320 pages, 8.44 × 5.5 × 1 in
September 4, 2002
Simon & Schuster
The following ISBNs are associated with this title:
ISBN - 10: 0684873257
ISBN - 13: 9780684873251
Read from the Book
Chapter One: The Not-So-Great EscapePeople who are unhappy in their marriages often speak of feeling trapped. They yearn to be free from the tension, loneliness, constant arguments, or deafening silence but worry that divorce may not be the right decision. After all, they took their marital vows seriously. They're not trying to hurt their spouses. They don't want to hurt their children. They panic at the thought of being alone. They worry about finances. They fear the unknown.Yet the idea of living in a loveless marriage starts to feel like a death sentence. Over time, many of these people slowly convince themselves that the benefits of leaving their marriages vastly outweigh the benefits of staying. They tell themselves, "Kids are resilient, they'll bounce back," or "In the long run, this will be better for everyone." It's not until they embark on the path to divorce and begin to piece their lives back together that they discover the real price they paid for their so-called "freedom." Regretfully, this painful discovery comes too late. They have fallen into the divorce trap.Dear Michele,I was married for eighteen years and we have three terrific children. I instigated a divorce. It was final six months ago. Now, I am having second thoughts.I never imagined that I would feel this way because, for years, I was so miserable in my marriage. I thought that once I got out, we all would be better off. At first, it was a relief to get away from all the arguing. However, I could not
Table of Contents
PART 1 THE DIVORCE TRAP
- The Not-So-Great Escape
PART 2 SEVEN STEPS TO SAVING YOUR MARRIAGE
- Step Number One - Start with a Beginner's Mind
- Step Number Two - Know What You Want
- Step Number Three - Ask for What You Want
- Step Number Four - Stop Going Down Cheeseless Tunnels
- Step Number Five - Experiment and Monitor Results
- Step Number Six - Take Stock
- Step Number Seven - Keeping the Positive Changes Going
- Pulling It All Together
PART 3 COMMON DILEMMAS, UNIQUE SOLUTIONS
- Dealing with the Depressed Spouse
- Surviving His Midlife Crisis
- Overcoming Passion Meltdown
- Expect the Impossible
From the Publisher
Michele Weiner-Davis offers an empowering and encouraging guide for revitalizing marriage and building stronger, more loving bonds.
Michele Weiner-Davis goes beyond her marriage-saving bestseller, Divorce Busting, with this empowering and encouraging guide for revitalizing marriage and building stronger, more loving bonds. In a down-to-earth style that is free of psychobabble, Weiner-Davis outlines a realistic, solution-oriented seven-step program for managing marital problems, which, when left unchecked, can drain the life out of a relationship. Using revealing anecdotes and in-depth case studies, she illustrates practical ways for marriage partners to
-avoid the “divorce trap”
-identify specific marriage-saving goals
-move beyond ineffective, hurtful ways of interacting
-become an expert on “doing what works”
-overcome infidelity, Internet obsessions, depression, sexual problems, and midlife crises
-get your marriage back on track—and keep it there
Rescue your marriage with the proven techniques of The Divorce Remedy—sound, sensible advice from a renowned relationship expert!
About the Author
Michele Weiner Davis
has appeared as a regular guest on Oprah, 48 Hours,
show, and CBS This Morning.
She is the author of the bestseller Divorce Busting
and of Getting Through to the Man You Love
and Change Your Life and Everyone in It,
and coauthor of In Search of Solutions.
A marriage therapist in private practice, Weiner Davis lives outside Chicago with her husband and two children.
Pat Love author of The Truth about Love Poignant, powerful, practical, full of hope. Michele Weiner Davis lives up to her reputation as one of the foremost marriage educators of our culture.