By Her Side: Eating Disorders And The Joy Of Recovery For Young Women by Deborah P. SchoneBy Her Side: Eating Disorders And The Joy Of Recovery For Young Women by Deborah P. Schone

By Her Side: Eating Disorders And The Joy Of Recovery For Young Women

byDeborah P. Schone, Shelby L. Evans

Paperback | July 15, 2014

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I wish someone would make me stop!" Kristin Haroldsen, a beautiful, talented, and charming girl of sixteen struggled with bulimia until, tragically, her eating disorder took her life. Using actual journal entries, Deborah Schone, Kristin's best friend, re-creates her story and shares how Kristin's eating disorder changed the lives of her friends, her family, and thousands of people since that tragic day more than twenty-five years ago. For those who also find themselves by the side of a loved one struggling with an eating disorder, but are at a loss as to what to do, what to say, or where to turn for help, By Her Side offers a powerful, motivating resource. With an intimate portrait of the impact of eating disorders on all those around the victim, By Her Side explores the reality of eating disorders and the damage and devastation that can come if they go untreated. Family members and friends affected by the loss of a loved one share their personal and intimate accounts of losing someone at an early age as a result of eating disorder behaviors. Kristin's story is supported by educational information from Shelby Evans, a certified Substance Use Disorder Counselor, allowing the reader to gain insight and answers as well as access to resources for those seeking help. By Her Side also offers hope found in the inspiring story of a nurse who overcame her eating disorder and moved on to live a successful and happy life. "
Deborah P. Schone is one of eight children and has experienced the pain that is brought on through the chains of addiction. Through rearing her own eight children, two of whom are adopted, she has opened her heart and home to many who have struggled through life-altering choices. She and her family currently reside in St. George, Utah....
Title:By Her Side: Eating Disorders And The Joy Of Recovery For Young WomenFormat:PaperbackDimensions:180 pages, 8.12 × 5.79 × 0.43 inPublished:July 15, 2014Publisher:FamiliusLanguage:English

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In many ways, eating disorders are just like any other addiction.  For someone with an eating disorder, it serves an immediate purpose and offers comfort for them during their most difficult and desperate hours.  As with other addictions, eating disorders become the negative, go-to coping skill. Self-destructive behaviors that help the person suffering cope with life.  Since 2004, I have had the opportunity to work in a residential treatment center for women struggling with eating disorders and other addictions.  It has been an amazing and life changing experience to help these beautiful women along their very difficult journey to recovery. I wholeheartedly believe that people can learn, grow and make changes in their life.  People can get well and be set free from the grasps of addiction if they choose to. There is much to be learned as well as valuable insight to gain from reading Kristin’s story.  A story of how easily missed the warning signs and red flags can be until sadly, it is too late.  There is also a lot to learn from stories of those who have been tangled in the turmoil of this illness and been fortunate enough to live to see a better, happy, healthier life.  A life freed from the eating disorder!  Thankfully, not every story has to end as Kristin’s did.  Our hope is to generate some basic awareness of this mental illness and shed some light on the fact that there is hope! Healing can be found! And recovery is possible for those who genuinely want it!Throughout the years, I have been asked by many people what I do for a living.  I learned very early on that my response would generate a mixture of admiration, appreciation, questions, and great conversation. Whether I’m speaking with a man or a woman of any age, just the mention of eating disorders seems to pique their interest.  As soon as I describe the population I work with they want to know everything there is to know about eating disorders in a nutshell. If you ask anyone who has suffered from this illness; or who has worked closely around it, they will tell you that there isn’t a nutshell big enough to even begin to educate someone on the topic!  It is far too complex and often times too confusing to simply “get it” in one short conversation.  Most people would say…”it’s easy, they just need to eat”.   Obviously, they don’t get it!  Nevertheless, people are curious and want to know more about the mysterious illness they rarely hear specific details about.  Along with the questions and conversations that come from my response, it also produces some very ignorant and uneducated comments.  Again, from both men and woman who have inquired about what I do for a living.  I’m always surprised by how many people; jokingly or not, will say to me “I wish I had an eating disorder” or “I have one of those…I eat everything in sight”.  They laugh about their comment as if it’s the first time anyone has ever said that to me and then carry on with their day.  In their minds, they are equating an eating disorder to those extra 10 pounds they want to lose or having an extra piece of pie for dessert.  The truth is that eating disorders are so much more complicated than that.  For the person with an eating disorder it is a way of life, an obsession, an addiction, a driving force that controls their every thought and behavior day in and day out.  It’s as if they are constantly swimming in a sea of self-doubt, insecurities, shame and guilt.  If having an eating disorder sounds exhausting and a bit overwhelming…that’s because it is!For the person inquiring about what I do, our conversation comes and goes. In reality, they have no idea what they are referring to and “wishing” for.  I smile and end the conversation, all the while knowing the seriousness of the illness they are so misinformed about. It’s easier to laugh with them; or sometimes at them, than it is to explain the severity of what they are so light heartedly joking about.  People would never even consider making jokes about cancer or “wish” to be diagnosed with it.  Nothing about that would be funny because they are very aware of the tragedy it can bring to so many people. The harsh realities of cancer are well-known, often talked about and prevalent in our society. Unfortunately, the same wide-spread knowledge and understanding doesn’t apply as much to eating disorders.  And for whatever reason, people feel comfortable to laugh and joke about the things they don’t understand or know very much about.  If people truly understood the severity of the impact that eating disorders have on the lives of those affected, they might be surprised to learn that they are certainly nothing to joke about.  A review of nearly fifty years of research confirms that anorexia nervosa has the highest mortality rate of any psychiatric disorder (Arcelus, Mitchell, Wales, & Nielsen, 2011).  Definitely not something to “wish” for! That’s a pretty alarming and unsettling statistic when you consider the vast array of mental illness present in our society today.  We are in need of a population better informed and able to support those who struggle with this illness.  To give you a tiny glimpse into the mentality of an eating disorder, let us consider a scenario that could take place for anyone.  I want you to imagine for a minute that you hear your phone ringing. You pick up your phone and see that one of your best friends is calling.  You are very excited because this is a good friend whom you haven’t been able to connect with in awhile. You answer the phone call and begin the normal chit chat that most people do.  You might talk about how you’ve been, what your family is up to, the latest trip you went on or some other part of your day to day life.  It’s an easy conversation that you can only have with your closest friend.  You know the kind of friend… where you pick up right where you left off regardless of how much time has actually passed.  It’s as if you just talked on the phone yesterday! However, as the conversation continues you learn that your friend didn’t only call to chit chat and catch up.  Your friend called to invite you to attend a work event.  It would be a night out for dinner at one of the greatest restaurants in town.  And the best part is that the entire evening is going to be paid for by your friend’s employer!  For most of us, we would welcome the invitation, graciously accept and look forward to the event with excitement.  Some might even consider going shopping to find a new outfit to wear for the occasion.  For someone with an eating disorder, they might act as though they are happy to be invited, hesitantly accept the invitation, and hang up the phone only to experience shear dread and panic.  This scenario sounds dramatic but sadly isn’t too far from the truth.  Once they hang up the phone it’s highly likely that the eating disorder takes over and their mind begins to race.  In the moments to follow, it might sound something like this inside of their head… How am I supposed to eat in front of people at a nice restaurant?  What if everyone at the table listens to what I order and then watches me eat…or not eat?  What if there is a buffet and I can’t control myself?  I would feel so bad wasting someone else’s money on an expensive meal that I know I’m just going to throw up!  I would hate to binge and purge at a fancy restaurant or have my friend find out what I’m doing! I don’t have anything to wear that won’t make me stand out and look fat! I would be so scared and so uncomfortable in that setting. There are way too many triggers for me around people and food! I just don’t trust that I could act normal, I’m sure I can get out of going to it somehow…

