Children Come First: Mediation, Not Litigation When Marriage Ends by Howard H. IrvingChildren Come First: Mediation, Not Litigation When Marriage Ends by Howard H. Irving

Children Come First: Mediation, Not Litigation When Marriage Ends

byHoward H. Irving

Paperback | January 10, 2011

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For three decades Dr. Howard H. Irving has championed the use of divorce mediation outside the adversarial court system to save couples and their children from the bitter legacy of legal wrangling and winner-takes-all custody battles. Now, calling on his vast experience mediating more than 2,000 cases, Irving has written Children Come First directly for couples contemplating or undergoing divorce.

In this book the author takes a tripartite approach that points out:

  • the dangers of the adversarial approach to divorce,
  • the benefits of divorce mediation, and
  • how parents can put their children first during and after their divorce.

Children Come First is written in a reader-friendly style with case studies, charts, and diagrams, as well as illustrations from the author's renowned practice. Ultimately, this book takes parents through the process of building a shared parenting plan that places their children's interests uppermost while still addressing the parents' unique situations and needs.

Howard H. Irving is internationally recognized as the co-founder of therapeutic family mediation and is a founding member and past president of Family Mediation Canada. His previous books include Therapeutic Family Mediation, and he is professor emeritus at the University of Toronto's Faculties of Social Work and Law. Dr. Irving lives ...
Title:Children Come First: Mediation, Not Litigation When Marriage EndsFormat:PaperbackDimensions:232 pages, 8.5 × 5.5 × 0.4 inPublished:January 10, 2011Publisher:DundurnLanguage:English

The following ISBNs are associated with this title:

ISBN - 10:155488795X

ISBN - 13:9781554887958

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Rated 5 out of 5 by from Really saved my kids! Dr. Irving's book was a real lifesaver; my ex-wife and I used his expertise and advice in order to achieve a divorce that did not make our children into the usual victims - due to the legal system. Packed with examples from his clinical practice and even many custody plans, this book is a must-have if you are going through a separation or divorce, yet truly value your kids above all.
Date published: 2011-03-26
Rated 5 out of 5 by from A must read - really helpful The author cites dozens of real (and successful) divorce mediation cases that the reader can relate to. Dr. Irving's book is a 'game-changer' because it makes us re-think the adversarial system (lawyers, judges, fighting, revenge) that causes so much pain and anxiety during a divorce, and instead proposes a more rational outside-the-courtroom approach where parents come together and reach agreements that are in the best interest of their children.
Date published: 2011-02-12