How many times have you said to yourself, "This is the last
wedding I go to alone"? Are you at a loss for answers when your
friends and family suggest that "your problem is you're too picky"
or "you're not trying hard enough"? Does it seem like all the good
ones are taken? Whether you are actively looking for a mate or have
decided that marriage isn't what you want right now,
psychotherapists Xavier Amador and Judith Kiersky can help you deal
with the problems that come from being single in a couples'
Drawing on years of clinical experience and research with both
single and married clients, Amador and Kiersky have identified the
five common stumbling blocks that can get in the way of enjoying
singlehood. Taking a careful look at the obstacles that cause
single people the most pain, the authors have developed a four-step
plan to help you achieve balance and happiness—whether or
not you stay single. And the first and most challenging step is to
stop buying into old-fashioned ideas about singlehood and
What's making you unhappy isn't being single but the false
assumptions that we all hold about marriage—what the
authors call cultural and personal "marriage scripts." Cultural
scripts equate matrimony with maturity, morality, and success and
serve to make single people feel like second-class citizens.
Personal marriage scripts, the subconscious expectations each of us
has about marriage, get in the way of forming healthy, satisfying,
and lasting relationships.
Combining clear advice and vivid case examples, Being Single
in a Couples' World gives all of us the tools we need to find
our way to a healthier self and more meaningful relationships.