Before I Die by Jenny DownhamBefore I Die by Jenny Downham

Before I Die

byJenny Downham

Paperback | May 26, 2009

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For the many readers who love The Fault in Our Stars, this is the story of a girl who is determined to live, love, and to write her own ending before her time is finally up.

Tessa has just months to live. Fighting back against hospital visits, endless tests, and drugs with excruciating side effects, Tessa compiles a list. It’s her To Do Before I Die list. And number one is Sex. Released from the constraints
of “normal” life, Tessa tastes new experiences to make her feel alive while her failing body struggles to keep up. Tessa’s feelings, her relationships with her father and brother, her estranged mother, her best friend, and her new boyfriend, are all painfully crystallized in the precious weeks before Tessa’s time runs out.

A Publishers Weekly Best Children’s Book of the Year
Booklist Editors’ Choice
A Book Sense Children’s Pick
Kirkus Reviews Editors’ Choice
Publishers Weekly Flying Start Author
An ALA-YALSA Top Ten Best Book for Young Adults

The newly released feature film Now Is Good, starring Dakota Fanning, is based on Jenny Downham's intensely moving novel.
This is Jenny Downham’s debut novel. She lives in England.
Title:Before I DieFormat:PaperbackDimensions:336 pages, 8 × 5.19 × 0.69 inPublished:May 26, 2009Publisher:Random House Children's BooksLanguage:English

The following ISBNs are associated with this title:

