Boundaries Participant's Guide---Revised: When To Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Henry CloudBoundaries Participant's Guide---Revised: When To Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud

Boundaries Participant's Guide---Revised: When To Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your…

byHenry Cloud, John Townsend

Paperback | December 30, 2007

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This nine-session small group study, Boundaries Revised, by Dr.'s Henry Cloud and John Townsend uncovers the secrets to cultivating the habit of setting and maintaining healthy boundaries that provide the framework for rich, productive relationships.

Healthy relationship and sound living depend on maintaining effective personal boundaries. But many people don't know where to start.

Do you have trouble saying no? Can you set limits and still be a loving person? Are you in control of your life? Do people take advantage of you?

Based on the bestselling book by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, these nine interactive sessions can make a life-changing difference. Drawing on principles from the Bible, Boundaries guides small groups on a journey of discovery and practical application.

As a participant, you'll learn how to live your life more fully and display truth and love more freely. Each of the nine Boundaries sessions in the Participant Guide corresponds with a video presentation by Drs. Cloud and Townsend (found in the companion DVD, sold separately).

It's the centerpiece for insights, exercises, and spirited group discussion that can profoundly improve the quality of your relationships in every sphere of life-marriage, family, friendships, church, and the workplace.

Now revised to enhance both your group experience and personal growth, this Participant's Guide features insights, exercises, and all the practical resources for maximizing both group participation and personal growth. Its designed for use with the Revised nine-session Boundaries small group DVD (sold separately),

Sessions include:
1. What is a Boundary?
2. Understanding Boundaries
3. The Laws of Boundaries, Part I
4. The Laws of Boundaries, Part 2
5. Myths about Boundaries
6. Boundary Conflicts, Part I

  Dr. Henry Cloud is an acclaimed leadership expert, psychologist, and New York Times best-selling author. In his leadership consulting practice, Dr. Cloud works with both Fortune 500 companies and smaller private businesses. He has an extensive executive coaching background and experience as a leadership consultant, devoting the majo...
Title:Boundaries Participant's Guide---Revised: When To Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your…Format:PaperbackDimensions:128 pages, 9 × 6 × 0.31 inPublished:December 30, 2007Publisher:ZondervanLanguage:English

The following ISBNs are associated with this title:

