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Battle Hymn Of The Tiger Mother

byAmy Chua

Paperback | December 27, 2011

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“[E]ntertaining, bracingly honest and, yes, thought-provoking.”The New York Times Book Review

At once provocative and laugh-out-loud funny, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother ignited a global parenting debate with its story of one mother’s journey in strict parenting.  Amy Chua argues that Western parenting tries to respect and nurture children’s individuality, while Chinese parents typically believe that arming children with skills, strong work habits, and inner confidence prepares them best for the future.   Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother chronicles Chua’s iron-willed decision to raise her daughters, Sophia and Lulu, the Chinese way – and the remarkable, sometimes heartbreaking  results her choice inspires.  Achingly honest and profoundly challenging, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is one of the most talked-about books of our times.

“Few have the guts to parent in public. Amy [Chua]'s memoir is brutally honest, and her willingness to share her struggles is a gift. Whether or not you agree with her priorities and approach, she should be applauded for raising these issues with a thoughtful, humorous and authentic voice.” –Time Magazine

“[A] riveting read… Chua's story is far more complicated and interesting than what you've heard to date -- and well worth picking up… I guarantee that if you read the book, there'll undoubtedly be places where you'll cringe in recognition, and others where you'll tear up in empathy.” –San Francisco Chronicle

Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother hit the parenting hot button, but also a lot more, including people's complicated feelings about ambition, intellectualism, high culture, the Ivy League, strong women and America's standing in a world where China is ascendant. Chua's conviction that hard work leads to inner confidence is a resonant one.” –Chicago Tribune

“Readers will alternately gasp at and empathize with Chua's struggles and aspirations, all the while enjoying her writing, which, like her kid-rearing philosophy, is brisk, lively and no-holds-barred. This memoir raises intriguing, sometimes uncomfortable questions about love, pride, ambition, achievement and self-worth that will resonate among success-obsessed parents… Readers of all stripes will respond to [Battle Hymn of the] Tiger Mother.” –The Washington Post
Amy Chua is the John M. Duff Professor of Law at Yale Law School. Her most recent book (co-authored with Jed Rubenfeld) is The Triple Package: How Three Unlikely Traits Explain the Rise and Fall of Cultural Groups in America, published in February 2014 by The Penguin Press. Chua's first book, World on Fire, was a New York Times bestsel...
Title:Battle Hymn Of The Tiger MotherFormat:PaperbackDimensions:256 pages, 8.24 × 5.09 × 0.69 inPublished:December 27, 2011Publisher:Penguin Publishing GroupLanguage:English