ISBN - 10:0385751834

ISBN - 13:9780385751834

Appropriate for ages: 13 - 17


Rated 3 out of 5 by from Reminder to Cherish Moments I enjoyed reading the book from Tessa’s perspective - her thoughts about her diagnosis and death. It was interesting to read about her concerns regarding the effect of her illness on those around her and their life after she passes away. I am reminded to be grateful for the life that I have and to enjoy the present.
Date published: 2018-11-07
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Raw & Heartbreaking Don't get your hopes up that Tessa will live. This is not a book about survival. This a book about farewells, a book about living your best life, a book about love! Before I Die is a beautiful piece that made me think about all of the things that I want to do before I die. It made me realize that I might not have as much time as I think. If you're looking for something real, something full of raw emotion, then you need to read this gem. #plumreview
Date published: 2018-08-04
Rated 5 out of 5 by from I loved this book, it was so good.
Date published: 2017-11-24
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Amazing This book was an experience. This book was written so beautiful, so poetic. Took me on a journey of emotions from excitement, to desperate, to melancholy. Touching and taught me so much about love, life and family at a young age. A must read.
Date published: 2017-09-14
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Lovely It was a bit slow but the writing was beautiful and once the plot picked up and the characters began to develop, it really pulled me in. Sad but beautiful. You know how its going to end before you even begin, but the way she wrote it is heartbreaking. It's a book that really opens your eyes about living life. It's amazing and should be read.
Date published: 2017-07-25
Rated 1 out of 5 by from The concept was good This book fell flat on so many levels. It was poorly written and it jumped around from thought to thought without any sort of connection. I also felt that some of the characters were acting inappropriately in certain situations but what bothered me the most was that it was hard to feel anything for the main character, you know, the one who's sick and dying...
Date published: 2017-07-05
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Before I Die Raw believable emotions throughout. A wonderful novel.
Date published: 2017-07-05
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Before I Die It wonderfully captures the struggles of a person actively dying and all that they still want to achieve.
Date published: 2017-06-19
Rated 4 out of 5 by from touching, heartbreaking and beautifully written While I knew how this book was going to end just based off of the title alone, I didn't think it would leave me as emotional as it did. Like others, I wasn't very fond of the main character, Tessa, or her best friend for various reasons (it seemed like tessa's illness was such an inconvenience to zoey). The switch in writing towards the end was absolutely beautiful. An impressive debut book by Downham.
Date published: 2017-04-24
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Best book I've ever read This book gave me a new appretiation for life, definity a must read. Its raw characters allow you to relate and feel the same emotions
Date published: 2015-06-15
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Bittersweet This book was absolutely breathtaking! If you have the chance to get your hands on it, I highly suggest reading it. It is so inspirational and shows you the rawness of what it is like to live knowing that you could possibly die.
Date published: 2013-06-20
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Emotional This was a very touching book, I found a new outlook on life that you should never stop living and savor every second that you receive.
Date published: 2012-03-17
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Such a good book! Quite the page-turner, I didn't want to stop reading it, It's not very long, but you learn a lot through out the book, you learn just how valuable life really is, and it was a sweet book :) very touching, but interesting, I would of liked to hear a little about the other characters at the end, but that's about it!
Date published: 2012-03-14
