In the tradition of the perennial bestseller "I'm OK, You're OK,"
noted author Brad Gooch offers single and coupled gay men a
provocative, sophisticated, and inspirational guide that addresses
the big issues of love, romance, and being alone. Part memoir, part
self-help, "Finding the Boyfriend Within" is a remarkably practical
and helpful guide in the quest for self-discovery for the thousands
of gay men who despair of ever being in a committed relationship.
"Why don't I have a boyfriend?"
This was Brad Gooch's own question, which he'd frequently heard
echoed by others in his many conversations with friends. Then one
night he came home to his unkempt, empty apartment and paused for a
moment to consider the clutter and casual chaos that filled his
space. He imagined transforming it for a romantic encounter, and in
an experiment, he cleaned the apartment, lit a candle, prepared
himself a cup of warm milk, put on some soothing music, and drifted
off to a deep and peaceful sleep. He was still alone, of course,
but he had treated himself as though it was a special occasion.
This was his first date with "the boyfriend within."
Now he chronicles his courtship of the inner figure who is both
our ideal lover and the self we must nurture and grow, to help us
prepare for and sustain a real-life relationship. Filled with
anecdotes, romantic advice, problem-solving suggestions, and humor
-- as well as wisdom from both the East and West -- "Finding the
Boyfriend Within" offers simple self-awareness exercises toward the
respect, happiness, and love that come first, and most enduringly,
from within. Chapters begin with a thought-provoking question whose
answers will help readersdiscover their own boyfriend within: a
daily touchstone that can help transform all friendships, love
affairs, and long-term relationships. Gooch challenges the reader
to get in touch with the inner self and to understand that in many
ways our relationship to that inner self -- the boyfriend within --
is our primary relationship. By getting to know that boyfriend
within, and by coming to understand his needs, then we are more
likely to be a whole person, content within ourselves, and
ultimately more receptive to finding an actual boyfriend.
"Finding the Boyfriend Within" is sure to garner a positive
response for any gay man who desires a sense of connection and
commitment in these increasingly isolated times.