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Rated 5 out of 5 by from Everyone relax; it's supposed to be satirical As a Canadian-born Asian female, I found this book to be hilarious and in many ways reminiscent of my upbringing. I think that too many people interpret this book literally, criticizing Amy for her strict parenting, when it's intended to be over-the-top, extreme, and humorous. While I'm sure there is a lot of truth in this narrative, I think it's been intentionally exaggerated to be funny and a little self-deprecating even. I thoroughly enjoyed this book - it was so much fun to read; it is not, however, a parenting book. Rather it is a story of one mom's experience, and if you keep that in mind and take its stories with a grain of salt, it's such an enjoyable read.
Date published: 2018-03-06
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Honesty and painful This made me reflect on a lot of ways Amy's parenting style was very similar to my upbringing and parts of it was truly hilarious. As the book moved on, I empathized with Amy's needs and reflecting on my own "tiger" mother and why the children are treated pretty miserably. Towards the end, I sided with how there are ways to encourage growth and challenge confrontation without threatening the wellbeing of your child. I am glad that this story was written, but by no means do I think verbally and physically assaulting your children is worthwhile just so you can say they went to Harvard or Yale.
Date published: 2017-12-06
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Insightful and Honest A story of how an ambitious parent learned to lighten up (a little). This was a very honest, and amusing, book that opened a window for me on a way of bringing up children that was different from my experience. It helped me to better understand the ambition in some families to rise economically and socially - and what they may do to accomplish these goals. And the authors experience of letting go of this ambition, for the sake of her youngest daughter, was fascinating to me. It was a great read, and a far better book than was portrayed in the media.
Date published: 2017-01-28
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Wow! A good insight into Chinese parenting and gave me, as the child of Chinese immigrants, an insight into Chinese culture and the stereotypes attributed to me (my upbringing was definitely not as strict as the upbringing Chua practices with her daughters). May be shocking to some, but still truthful.
Date published: 2016-11-22
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Interesting, but not exceptional look at parenting As someone who grew up in a Chinese household in America, I can understand why the term "tiger mom" exists. I also understand both the positive and negative impacts on children who grow up with this type of parenting. Interesting read, but nothing that I didn't know already. The book is not as cohesive as I would like, and the confessional style takes some getting used to.
Date published: 2016-11-14
Rated 4 out of 5 by from . Lots of showing off but great read nonetheless..
Date published: 2014-11-06
Rated 1 out of 5 by from Not a parenting book I mistakenly thought this was a parenting book its not, I initially picked it up because so many modern parenting books have quoted ?tiger mom? in a negative way I was intrigued. We are an international student host family so I did enjoy some of the west vs. east comparisons but all the negative publicity was totally justified the book itself doesn?t read cohesively, it?s not a story or a teaching book with morals, values, facts and proof. It?s simply this one woman?s confessional journal, I though all the seemingly random story telling was going to lead to a conclusion but about half way through I realized it wasn?t and the book was essentially a point less story, I finished it anyways and it was point less, it didn?t even have an ending the chapters just became less engaging as the writer fizzled out and eventually the words just stopped. Hmm very similar to a Chinese movie if you?ve ever watched one the credits just kind of appear at some point, there?s not really an end like we have in western films. All in all a disappointing read.
Date published: 2014-09-09
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Ultimately, any good parent would want the best for their kid. Right? I'm finally working through the books I've read but neglected to review, and this one comes in 9 months after. The controversy that erupted after the publication of this parenting memoir made this a buzz book everywhere. There is always a want to know and learn from those who have “lived and survived to tell it,” especially with parenting, because god knows that's the hardest job of all (I say this not from experience but from observation). But to have someone come out and speak about parenting from a racial, cultural, and traditional perspective, even seemingly insinuate one way is better than another, and furthermore be a learned individual who got all, and I say this with caution, the benefits of being immersed in a Western country, imagine the fury, the shock, the curiosity, the disagreements, and the agreements too. I come from quite a traditional Asian family. My parents keep with customs and teachings for the most part, and my aunts played a huge role in my siblings' and my upbringing. As they say, it takes a village to raise a child. And with that, I think I have quite a good authority to give my two-cents worth of opinion on Chinese parenting, me being a product (or “victim” depending on your stance) of it. I can't say much about the style of Western parenting, as most of what I know was absorbed from the telly or from, again, observation in my young adult phase upon settling in Canada. Then again, I don't think it's necessary of me to touch on Western parenting much at all since this memoir is very much on the advantages and disadvantages of Chinese parenting. If it hasn't been clear already, I am, to an extent, thankful for my Chinese upbringing. Some of Amy Chua's parenting methods are to say the least, quite extreme, even under Chinese parenting standards. As an academic, surely she knows her methods are overbearing and quite disimilar to the culture she is surrounded by? Yet, she trudges on with her set of rules and regulations, refusing to give much leeway, because when dealing with children, if you give them an