Confessions of a Fairy's Daughter: Growing Up with a Gay Dad by Alison Wearing

Confessions of a Fairy's Daughter: Growing Up with a Gay Dad

byAlison Wearing

Kobo ebook | May 7, 2013

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Finalist for the Edna Staebler Award for Creative Non-Fiction [2014]
Longlisted for the RBC Taylor Prize [2014]

A moving memoir about growing up with a gay father in the 1980s, and a tribute to the power of truth, humour, acceptance and familial love.
Alison Wearing led a largely carefree childhood until she learned, at the age of 12, that her family was a little more complex than she had realized. Sure her father had always been unusual compared to the other dads in the neighbourhood: he loved to bake croissants, wear silk pyjamas around the house, and skip down the street singing songs from Gilbert and Sullivan operettas. But when he came out of the closet in the 1970s, when homosexuality was still a cardinal taboo, it was a shock to everyone in the quiet community of Peterborough, Ontario—especially to his wife and three children.
Alison’s father was a professor of political science and amateur choral conductor, her mother was an accomplished pianist and marathon runner, and together they had fed the family a steady diet of arts, adventures, mishaps, normal frustrations and inexhaustible laughter. Yet despite these agreeable circumstances, Joe’s internal life was haunted by conflicting desires. As he began to explore and understand the truth about himself, he became determined to find a way to live both as a gay man and also a devoted father, something almost unheard of at the time. Through extraordinary excerpts from his own letters and journals from the years of his coming out, we read of Joe’s private struggle to make sense and beauty of his life, to take inspiration from an evolving society and become part of the vanguard of the gay revolution in Canada.
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Confessions of a Fairy’s Daughter is also the story of “coming out” as the daughter of a gay father. Already wrestling with an adolescent’s search for identity when her father came out of the closet, Alison promptly “went in,” concealing his sexual orientation from her friends and spinning extravagant stories about all of the “great straight things” they did together. Over time, Alison came to see that life with her father was surprisingly interesting and entertaining, even oddly inspiring, and in fact, there was nothing to hide.
Balancing intimacy, history and downright hilarity, Confessions of a Fairy’s Daughter is a captivating tale of family life: deliciously imperfect, riotously challenging, and full of life’s great lessons in love. Alison brings her story to life with a skillfully light touch in this warm, heartfelt and revelatory memoir.

Title:Confessions of a Fairy's Daughter: Growing Up with a Gay DadFormat:Kobo ebookPublished:May 7, 2013Publisher:Knopf CanadaLanguage:English

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ISBN - 10:0345807618

ISBN - 13:9780345807618

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Rated 1 out of 5 by from can I have that hour back please :) I found this book terrible i expected it to be more of how her life was with her dad being gay and I was expecting lots of prejudiced however this book was more about how her life was different I didn't even say any prejudiced. I found this one lackluster and very hard to get into.
Date published: 2017-11-11
Rated 5 out of 5 by from So Heartwarming! I loved this book in a quiet way. There was no tearing through pages. This is a tender, warm-hearted book about love, family, acceptance and the right to love whomever you choose. Wearing set out to write a book about the gay revolution in the 70's and 80's in Toronto, hoping to use her father's part in it as a jumping point. But after her father passes her a box of journals, newspaper clippings and letters from his days of coming out, she realized this story was really about him. By the end of the book, I felt like I knew Joe Wearing (and loved him too); his questioning, his suffering, his constant love for his family, and ultimately his happiness. Highly recommend!
Date published: 2015-06-09
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Educational, historical & emotional This book provided a fascinating look at what it was like for the gay community to find their voice in the early 70's and how the rights they have today are owed so greatly to that period in time. It also provided a greater understanding of the struggles of those I know who are openly gay, have grown up with or are growing up with gay parents. For this reason, everybody should read this book. You can however skip the last 2 sections, part 1 & 2 were enough to relay the message.
Date published: 2014-09-24
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Educational, historical & emotional What a fantastic book, I thoroughly enjoyed it. Warm and heartfelt!
Date published: 2014-01-24
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Excellent read! An excellent memoir and worth every moment spent reading it! Thank you, Phyllis, for recommending it to me!
Date published: 2013-10-21
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Excellent read! An excellent memoir and worth every moment spent reading it! Thank you, Phyllis, for recommending it to me!
Date published: 2013-10-21
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Excellent read! Alison You wrote a beautiful book with such taste and grace and wit. Truly one of the sweetest and heartfelt I've read. Thanks for the shout out in one chapter ,you brought back a lot of memories both about Peterborough and about the times we lived in. I recall you. Told me about your father back then, but we were too you g to know what it all really. Meant. I went to Falsettos , but didn't speak to Glynis as there were a ton of others there (It wasn't a great production of the show so that's probably a good thing as I never know what to say) I hope one day when you're in TO soon we can catch up. Currently I'm technical director at the Richmond hill centre but live in Riverdale with, that's right, my partner of 14 years , Andrew, who designs for Neinkamper furniture. All the best to you m'lady, and cheers to a terrific read!
Date published: 2013-05-19