Table of Contents

Chapter One: Baking Soda
Chapter Two: Friendship and Purge
Chapter Three: Parents Perspective
Chapter Four: Journal Entries
Chapter Five: Impact
Chapter Six: Moving On with Hope
Chapter Seven: Eating Disorders 101
Chapter Eight: Why?
Chapter Nine: Learning How to Cope
Chapter Ten: Taking Care vs. Caretaking
Chapter Eleven: Beauty from the Inside Out
Chapter Twelve: There Is Hope

Editorial Reviews

By Her Side addresses a commonly ignored topic that is plaguing our society today. This book illustrates the impact eating disorders can have on individuals and families, as well as the hope and encouragement that recovery is within reach." - Richard Paul Evans, #1 New York Times bestselling author "Eating disorders are a complicated and devastating form of disease that desperatelyneed attention within the realm of mental health treatment. With continued education and increased awareness, there is hope that the necessary treatments can be found for those in need. The information and education in By Her Side can prove to be helpful to those seeking answers, help, and hope." - Stacy Nearhood, LMHC (Licensed Mental Health Counselor) "The personal story and education in this book provide much needed awareness and knowledge to a society where eating disorders and disordered eating are rampant. Bringing to light the struggle individuals with an eating disorder go through is one of the first steps in the fight against eating disorders." - Torey Richards MS, RD "Eating Disorders can so easily consume the lives of young girls and even boys. It is critical that we educate and speak out on the damages that can occur from these diseases and how we can be more aware. I firmlybelieve the more we talk about these issues and provide support and understanding, we can save lives." - Iann Johnson, RN "This book provides MUCH needed insights into some of the emotional aspects that can lead to eating disorder related behavior as well as other addictions. I appreciate the attempt to create an awareness in society that we need to break down the facades of 'perfection' and support one another through the natural ups and downs of life's emotions." - Kim S. Muir, Advocate for Eating Disorder Awareness and Prevention, "While eating disorders take some of our loved ones away, there are many who find full recovery and live. This beautifully written book explores both of these pathways: grief and then healing from tragedy and the joy of full recovery from illness." - Michael E. Berrett, PhD, Psychologist, CEO and Co-founder of Center for Change, Co-author of Spiritual Approaches in the Treatment of Women with Eating Disorders "