inch, they take a mile. Perhaps my mother will shake her head in disapproval with some of Chua's tactics, but by and large, the basis of Chua's parenting style is very much alike to many Chinese parents, including mine - show filial piety to respectfully gain the wisdom of the elders who have, a Chinese saying, "eaten more salt than you (the younger generation) have eaten rice." Besides, what they have to impart and what they do for their offspring is nothing but for the best of them. Chua brings up a lot of points that resonated with me, but at the same time, irks me with her behaviour that reminds me of strict, unforgiving mothers that can be a bane to the well-being of a child. However, as she writes on, we see a change in her stern attitudes, and Chua acknowledges that it's ok to be strict, but it's important to be flexible too. One thing that frustrates me about the whole controversy is the accusations of her being abusive towards her children. Chua might be mean, and her children could have rebelled (and one did), but abusive she was not. Abusive is when she hits the young ones for no rhyme or reason, abusive is neglecting the child to rot in a ditch, abusive is not helping them realize their full potential, abusive is not being there for them when they needed a figure to show them the way. It might have been mentally toiling on everyone involved, but Chua's tough streak only prepared her children for worser things that might come. If it is any indication, Chua's two daughters have voiced support of her as well. As a kid, my parents were hard on us and I never understood it, but it has helped me to learn and not forget. It has taught me between what I should do and what I could achieve, showed me between right and wrong. Of course, this doesn't always happen as, with any parenting style, it could backfire. Knowing your child is the key. And I feel Chua knew her children enough. She wasn't trying to force it upon people that Chinese parenting is better and they should follow suit. She never meant to write a parenting book, but rather she wanted to tell her story of how she raised her kids, and maybe, if someone could see it being helpful to them, they could gain some insights from her experience. It doesn't matter the style of parenting; choosing what works best with your own is what counts (but be wary of doing the choosing of what your child should want in life, as is quite the case in Asian upbringing). Ultimately, any good parent would want the best for their kid. Right?
Date published: 2012-10-25
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Eight Bookcases Check out my review of Chua's work on my blog:
Date published: 2012-02-17
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Chinese parenting at an extreme but so funny! Many of my Chinese friends have read this and loved it, including myself! Some things she did were quite extreme but some of them brought back memories for many of us of how we were raised. To the "western style parents" who are so offended by this, just don't read the book then!! I definitely recommend this to any one who has an open mind =D
Date published: 2011-06-21
Rated 1 out of 5 by from Abusive mother I'm usually the sort of person who finishes a book no matter how lame it is. I was not able to finish this one no matter how much I tried. I read three quarters of the book and felt suffocated by the emotional abuse taking place in the story. It broke my heart that the mother of these two girls is so emotionally abusive with her girls. I am a very disciplined mother, however, the mother in this book is way too controlling in her behavior with her children. In some parts of the book, I thought that she did not deserve her girls....It also makes you wonder where her husband was, while she was raising her kids. it seemed he stood by the sidelines and watched while his girls' spirit was being broken by a true dragon. this book was a true waste of money. If the events in this book were not exagerated, In my opinion if any mother treats her kids in such a manner, then she deserves for child services to be knocking on her door. maybe then SHE would be the one learning a good lesson in her life.
Date published: 2011-05-30
Rated 1 out of 5 by from Interesting I was confused by the plot in this book. I have many Asian friends and I totally get the Tiger Mother theme, but the mother in this book was so obsessed with the future careers of her daughters, she made them practice for 6-8 hours/day? Doesn't that border on abuse? I know it takes tons of practice to be the best in your world, but did these children have a choice? Other options? I was totally confused by that. In a few chapters, I felt uneasy reading in detail how these children had to succumb to the yelling and screaming of their mother while they practiced. Did these children have friends? Did they go outside? Did they have regular kid play time at all? I left this book feeling relieved that I was no longer witnessing such abuse. Overall, a very well written book. The plot and purpose confused me and made me feel queasy. :(
Date published: 2011-04-27
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Chinese Parenting or Western Parenting? Chinese parenting or Western parenting – which one is better? I never really gave much thought in the past about any specific differences between the two styles. I did, however realize that a lot of Asian children seem to be more ‘gifted’ academically, technologically, and musically but put it down to longer school hours and Saturday classes in the Asian world. Battle Hymn Of The Tiger Mother is the true story of a Chinese Mom raising her two Chinese/American daughters in the Chinese parenting way. The level of respect, obedience, altruism, and integrity that is expected from the child(ren) is almost mind-numbing! An immensely enjoyable book that had me pulled in from the first page where Ms. Chua lists some things that Chinese mothers would NEVER EVER allow their Chinese children to do. I understood completely the comparisons and the clash of cultures and the bluntness and almost arrogant and insulting way these children are raised in. In the end, who is the better parent? Well, that is for each of you to decide after you’ve read this amazing, humbling, and brutally honest story. I’d highly recommend this book to any one, I read it in one sitting. It mesmerized me and I GOT IT as I'm sure a lot of you will too!!
Date published: 2011-02-20

