A History Of A Pedophile's Wife: Memoir Of A Canadian Teacher And Writer by Eleanor CowanA History Of A Pedophile's Wife: Memoir Of A Canadian Teacher And Writer by Eleanor Cowan

A History Of A Pedophile's Wife: Memoir Of A Canadian Teacher And Writer

byEleanor Cowan

Paperback | April 1, 2015

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"How could a mother not know?" This is a question often asked about families where incest has occurred, and Eleanor Cowan's gripping memoir, A History of a Pedophile's Wife, steps up with answers that are courageous and heartbreaking. Cowan grew up in Quebec in the 1950s, in a large Roman Catholic family with a lethal mix of violence, addiction, and toxic pedagogy. Cowan details the dance of a survivor moving into adulthood: one step forward towards freedom, two steps back into conditioning, until a tipping point of consciousness is reached. As her memoir makes clear, that tipping point is not just a critical mass of abuse or even a touchstone of personal growth. It requires an enlarged and feminist context, permission to know the unknowable, and language to name the unspeakable.Cowan's book is a primer in compassion, especially for those of us who were abused as children and left to struggle with legacies of distrust and rage towards our mothers. It's a vivid indictment of a mother-blaming culture that protects the very institutions that perpetuate child abuse.
Eleanor Cowan is a Canadian teacher, writer and life skills educator.
Title:A History Of A Pedophile's Wife: Memoir Of A Canadian Teacher And WriterFormat:PaperbackDimensions:200 pages, 9 × 6 × 0.6 inPublished:April 1, 2015Publisher:BookBabyLanguage:English

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ISBN - 10:1631927159

ISBN - 13:9781631927157


Rated 5 out of 5 by from Riveting Memoir Professor and author Richard Dawkins has claimed that forcing religion on children without questioning its merits is as bad as child abuse. He said this long after it would have been of any use to Eleanor Cowan, the brave protagonist of A History of a Pedophile’s Wife, yet these words could have been written for her. The author along with her mother were both victims of the Catholic Church and its doctrines. Eleanor’s mother had child after child regardless of what was in her best interests while Eleanor was traumatized by religious notions that were far too abstract for a child to make sense of. Along with having two parents who were emotionally and physically abusive, Eleanor was vulnerable when it came to choosing a husband. It’s little wonder she pushes aside her initial concerns about Stan and winds up with a dangerous, abusive man. I couldn’t put this book down as I went along with the author on her painful journey to eventually come out on the other side, victorious. Not just surviving but thriving. You can tell from this memoir that Eleanor Cowan has a big heart. There is much to learn from this book in overcoming life’s hardships regardless if the reader is a victim of abuse.
Date published: 2018-01-23
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Difficult Story About Serious Issue A grueling memoir about a woman's childhood fraught with parental neglect, possible sexual abuse and rigid Roman Catholic religion in the 1950s. Cowan shows how this led her to make repeated bad choices, including marriage to a pedophile. But in the end, she shows that if you come to recognize the problem and deal with it honestly, there is hope and the chance for a good life.
Date published: 2017-09-15
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Breaking the Cycle A History of a Pedophile's Wife is a riveting read. In fact, I devoured it in 2 sittings. Not only does Eleanor Cowan answer that age old question, " Where was the mother when all this was happening?", she does so with exquisite eloquence. Just facing up to the horror of her realization was courageous enough in itself. Then she found the inner strength to embark on the long, and fairly uncharted, road to recovery for herself, and for her family. This is more than many are capable of. Now she has gone the extra mile, and bravely and candidly shared her story. This is an extremely powerful example for those in the same situation. It also sheds an invaluable light for all of us on this still very taboo subject, and the individuals caught up in it. To me this is nothing short of heroic. Brava Eleanor Cowan! And thank you.
Date published: 2015-10-05