Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No by Henry Cloud

Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No

byHenry Cloud, John Townsend

Kobo ebook | September 9, 2008

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Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator -- Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: - Can I set limits and still be a loving person? - What are legitimate boundaries? - What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? - How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? - Aren't boundaries selfish? - Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.
Cofounder of Cloud/Townsend Communications, Henry Cloud is a popular speaker and licensed psychologist. Cloud graduated with a doctorate in clinical psychology from Rosemead Graduate School of Psychology and maintains a private practice in Newport Beach, California. Also a cohost of the nationally broadcast "Minirth Meier New Life Clin...
Title:Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say NoFormat:Kobo ebookPublished:September 9, 2008Publisher:ZondervanLanguage:English

The following ISBNs are associated with this title:

ISBN - 10:031029603X

ISBN - 13:9780310296034

Customer Reviews of Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No


Rated 1 out of 5 by from Excellent concept poorly exicuted I cannot give this book anything but one star because of the victim blaming language used in various parts of the book. Ex.) "They are afraid to admit that they ALLOWED this treatment." A statement made in reference to battered women who are being physically abused by their spouses or partners. These types of statements discredited the Authors as authority figures on the subject of boundaries, relationships and abuse.
Date published: 2015-08-29
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Enlightening Boundaries an excellent concept that can be applied to a number of life's situations to improve all relationships. The book may have over tones of Christianity related tones which I appreciated but even for those that are not the main points are really focused on improving relationships. The book defines boundaries, problems, myths, conflicts with different areas of one's life with examples of developing healthy boundaries. This is a must read as a sequel to the author other books on improving ones families life or work and employees
Date published: 2015-03-10
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Enlightening Easy read. The book had many relatable examples, and from there, one can apply things on which they can do to set boundaries with for example - their spouse, mother, and even from bosses and co-workers. Helpful book to people who just does not know how to say no.
Date published: 2014-01-27
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Worth a shot Too many religious references for my taste.
Date published: 2013-08-05
Rated 5 out of 5 by from HEALTHY LIVING LOVING FREE SANCTIFIED SELF CONTROLLED REAL ABUNDANT -- this can be your life & faith IF you are ready to focus on yourself and not anyone else, get the book! If you are ready to take ownership over your own life and not blame anyone else, even if it was an injustice, then get the book! If you want to empower yourself, your children and your marriage, get the book! Did you know that one person can change a relationship, if the one is grounded in a REAL, HEALTHY relationship with Christ and desires to be humble and listen to Him. Get this book, if you are ready to use the practical tools to enjoy the abundant life that most only dream of! This is a life changing book, especially if you still blame someone from your past for damaging, victimizing, destroying you, abusing you! Learn to understand how God can use your hurts for His Glory and use you as an instrument of encouragement and motivation to others! Wouldn't it be neat to know that we (YOU) could have a story that would motivate others to have a story, to motivate others to have a story? God will bless you with such a joy, that we will learn to embrace every hurt as only a bump in our road to a greater, "YES!" Please get the book
Date published: 2008-08-05
Rated 5 out of 5 by from There is Light The feeling I can best describe is "there is light" when I finished reading this great book. Boundaries enables us to take a good look at the way we interact. The solutions are simple and refreshing. The work we have to do to, in order to resolve the problems, is not acomplished with a lot of tough inner work. The solutions is simply "it's okay to say no" the bible says so. They authors achieve this by using may quotes from the bible. Although the quotes may be not appeal to many they do give a sense of inner peace and this seem to make the changes happen. The great part if this book is that it absolve the fear, we seem to harbour, of not being a good person if we say "no".
Date published: 2000-09-07
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Must Read! How enlightening! By putting into place these ideas I can finally see how I could actually begin to have some control in life - not over other people, but over life events. I'm sorry I didn't read it sooner.
Date published: 2000-01-24