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This is a story about a mother, two daughters, and two dogs. It's also about Mozart and Mendelssohn, the piano and the violin, and how we made it to Carnegie Hall.This was supposed to be a story of how Chinese parents are better at raising kids than Western ones.But instead, it's about a bitter clash of cultures, a fleeting taste of glory, and howI was humbled by a thirteen-year-old.Part OneThe Tiger, the living symbol of strength and power, generally inspires fear and respect.The Chinese MotherA lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically successful kids. They wonder what these parents do to produce so many math whizzes and music prodigies, what it's like inside the family, and whether they could do it too. Well, I can tell them, because I've done it. Here are some things my daughters, Sophia and Louisa, were never allowed to do:attend a sleepoverhave a playdatebe in a school playcomplain about not being in a school playwatch TV or play computer gameschoose their own extracurricular activitiesget any grade less than an Anot be the #1 student in every subject except gym and dramaplay any instrument other than the piano or violinnot play the piano or violin.I'm using the term "Chinese mother" loosely. I recently met a super-successful white guy from South Dakota (you've seen him on television), and after comparing notes we decided that his working-class father had definitely been a Chinese mother. I know some Korean, Indian, Jamaican, Irish, and Ghanaian parents who qualify too. Conversely, I know some mothers of Chinese heritage, almost always born in the West, who are not Chinese mothers, by choice or otherwise.I'm also using the term "Western parents" loosely. Western parents come in all varieties. In fact, I'll go out on a limb and say that Westerners are far more diverse in their parenting styles than the Chinese. Some Western parents are strict; others are lax. There are same-sex parents, Orthodox Jewish parents, single parents, ex-hippie parents, investment banker parents, and military parents. None of these "Western" parents necessarily see eye to eye, so when I use the term "Western parents," of course I'm not referring to all Western parents—just as "Chinese mother" doesn't refer to all Chinese mothers.All the same, even when Western parents think they're being strict, they usually don't come close to being Chinese mothers. For example, my Western friends who consider themselves strict make their children practice their instruments thirty minutes every day. An hour at most. For a Chinese mother, the first hour is the easy part. It's hours two and three that get tough.Despite our squeamishness about cultural stereotypes, there are tons of studies out there showing marked and quantifiable differences between Chinese and Westerners when it comes to parenting. In one study of 50 Western American mothers and 48 Chinese immigrant mothers, almost 70% of the Western mothers said either that "stressing academic success is not good for children" or that "parents need to foster the idea that learning is fun." By contrast, roughly 0% of the Chinese mothers felt the same way. Instead, the vast majority of the Chinese mothers said that they believe their children can be "the best" students, that "academic achievement reflects successful parenting," and that if children did not excel at school then there was "a problem" and parents "were not doing their job." Other studies indicate that compared to Western parents, Chinese parents spend approximately ten times as long every day drilling academic activities with their children. By contrast, Western kids are more likely to participate in sports teams.This brings me to my final point. Some might think that the American sports parent is an analog to the Chinese mother. This is so wrong. Unlike your typical Western over-scheduling soccer mom, the Chinese mother believes that (1) schoolwork always comes first; (2) an A-minus is a bad grade; (3) your children must be two years ahead of their classmates in math; (4) you must never compliment your children in public; (5) if your child ever disagrees with a teacher or coach, you must always take the side of the teacher or coach; (6) the only activities your children should be permitted to do are those in which they can eventually win a medal; and (7) that medal must be gold.

