – your own largely silent, mentally ill father, who killed himself – has to be a kind of literary high-wire act that few would dare to try.… Healing is a likely outcome of a book imbued with the righteous anger, compassion and humanity of Swing Low."

About the Author

Miriam Toews (pronounced tâves) was born in 1964 in the small Mennonite town of Steinbach, Manitoba. She left Steinbach at eighteen, living in Montreal and London and touring Europe before coming back to Manitoba, where she earned her B.A. in film studies at the University of Manitoba. Later she packed up with her children and partner and moved to Halifax to attend the University of King’s College, where she received her bachelor’s degree in journalism. Upon returning to Winnipeg with her family in 1991, she freelanced at the CBC, making radio documentaries. When her youngest daughter started nursery school, Toews decided it was time to try writing a novel. Miriam Toews’s first novel, Summer of My Amazing Luck , was published in 1996; it was nominated for the Stephen Leacock Memorial Medal for Humour and won the John Hirsch Award. Published two years later, her second novel, A Boy of Good Breeding , won the McNally Robinson Book of the Year Award. Her most recent novel is the bestselling A Complicated Kindness , which was a Giller Prize finalist and won the Governor General’s Literary Award for Fiction. Toews has also written for the CBC, This American Life (on National Public Radio), Saturday Night , Geist , Canadian Geographic , Open Letters and The New York Times Magazine , and she has won the National Magazine Award Gold Medal for Humour. Published in 2000, Swing Low: A Life won both the McNally Robinson Book of the Year Award and the Alexande
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Editorial Reviews

“Audacious, original and profoundly moving … A deeply affecting work ….This is a document for the living, and its virtues are more than literary; healing is a likely outcome of a book imbued with the righteous anger, compassion and humanity of Swing Low.”
—The Globe and Mail

“ A fine, fluent book teeming with anecdote and incident, echoes and images ….Swing Low is a detailed, textured portrait, not just of human life, but of a community, of small-town, Mennonite Manitoba.”
—Quill &Quire

“Toews ’ novelistic skills (the award-winning comic novels Summer of My Amazing Luck and A Boy of Good Breeding) are richly apparent in her evocative characterizations and in the deft drama of the narrative ….A profoundly affecting book.”
—Toronto Star

Bookclub Guide

1. Swing Low is a portrait of a human life but also of a small town at a particular point in time. What factors do you think may have exacerbated Mel’s struggle with bipolar disorder? Consider, for instance, traditional gender roles, aspects of the Mennonite religion and the treatment of mental illness.

2. At the beginning of the book, Mel describes his writing as a "series of jerky stills, courtesy of my renegade mind." How would you describe the symptoms of bipolar disorder based on Mel’s account of his life and inner world? How is his mental state occasionally revealed in the way in which he expresses himself?

3. What role does the idea of home play in Swing Low? Consider, for instance, Mel’s recurring dream, his feelings toward his pink house, his memories from childhood and his description of depression as "not feeling at home in this world."

4. What is the author’s role in the book outside of the brief prologue and epilogue? How would you characterize the relationship between Miriam and her father based on Mel’s account?

5. For those who have read A Complicated Kindness, what similarities and differences do you see between Mel and Ray? Elvira and Trudie? Steinbach and East Village?

6. What is the relationship between loss and knowledge in both Swing Low and A Complicated Kindness? Discuss the ways in which Mel Toews and Nomi Nickel value words. How do they use humour?

7. What significance do flowers, sunshine and travel have in the book? How does Mel occasionally move toward freedom? How does he resist it? Discuss the moments in which Elvira inspires him with her courage and high spirits.

8. Mel writes: "I vacillated wildly between thinking everything mattered, that every word, every action, every task was important, to thinking that nothing at all mattered, that everything was futile." Also: "I felt there was no hope for the world, that evil would inevitably triumph over good, and that there was, therefore, no point in striving for goodness. And yet I also felt that the struggle to be good was the purpose of life. Certainly of my life." What contradictions does Mel negotiate throughout his life?

9. "I’m sixty-two years old and still wanting my mother to hold me in her arms just once and tell me that she loves me." Does Mel ever forgive his mother? Does he at least achieve some measure of understanding her?

10. Swing Low has been called a “genre-bender.” What qualities of the book strike you as characteristic of fiction, of creative non-fiction and of traditional biography?