Putting Children First: A Guide for Parents Breaking Up by Hanna McDonoughPutting Children First: A Guide for Parents Breaking Up by Hanna McDonough

Putting Children First: A Guide for Parents Breaking Up

byHanna McDonough, Christina Bartha

Paperback | September 18, 1999

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This well researched book illustrates the importance of co-operation in divorce. The authors, experts in the field, present compelling evidence that when separating parents work through their differences, their children remain emotionally connected to both and therefore experience only temporary adjustment problems. However, they also show that prolonged conflict is apt to result in long-term emotional and behavioural problems for the children. This book describes how children often become trophies, pawns, messengers, and mediators when caught in bitter family disputes.

This book's child-centred approach helps parents to avoid and/or minimize conflict by transforming themselves from antagonistic spouses into co-operative parents. McDonough and Bartha use their expertise in counselling families to offer a step-by-step guide to the emotional work parents must do to successfully re-negotiate the practical and emotional aspects of their relationship.

By combining sophisticated clinical know-how with the latest research and illustrating with clear, easy-to-read vignettes, this book teaches parents how to manage themselves and their children to achieve a successful divorce.

Hanna McDonough is Chief Social Worker in the Family Court Clinic at the Clarke Division, and Lecturer in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Toronto. Christina Bartha is Chief Social Worker in the Mood and Anxiety Disorders Program, Centre for Addiction and Mental Health, at the Clarke Division.
Title:Putting Children First: A Guide for Parents Breaking UpFormat:PaperbackProduct dimensions:192 pages, 8.98 × 5.97 × 0.57 inShipping dimensions:8.98 × 5.97 × 0.57 inPublished:September 18, 1999Publisher:University of Toronto Press, Scholarly Publishing DivisionLanguage:English

The following ISBNs are associated with this title:

ISBN - 10:0802080642

ISBN - 13:9780802080646


Rated 4 out of 5 by from Excellent, Insightful and Practical A must read for anyone planning to separate or in the early stages of separation and divorce. One of the few books I have read that takes a balanced look at the impact divorce has on each parent and the negative and positive behaviour of both parents on the emotional well-being of their children. McDonough and Bartha are two authors that really do understand the impact divorce has on both parents and the children. Spousal abuse, physical and emotional, is very real. So is Parental (or as they refer to it as child) Alienation Syndrome. Putting the children first means finding workable solutions, not litigation. A small book and,thus, it tends to simplify some aspects such as why fathers stop fighting to be part of their children's lives(legal costs/lawyers and the 'justice' system will ultimately bankrupt middle class people).
Date published: 2000-02-22
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Finally an Honest and Practical Guide This book for a lay person like me trying to understand in a non academic language the resolutions to achieve the right atmosphere to raise emotionally healthy children admist the struggles of separation was perfect. I think because the authors McDonough & Bartha work daily with actual cases speak in a common sense language and intersperse throughout the book real case experiences that spoke to me how important it is to communicate with one's children because"a child is vulnerable, a work in progress" This is a unique & essential survival guide for separated parents with children that delivers on issues of "staying a parental team" by creating your own parenting plan and offers an excellent resource appendix.
Date published: 1999-11-18

From Our Editors

A dissolved marriage can be hard for the children, and this book is a guide to helping the kids you care about through the hard transitions of divorce and separation. Featuring advice on access and time-sharing, talking to the children about the divorce, coping with the loss of full-time parenting and other crucial issues, this is a guide that has been written by two of our nation's leading experts in family-based social work. Putting Children First is a wonderful book, and one that can help you do the most for your kids.