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INTRODUCTIONAmy Chua only wants the best for her children. For her, that means bringing them up the way she was raised as a first generation Chinese American, with Chinese values and a strict set of rules. Her husband Jed is from a liberal Jewish background and grew up with parents who encouraged individual choice and independence. Together they agree on raising their children the “Chinese way”—arming their daughters for the future with discipline, hard work, a sense of accomplishment, and respect for their elders. The highly accomplished lawyer, professor, and author sets about her child–rearing with the same single–minded drive and determination that got her into Harvard and Harvard Law School.Chua’s hands–on Chinese model works beautifully with her older daughter Sophia. Sophia is a natural, inquisitive student and a fast learner. From an early age, she excels at piano, playing at Carnegie Hall when she’s only in eighth grade. While she recognizes that she’s different from her peers, she seems to take her mother’s rules in stride. Lulu, Chua’s second daughter, is a very different story. Born just as three–year–old Sophia began taking piano lessons, Lulu proves to be equally talented in both academics and music, “but instead of her success producing confidence, gratitude toward parents, and the desire to work harder, the opposite happened. Lulu started rebelling . . . against everything [Chua had] ever stood for” (p. 168). This only makes Chua more determined to push onward, which in turn amplifies the tension in their household, producing a true battle of wills. Chua will eventually be forced to evaluate her choices to be a tiger mother and reconcile the daughter she has with her own expectations.Brutally honest and fiercely determined, Chua’s memoir raises questions about traditional approaches to parenting in the twenty–first century, the inevitable clash of cultural attitudes in a multicultural society, and how to best prepare children to succeed in an increasingly complicated world. As she investigates her own assumptions, Chua is unafraid to poke fun at her flaws, yet she articulates her convictions with passion and precision. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is a funny, serious, smart read that is as entertaining as it is thought–provoking. ABOUT AMY CHUAAmy Chua is the John M. Duff Professor of Law at Yale Law School. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller World on Fire: How Exporting Free Market Democracy Breeds Ethnic Hatred and Global Instability and Day of Empire: How Hyperpowers Rise to Global Dominance—and Why They Fall. She lives with her husband, two daughters, and two Samoyeds in New Haven, Connecticut. A CONVERSATION WITH AMY CHUAQ. In your introduction you note that this was supposed to be a book about parenting and it evolved into a different sort of story over time. Can you talk about the book’s evolution? What surprised you in the process of writing it?I’m embarrassed to say that I intended Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother to be much more literary, the farthest thing from a parenting guide! It’s actually a pretty complex book, and I was hoping that readers would appreciate its humor and irony. Believe it or not, the models for my book were Dave Eggers’s A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius and David Sedaris’s Dress Your Family in Corduroy and Denim—both books with unreliable narrators. The narrator of my book is a patently flawed character—initially obtuse, boastful, outrageously overconfident—who goes through a crisis and transformation. Much of the book is self–parody. For example, there’s one part when I’m talking about my dog, and I say, “I had finally come to see that Coco was an animal.” Anyone who read that line straight must have assumed that I had pretty low cognition skills!Q. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is a departure from your other books, which are more focused on politics and history. What made you decide to write something so personal?Actually, I wrote this book in a moment of crisis, when at age thirteen my younger daughter, Lulu, rebelled against my strict parenting and seemed to turn against everything I stood for. Around the same time, my younger sister, Katrin, got leukemia and had to have a bone marrow transplant. Her kids were just ten and one at the time. It was the darkest two years of my life, and for the first time, I began asking myself, “Have I done everything wrong?” After one terrible public fight with Lulu—the culminating point of the book, which takes place in Red Square, Moscow—I suddenly realized I might lose my daughter. And when it hit me that way, I didn’t care a bit about school or violin; I just wanted to keep my daughter. So I pulled back—not entirely, but we sat down and talked, and a lot of things changed. Anyway, the day after the blowup in Red Square, I sat down at my computer, and even though I usually have writer’s block, this time the words just poured out—I wrote the first two thirds of the book in two months. I showed every page to my daughters and my husband. It was like family therapy. In retrospect, I think writing the book—going back eighteen years to when my eldest daughter was born and I was a very different person—was an attempt to put the pieces back together and work things out for myself.I did eight years of academic research for my first book, World on Fire, and five years of research for Day of Empire. I