Rated 5 out of 5 by from TEARFUL i could not put this book down. without having the experience of having someone i love die in front of me, Downham somehow found a way to make me feel and react the same as if i did have someone dying.
Date published: 2011-07-24
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Truly Heartfelt Sixteen-year-old Tessa has been diagnosed with cancer and its terminal-she IS going to die. Tessa decides to make a list of all the things that she wants to experience and do before her final day comes and first on her list is: sex!! As the story proceeds, Tessa continues to work off her list one by one interspersed with visits to doctor’s offices, hospital stays for transfusions and other medical procedures. Keeping true to her list is her main priority. Her younger brother Cal can be a pain in the butt but deep down he loves his sister, and Zoey, Tessa’s zany friend is a weird one for sure. Unfortunately, her parents are divorced but Tessa lives with her Dad who attends all her appointments with her and holds her hand during yet another lumbar puncture, a very painful procedure. Her mother is somewhat distant and Tessa doesn’t ever remember her mother telling her that she loves her. In the mix she finds a love truer than she ever thought possible but at the same time realizes that it’s not always easy getting what you want and that what you want isn’t always what you need. By the end of the book I was literally bawling my eyes out. Her death was written beautifully but I was so emotionally involved in the story that I felt I was standing by the side of all the family members as she took her last breath. The book was uplifting and not written at all in a sad, cold, detached way that many novels about death are written, but it was rather life-affirming and happy if that’s possible to believe. As with any death, it is painful, but that of a child or teenager is even more so. Great read!!
Date published: 2011-02-04
Rated 4 out of 5 by from really packs a punch Sixteen year old, Tessa, is dying. She’s been sick with leukemia since she was 12, but there’s nothing more they can do for her. When Jenny Downham’s moving novel Before I Die opens, Tessa has decided to make a list of all the things she wants to do before she leaves the earth. Right off the top, she wants to have sex. Tessa is a believable character, sullen and bitchy one minute and hopeful and loving the next. She lives with her dad and younger brother, Cal. Her mother left the family to follow another man to Scotland. The relationship didn’t work out and she’s in the neighbourhood, but Tessa’s care is really left to her father, who has given up work to stay homelook after Tessa. Before I Die is a book about living the best way you can with the time you have. There’s a lesson in there for all of us. When Tessa meets Adam, the boy next door, her world starts to expand. When her best friend, Zoey, finds herself pregnant, Tessa has something to look forward to. Ultimately, though, this is a novel about dying and the last twenty pages or so are among the most moving I have ever read.
Date published: 2011-01-22
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Read this book before you die This is a book about a girl named Tessa, who is terminally ill with Cancer. Knowing she is going to die, she creates a list of 10 things that she will do before she dies. This story really makes you appreciate life and the small things that come with it. It is a potential tear jerker and has an ending that will leave you thinking about it for a while. Definately worth the read but I picked this one up at the library rather than buying it which i'm glad I did. An inspirational read, nonetheless.
Date published: 2010-05-23
Rated 4 out of 5 by from great read, very sad!! This book was a little hard to get started on, but once you get into it you wont be able to put it down. The ending is eneviatble, but this book just keeps you hoping. Was one of the saddest books ive ever read :'(
Date published: 2009-11-28
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Amazing! This book was so well written! It was funny and sad and happy. It makes you think about what you would do if you only had a few months to live. And how you would live you final moments. Tessa finds love in the book, and it just makes it more sad cause she is dying, Great read for everyone! It was one of my staff picks! :)
Date published: 2008-10-02