ISBN - 10:0310278082

ISBN - 13:9780310278085


Rated 5 out of 5 by from Helped me personally Read this with a book club and conversation was very fruitful. I am very bad at having boundaries and this was a helpful way too look at my life. Will read it again!
Date published: 2018-02-04
Rated 5 out of 5 by from A strongly christian book with a message and lessons for everyone, christian or not This is a vary christian book. It might put some off, but persist with it and the lessons around creating boundaries in your life will help you overcome a multitude of relationship issues.
Date published: 2018-01-06
Rated 5 out of 5 by from So helpful I never realized that I had such poor boundaries until I read this book. I was helped greatly by reading this.
Date published: 2017-12-11
Rated 5 out of 5 by from best sell-help guide One of the most life-changing books I have ever read. Judgmental people BEWARE: Do not mock this review. No, not even in your head. If you have come here to gloat and feel superior to someone you think is an idiot for liking something so clearly beneath your Literature IQ, do me a favor and stop reading right now. I mean it. Go away. Are you gone? Ok, good. As I was saying, this book is one of the greatest, most life-changing books I have ever read. People who are critical of that statement have never been in the place I was when I was seventeen years old. No really, they haven't. Because if they were, they would understand the reason why someone like me would need a book like this so badly. When I was on the brink of adulthood, I possessed zero knowledge of the skills one needs to lead a healthy, mature life. Like many of the people used as examples in this book, I had been victimized my entire life by people who had no concept of what respecting others entails. I had little concept of self-respect, personal rights and responsibilities, and when I should use the word "no." In short, I had no boundaries. This book taught me everything my family of origin and religious leaders had failed to teach me: that I deserve respect, and that there are skills out there I need to learn to get it. Now, three plus years later, I still reference this book in times of need. As with all self-help books, this guide can only show you the way, it can't tell you how to get there. You need to figure that out for yourself. I'm still on my journey, and I'm nowhere near where I need to be, but this book has been an enormous help. I don't know where I'd be today had I never found it.
Date published: 2017-08-14
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Liked a lot This book got me thinking really profoundly about the lack of boundaries in my life. Although I don't think just reading this book will solve the issue, it's definitely food for thought that is very valuable and has to be implemented slowly and with a loving attitude for those you care about.
Date published: 2017-07-08
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Good read Read this for a book club and found the message convicting. I am terrible at creating boundaries for myself. My only draw back is that I haven't changed that much since reading the book, I only now know what I need to change.
Date published: 2017-06-05
Rated 4 out of 5 by from A book everyone must read! I just wish it did not have the religious references, because it may prevent some from reading it. But I really enjoyed it and learned from it!
Date published: 2017-04-22
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Good insights This book offers permission to set boundaries and experience the freedom that provides. Definitely a powerful message.
Date published: 2017-03-03
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Such a Simple but Necessary Concept This book will help you in every area of your life, but especially with difficult relationships. The only reason I am giving 4 stars is because it was very religion-based, which is not my thing at all, but if you're cool with that - or able to put it aside - this book might just change your life.
Date published: 2017-02-12
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Everyone needs to read this My friends suggested this book to me when I started asking them for help over some hurdles in my life, so I borrowed it from one of them, and before I even finished the book, I went out and purchased myself a copy. Boundaries helped me realize why I feel so overwhelmed all of the time--because I haven't set boundaries for myself, and so I can't say no to anyone including my friends, my boss, even myself. It taught me to know my limits and stay within them so that my yes actually means yes, and I can say no when I need to. Absolutely phenomenal.
Date published: 2016-12-20
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Amazing I found that this was a really amazing book to help establish for us limits in our lives. This book has helped aid my mental well-being in teaching me when to say no and when to say yes. What I love is that this is a general book and still hit so many points. There are specific boundary books available and I cannot wait to dig deeper in them.
Date published: 2016-11-16
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Excellent Read This book was recommended to my by a Psychologist. I realized a long time ago that a family member has major issues in this area. My concerns in this regard didn't seem to change anything. t bought the book for myself first and could not put it down. It has confirmed about my family member as well about myself in some areas. I have since sent a copy to my family member who is reading it with gusto and getting lots out of it. Next step hopefully will be to find a therapy group where she can build on the information. Extremely well written. Very powerful information.
Date published: 2015-04-13
Rated 5 out of 5 by from WRITTEN IN GOLD! I would highly recommend this book to anyone who has problems asserting themselves. There is much more to setting "Boundaries" than just learning to say, "No". Personal boundaries or the lack thereof affect everyone close to us as well as ourselves. Setting them will give amazing freedom. This book impressed me to the extent that I purchased ten more copies to pass on to friends and loved ones who also struggle with these issues.
Date published: 2011-02-03
Rated 5 out of 5 by from MUST HAVE, empowering, powerful, motivational, a parenting and marriage basic This book is for everyone! As a nation we might be more productive if we stop pointing fingers at others and take responsibility for what is in our "yard." We are born with a natural sense of boundary, which is our skin- (from the book)! Everyone has had a level of violatetion along the road, some much worse than others! Are we going to choose to focus on the violation or learn to understand who we are, despite any victimization we feel, that keeps us stunted relationally? A shift in focus on what we can control, is so powerful! I want that abundant life that we read about in the scriptures! Don't you? That means that we quit blaming others for who we are and take ownership of who we are matter how we got there. We still have the power to seek Gd to become whatever God has for us, but it won't happen, unless we are willing to fucus on what will make us stronger! Parenting, marriage, friendships, basically all relationships will flourish with an understanding of the principles that Townsend and Church teach so eliquently and humorously in this book! An easy read! I recommend 4 highlighters and 20 minute quiet times to really soak it up! I also love being in a small group lead by a very proficient small group leader that guides us through her testimony and love on the application of this book! God's Word is the inerrant, authoritative source for life and this book! All faiths, I believe would still benefit from this book, because of the physiological, emotional and relational approach to the subject matter! The video presentation is a wonderful addition for a small group! I recommend a very healthy discussion facilitater who knows boundaries before breaking down that way! Enjoy your NEW life!
Date published: 2008-08-05
Rated 5 out of 5 by from HEALTHY LIVING LOVING FREE SANCTIFIED SELF CONTROLLED REAL ABUNDANT -- this can be your life & faith IF you are ready to focus on yourself and not anyone else, get the book! If you are ready to take ownership over your own life and not blame anyone else, even if it was an injustice, then get the book! If you want to empower yourself, your children and your marriage, get the book! Did you know that one person can change a relationship, if the one is grounded in a REAL, HEALTHY relationship with Christ and desires to be humble and listen to Him. Get this book, if you are ready to use the practical tools to enjoy the abundant life that most only dream of! This is a life changing book, especially if you still blame someone from your past for damaging, victimizing, destroying you, abusing you! Learn to understand how God can use your hurts for His Glory and use you as an instrument of encouragement and motivation to others! Wouldn't it be neat to know that we (YOU) could have a story that would motivate others to have a story, to motivate others to have a story? God will bless you with such a joy, that we will learn to embrace every hurt as only a bump in our road to a greater, "YES!" Please get the book
Date published: 2008-08-05
Rated 5 out of 5 by from There is Light The feeling I can best describe is "there is light" when I finished reading this great book. Boundaries enables us to take a good look at the way we interact. The solutions are simple and refreshing. The work we have to do to, in order to resolve the problems, is not acomplished with a lot of tough inner work. The solutions is simply "it's okay to say no" the bible says so. They authors achieve this by using may quotes from the bible. Although the quotes may be not appeal to many they do give a sense of inner peace and this seem to make the changes happen. The great part if this book is that it absolve the fear, we seem to harbour, of not being a good person if we say "no".
Date published: 2000-09-07
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Must Read! How enlightening! By putting into place these ideas I can finally see how I could actually begin to have some control in life - not over other people, but over life events. I'm sorry I didn't read it sooner.
Date published: 2000-01-24

Editorial Reviews

'I've heard a myriad of sermons on Christian servanthood that never discussed the value of saying 'NO!' in order to confront in love or to provide space to recharge the batteries. 'Boundaries' is the 'Untold Story' -- the other side of love and servanthood that we need so desperately but that we hear so little about.' -- Howard G. Hendricks, Chairman