did zero research for Battle Hymn—it came from a completely different place.Q. What were some of the challenges of putting your family relationships on paper?Because I wanted to clear every line of the book with my husband and both daughters, there were four separate sets of memory to accommodate, so we’d often argue over the facts, then I’d have to revise to reflect everyone’s comments. It wasn’t always easy, but the experience—which also included a lot of nostalgia and laughter—really did bring my family together.My husband—who has a very strong personality—also told me that he didn’t love being a character in someone else’s book, so he asked me to keep him mostly in the background. But if you read between thelines, what should come through is how central he was to everything and how he dealt with my excesses—supporting me in front of the girls, advising (sometimes challenging) me behind the scenes, and bringing balance to the family.Q. You’re very honest in these pages about your own flaws. How do you imagine your readers view you, and what image do you hope they will take away from this book?Some people will of course disagree with me, but I also received hundreds of e–mails from people—of all backgrounds, from all over the world—who wrote to say that my book made them laugh, cry, and understand their own families better. And this made everything worth it, and helped carry me through some of the rougher periods.Some of the most touching emails I received were from people who had grown up with a tiger mother. For example:When I read your book, I cried because I know how painful it is to be forced to such an extreme. But mostly, I cried because I recognized what my mom went through to shape me into the person I am today—the infinite hours she spent sitting through all my practices, teaching me lessons beyond my grade level, and endlessly arguing for my benefit. My mom endured my hatred and made sacrifices I can never make up to her. And, in spite of everything, she has always given me her unconditional love and patience. Reading this now makes me recall all those bittersweet moments that ultimately built my character.It was also fun to hear from tiger parents and tiger cubs of all stripes:OMG your book had my mom and I rolling on the floor! I’m Pakistani American, and I was the “Lulu” in our family. My mom just said, “Everyone needs to be called katchra once in a while.”—katchra being the Urdu word for garbage. I can’t even count the number of times my father and mother called me katchra, and somehow I have escaped with amazingly (astoundingly, even) high self–esteem.But my favorite e–mails may have been from non–tiger mothers like this one:As one of those weak Western moms who doesn’t ban her kids from most activities and thinks a B+ is acceptable, I read your book and immediately recognized a kindred spirit. I appreciate your honesty about your struggles as a parent. As I am in the midst of dealing with my younger son’s teenage rebellion, I can tell you that your book was a comfort and a joy to me.Q. Your daughters were deeply involved with music throughout their childhoods. What sort of life lessons do children get from learning to play music at a young age?I definitely think that learning music can help instill a strong work ethic, self–discipline, and focus in children—skills that are particularly important in this age of constant media distractions. But for me, music really wasn’t so much about preparing my kids for the future—I didn’t think of it strategically. Both the piano and the violin are capable of producing such beauty, something deeper and more meaningful than watching television or surfing the Internet for ten hours. I think both my daughters would agree with me on this one.Q. The chapter devoted to your sister Katrin’s illness introduces a new element and mood into your writing. How, for you, did this chapter change the narrative?For me, Katrin’s illness was cataclysmic and horrible—talk about suddenly questioning all of one’s priorities. And it raised what may be the book’s central theme. The last lines of the book are:Given that life is so short and fragile, surely each of us should be trying to get the most out of every breath, every fleeting moment. But what does it mean to live life to its fullest?We all have to die. But which way does that cut? In any case, I’ve just told Jed that I want to get another dog.Q. You state that you’re “not good at enjoying life” (p. 97) and most of your attention in raising your children seems to be focused on the future. Do you see this as a positive or negative attribute, and is it something you see in your daughters?I’m definitely a Type A person and not so good at “living in the moment”—I don’t like spas or massages, I always have a long list of to–dos, and I can only take in the beauty of a sunset for so long. But that doesn’t mean I’m not a happy person. On the contrary, I have a lot of fun. I love throwing big parties (you should have seen Sophia’s sixteenth birthday party; Lulu’s is around the corner), going out to dinner with friends, and traveling with my family to new places. Also, this may surprise people, but my daughters think of me as a kind of zany person. They are much more scared of their father!If I could push a magic button and choose either happiness or success for my children, I’d choose happiness in a second. But I don’t think it’s as simple as that. I don’t believe that if parents let their kids do whatever they want, their kids will be happier. In America