Read from the Book

I wish I had a boyfriend. I wish he lived in the wardrobe on a coat hanger. Whenever I wanted, I could get him out and he’d look at me the way boys do in films, as if I’m beautiful. He wouldn’t speak much, but he’d be breathing hard as he took off his leather jacket and unbuckled his jeans. He’d wear white pants and he’d be so gorgeous I’d almost faint. He’d take my clothes off too. He’d whisper, ‘Tessa, I love you. I really bloody love you. You’re beautiful’ – exactly those words – as he undressed me.I sit up and switch on the bedside light. There’s a pen, but no paper, so on the wall behind me I write, I want to feel the weight of a boy on top of me. Then I lie back down and look out at the sky. It’s gone a funny colour – red and charcoal all at once, like the day is bleeding out.I can smell sausages. Saturday night is always sausages. There’ll be mash and cabbage and onion gravy too. Dad’ll have the lottery ticket and Cal will have chosen the numbers and they’ll sit in front of the TV and eat dinner from trays on their laps. They’ll watch The X Factor, then they’ll watch Who Wants to Be a Millionaire? After that, Cal will have a bath and go to bed and Dad’ll drink beer and smoke until it’s late enough for him to sleep.He came up to see me earlier. He walked over to the window and opened the curtains. ‘Look at that!’ he said as light flooded the room. There was the afternoon, the tops of the trees, the sky. He stood silhouetted against the window, his hands on his hips. He looked like a Power Ranger.‘If you won’t talk about it, how can I help you?’ he said, and he came over and sat on the edge of my bed. I held my breath. If you do it for long enough, white lights dance in front of your eyes. He reached over and stroked my head, his fingers gently massaging my scalp.‘Breathe, Tessa,’ he whispered.Instead, I grabbed my hat from the bedside table and yanked it on right over my eyes. He went away then.Now he’s downstairs frying sausages. I can hear the fat spitting, the slosh of gravy in the pan. I’m not sure I should be able to hear that from all the way upstairs, but nothing surprises me any more. I can hear Cal unzipping his coat now, back from buying mustard. Ten minutes ago he was given a pound and told, ‘Don’t talk to anyone weird.’ While he was gone, Dad stood on the back step and smoked a fag. I could hear the whisper of leaves hitting the grass at his feet. Autumn invading.‘Hang your coat up and go and see if Tess wants anything,’ Dad says. ‘There’s plenty of blackberries. Make them sound interesting.’Cal has his trainers on; the air in the soles sighs as he leaps up the stairs and through my bedroom door. I pretend to be asleep, which doesn’t stop him. He leans right over and whispers, ‘I don’t care even if you never speak to me again.’ I open one eye and find two blue ones. ‘Knew you were faking,’ he says, and he grins wide and lovely. ‘Dad says, do you want blackberries?’‘No.’‘What shall I tell him?’‘Tell him I want a baby elephant.’He laughs. ‘I’m gonna miss you,’ he says, and he leaves me with an open door and the draught from the stairs. -----------------------------Zoey doesn’t even knock, just comes in and plonks herself down on the end of the bed. She looks at me strangely, as if she hadn’t expected to find me here.‘What’re you doing?’ she says.‘Why?’‘Don’t you go downstairs any more?’‘Did my dad phone you up?’‘Are you in pain?’‘No.’She gives me a suspicious look, then stands up and takes off her coat. She’s wearing a very short red dress. It matches the handbag she’s dumped on my floor.‘Are you going out?’ I ask her. ‘Have you got a date?’She shrugs, goes over to the window and looks down at the garden. She circles a finger on the glass, then she says, ‘Maybe you should try and believe in God.’‘Should I?’‘Yeah, maybe we all should. The whole human race.’‘I don’t think so. I think he might be dead.’She turns round to look at me. Her face is pale, like winter. Behind her shoulder, an aeroplane winks its way across the sky.She says, ‘What’s that you’ve written on the wall?’I don’t know why I let her read it. I guess I want something to happen. It’s in black ink. With Zoey looking, all the words writhe like spiders. She reads it over and over. I hate it how sorry she can be for me.She speaks very softly. ‘It’s not exactly Disneyland, is it?’‘Did I say it was?’‘I thought that was the idea.’‘Not mine.’‘I think your dad’s expecting you to ask for a pony, not a boyfriend.’It’s amazing, the sound of us laughing. Even though it hurts, I love it. Laughing with Zoey is absolutely one of my favourite things, because I know we’ve both got the same stupid pictures in our heads. She only has to say, ‘Maybe a stud farm might be the answer,’ and we’re both in hysterics.Zoey says, ‘Are you crying?’I’m not sure. I think I am. I sound like those women on the telly when their entire family gets wiped out. I sound like an animal gnawing its own foot off. Everything just floods in all at once – like how my fingers are just bones and my skin is practically see-through. Inside my left lung I can feel cells multiplying, stacking up, like ash slowly filling a vase. Soon I won’t be able to breathe.‘It’s OK if you’re afraid,’ Zoey says.‘It’s not.’‘Of course it is. Whatever you feel is fine.’‘Imagine it, Zoey – being terrified all the time.’‘I can.’But she can’t. How can she possibly, when she has her whole life left? I hide under my hat again, just for a bit, because I’m going to miss breathing. And talking. And windows. I’m going to miss cake. And fish. I like fish. I like their little mouths going, open, shut, open.And where I’m going, you can’t take anything with you.Zoey watches me wipe my eyes with the corner of the duvet.‘Do it with me,’ I say.She looks startled. ‘Do what?’‘It’s on bits of paper everywhere. I’ll write it out properly and you can make me do it.’‘Make you do what? The thing you wrote on the wall?’‘Other stuff too, but the boy thing first. You’ve had sex loads of times, Zoey, and I’ve never even been kissed.’I watch my words fall into her. They land somewhere very deep.‘Not loads of times,’ she says eventually.‘Please, Zoey. Even if I beg you not to, even if I’m horrible to you, you must make me do it. I’ve got a whole long list of things I want to do.’When she says, ‘OK,’ she makes it sound easy, as if I only asked her to visit me more often.‘You mean it?’‘I said so, didn’t I?’I wonder if she knows what she’s letting herself in for.From the Hardcover edition.

