An empowering guide to equal opportunity orgasms—presenting a paradigm-shifting education on becoming fluent in sexual communication, the extraordinary female anatomy, and unlocking the most reliable route to satisfying, out-of-this-world sex.
We’ve been thinking about sex all wrong. Mainstream media, movies, and porn have taught us that sex = penis + vagina, and everything else is just secondary. And by no coincidence, standard penetration is the method in which men most reliably achieve orgasm. The problem is, women don’t typically orgasm this way. In fact, difficulty with orgasm is the #1 sexual concern among young adult women. More than half of 18 to 35-year-old women are distressed by not reaching orgasm during sex with a partner (though they easily do when they take matters into their own hands), and things get even worse when looking at casual, first-time hookup sex, where only four percent of women say they reach orgasm. That’s not a typo. Four percent.
The problem is not that women can’t cum, it’s that we’ve separated our most reliable route to orgasm—clitoral stimulation—from how we feel we should orgasm—penetration. Becoming Cliterate exposes the broader cultural problem that’s perpetuating this, and what we can do about it. Pulling together evidence from biology, sociology, psychology, linguistics, and sex therapy into one comprehensive, accessible, and prescriptive book, the solution is presented through an engaging anatomy section (a look under the hood), a history lesson on female sexuality (spoiler: the dysfunction’s been going on for ages), and proven techniques from the field of sex therapy (it starts with training the sex organ between your ears). The book explains not only how the clitoris works—from oral sex and orgasms to vulvas and vibrators—but also how to communicate more effectively about it and how to adopt an attitude that gives women license to get the pleasure they deserve. There’s even an entire chapter that distills this info for an (all-too-eager) male audience, because—to state the obvious—men need to be cliterate too.
By dispelling the lies, misunderstandings, and myths that have been holding us back, Becoming Cliterate tackles both personal and political problems and replaces them with updated outlooks and practical skills needed to change our collective perspective on sex. It’s time to finally inform women and men on how to have satisfying experiences in bed that benefit both parties, and time for everyone to have the orgasms they deserve.