today, many parents are very permissive. Yet we have disturbingly high rates of teenage depression, anxiety, and low self–esteem. It’s also not a formula for happiness for kids to grow up and not be able to find a job as an adult.Q. There’s a lot of discussion of what has changed between the generations of your family. What values would you like to see passed on and what would you like to see evolve in the next generation?Both Sophia and Lulu were asked in an interview by The Guardian (London) what kind of parents they would be when they grew up. To my surprise, they both said they would be strict parents (although both said they would allow a few more playdates). I couldn’t believe my ears when Lulu told the reporter, “My mom and I have fought a lot. But I wouldn’t be the person I am today if it weren’t for her. And I wouldn’t like that.” At the same time, both Sophia and Lulu are much more public service–oriented than I am, and I deeply admire that. For understandable reasons, first–generation immigrants tend to focus mainly on their own family and the future of their children. I think it’s a wonderful thing that subsequent generations tend to be more community oriented and interested in helping others and giving back.On the other hand, I worry all the time about raising spoiled, entitled children. “Not on my watch!” I write in my book. I believe that kids with a sense of responsibility, who know when to experience gratitude and humility, will grow up to be less selfish, better–adjusted, and happier adults.Q. Have you found the act of writing about your family’s life has brought you closer to them or illuminated certain aspects of your life that you wouldn’t have considered beforehand? If so, in what ways?Writing the book definitely brought my family closer. I think Sophia and Lulu were better able to understand what was going through my head when I was say, chastising them for a bad grade or arguing for another hour at the violin. And I got a better sense of how they experienced things. But perhaps what surprised and touched me the most was how my whole family rallied around me when the global firestorm broke out. So many other teenagers might have been resentful or angry at all the harsh media attention directed at our family. But not Sophia and Lulu—I got so lucky! At the height of the tsunami Sophia published a letter in the New York Post defending me, which was so mischievously witty and lighthearted that I think it turned the tide of public opinion. Lulu, meanwhile, edited all my op–eds, searched the Internet (which I couldn’t bear to look at) for the few rare nice comments, and texted them to me with messages like, “Here’s a good one, Mommy! Some people like you!”Q. What are you working on now? Do you have plans to write more memoirs?I do indeed have another book in the works! But it’s a secret for now. Stay tuned. DISCUSSION QUESTIONSIn the beginning of her book Chua describes her daughters’ personalities from birth. In what ways are they inherently different from one another?Chua identifies herself with her Chinese zodiac sign the tiger. How does she exemplify its characteristics? Are there any ways in which she might defy those characteristics? Can you relate to your own zodiac sign?What role does music play in Chua’s life as compared to her children’s lives? And does music play such an important role in your own life?How is Lulu and Sophia’s childhood different from their mother’s, as Chua describes them? Do you see similarities and differences in your own childhood?Never a pet lover, Chua reluctantly ends up raising two dogs, Coco and Pushkin. How do the dogs change her, and what does she learn from them?What do you think about Chua’s relationship with her younger daughter, Lulu? How do they push each other’s buttons?Chua only intermittently discusses her husband’s opinions, but mostly keeps him out of her memoir. What can you glean about him from these pages?If you could ask Chua one question, what would it be?At the end of the book Chua expresses some regrets about her choices. What does she regret and how do you imagine she might do things differently, given the chance?

Editorial Reviews

“Few have the guts to parent in public. Amy [Chua]'s memoir is brutally honest, and her willingness to share her struggles is a gift. Whether or not you agree with her priorities and approach, she should be applauded for raising these issues with a thoughtful, humorous and authentic voice.” — TIME Magazine“Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is entertaining, bracingly honest and, yes, thought-provoking.” — THE NEW YORK TIMES BOOK REVIEW“[A] riveting read… Far from being strident, the book's tone is slightly rueful, frequently self-deprecating and entirely aware of its author's enormities… Chua's story is far more complicated and interesting than what you've heard to date -- and well worth picking up… I guarantee that if you read the book, there'll undoubtedly be places where you'll cringe in recognition, and others where you'll tear up in empathy.” — SAN FRANCISCO CHRONICLE“Courageous and thought-provoking.” — David Brooks, THE NEW YORK TIMES“Breathtakingly personal…[Chua’s] tale is as compelling as a good thriller.” — THE FINANCIAL TIMES"[F]ascinating. . . . the most stimulating book on the subject of child rearing since Dr. Spock."  — SEATTLE POST-INTELLIGENCER“Chua’s memoir, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, is a quick, easy read. It’s smart, funny, honest and a little heartbreaking…” — CHICAGO SUN-TIMES