Bookclub Guide

QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS...1. Describe Tessa’s relationship with her father. How has this relationship been shaped by Tessa’s illness? Debate whether Cal, Tessa’s younger brother, feels neglected by his father. Discuss Tessa’s relationship with her mother. Why did she leave home? When does Tessa miss her mother the most?2. Discuss the true qualities of a friend. Which of these qualities best describes Tessa and Zoey’s friendship? What does Zoey offer Tessa that her father cannot give? Why does Tessa’s father call Zoey when Tessa won’t get out of bed? Cal hates Zoey. How does Tessa explain her friendship with Zoey to her little brother?3. Tessa’s father is frustrated when she becomes withdrawn. He says, “If you won’t talk about it, how can I help?” (p. 2) How does this withdrawal represent the first stage of grief? Why is talking about feelings always better than keeping them to yourself?4. Discuss why Tessa doesn’t want to return to school. She says that Zoey is the only person at school that isn’t afraid of her illness. Explain how difficult it is for teenagers to deal with the terminal illness of a classmate. What might Zoey say to other students that would help them know how to interact with Tessa?5. Tessa writes her private thoughts on the wall beside her bed. Why does she let Zoey read what she has written?6. Zoey tells Tessa that it’s all right to be afraid. How does Tessa reveal her fear? How does she use her hat to hide her fear? Discuss how Cal, Adam and Tessa’s father express their fear.7. How is Tessa’s list a form of bargaining and acceptance? At what point in the novel does Tessa accept the fact that she is dying? Explain how her list helps her “get on with living.” Which item on her list is the most dangerous? Why does doing illegal things like shoplifting and driving without a license give Tessa a thrill?8. Tessa’s father wants to know the things on her list. He says, “I need to know about it, not because I want to stop you, but because I want to keep you safe.” (p. 80) Discuss how Tessa reacts to her father when he asks to see the list.9. Discuss the conversation between Tessa and her father after she is caught shoplifting. Why does he think anger is taking her over?10. How is Tessa’s list confusing to her father? Explain how Tessa’s list is self-centered. Her mum tells her, “You have to think about the people who love you.” (p. 170) At what point does Tessa begin to think about Cal and her father? Explain why Tessa’s mother speaks in past tense when she says, “we loved you.” Why is it unrealistic for Tessa to think that she can rekindle her parents’ relationship?11. Why do you think sex is number one on Tessa’s list of things she wants to do before she dies? Tessa worries about being a “slag” if she has sex with someone that she doesn’t know. Explain Zoey’s reaction to Tessa’s thoughts.12. Tessa says that walking up the stairs behind a boy she doesn’t know reminds her of hospital corridors. What do the stairs and the corridors symbolize?13. Discuss the moments in the novel that Tessa is most depressed. Who helps her deal with her depression?14. Why does Zoey suspect that Tessa is in love with Adam? What does Zoey mean when she says, “I thought you understood the rules! Never let a bloke into your heart–it’s fatal”? (p. 88) Why is Adam different than Zoey? Discuss what Adam means when he says, “I can’t give you what you want.” (p. 117) What does he ultimately give her? What does she offer him?15. Tessa asks the home health care nurse if she believes in God. What is the significance of this inquiry? Tessa tells the nurse that she doesn’t believe in heaven. Discuss the nurse’s reaction to Tessa’s confession. Why does the nurse think a support group might be helpful to Tessa? How does Tessa’s list take the place of a support group?16. How does Tessa’s dad react when he finds out Zoey wants to terminate her pregnancy? Discuss how his opinion is related to Tessa’s terminal illness.17. Sorrow, loneliness, anxiety, and guilt are emotions associated with grief. How does each of the characters in the novel deal with these emotions?ABOUT THIS BOOK...Seventeen-year-old Tessa struggles to work through a list of things she wants to do before she dies as her battle with leukemia comes to an end.Seventeen-year-old Tessa was diagnosed with acute lymphoblastic leukemia when she was 12. That was the same year that her mother left home. Now, Tessa is in the finally stages of her illness, and there are a list of things that she wants to do before she dies. This list confuses her father, who has quit his job to take care of her, but he ultimately understands that the list helps her focus on life rather than death. Zoey, Tessa’s best friend, is by her side as she moves down the list. There are many symbolic relationships and events that help Tessa face her untimely death. Among them are Adam, a neighbor who is dealing with his own loss, but gives Tessa the romance that she is seeking; her mother’s brief reappearance in her life; and, a return to a favorite family vacation spot. BEFORE READING THE BOOKDiscuss the five stages of grief: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Write a letter from the point of view of a dying person that expresses one of these stages of grief.ABOUT THIS AUTHOR...Jenny Downham trained as an actor and worked in alternative theatre before starting to write. She lives in London.

Editorial Reviews

Review, NYTBR, October 14, 2007: "This may sound too depressing for words, but it is only one indication of the inspired originality of Before I Die, by Jenny Downham, that the reader can finish its last pages feeling thrillingly alive ... I don't care how old you are. This book will not leave you."—John Burnham SchwartzStarred Review, Kirkus Reviews, September 1, 2007"Lucid language makes a painful journey bearable, beautiful and transcendent."Starred Review, Publisher's Weekly, August 6, 2007"The eloquent dying teen can seem a staple of the YA novel, but this British debut completely breaks the mold. Downham holds nothing back in her wrenching and exceptionally vibrant story."Review, Entertainment Weekly, September 21, 2007"Bound For Glory: This fall, five young authors deliver breakout books packed with razor-sharp writing."Review, Entertainment Weekly, September 28, 2007"In luminous prose that rings completely true, Downham earns every tear she wrings from her readers. I trust there will be many of them—many readers, and of course, many tears. A-"From the Hardcover edition.