Disarming The Narcissist: Surviving And Thriving With The Self-absorbed by Wendy T. BeharyDisarming The Narcissist: Surviving And Thriving With The Self-absorbed by Wendy T. Behary

Disarming The Narcissist: Surviving And Thriving With The Self-absorbed

byWendy T. BeharyForeword byJeffrey YoungPreface byDaniel J. Siegel

Paperback | July 1, 2013

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Disarming the Narcissist, Second Edition, is a practical, step-by-step communication guide for coping with and confronting a narcissist. In the book, readers learn how to respond with empathy, separate themselves from the narcissist's traps, and gain the respect and validation they deserve. This edition includes new chapters dealing with narcissistic women, aggressive and abusive narcissists, strategies for safety, and the link between narcissism and sex addiction. Do you know someone who is overly arrogant, shows an extreme lack of empathy, or exhibits an inflated sense of entitlement? Do they exploit others, or engage in magical thinking? These are all traits of narcissistic personality disorder, and when it comes to dealing with narcissists, it can be difficult to get your point across. So how do you handle the narcissistic people in your life? You might interact with them in social or professional settings, and you might even love one-so ignoring them isn't really a practical solution. They're frustrating, and maybe even intimidating, but ultimately, you need to find a way of communicating effectively with them.
Disarming the Narcissist, Second Edition, will show you how to move past the narcissist's defenses using compassionate, empathetic communication. You'll learn how narcissists view the world, how to navigate their coping styles, and why, oftentimes, it's sad and lonely being a narcissist. By learning to anticipate and avoid certain hot-button issues, you'll be able to relate to narcissists without triggering aggression. By validating some common narcissistic concerns, you'll also find out how to be heard in conversation with a narcissist.
This book will help you learn to meet your own needs while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments with someone who is at the center of his or her own universe. This new edition also includes new chapters on dealing with narcissistic women, aggressive and abusive narcissists, strategies for safety, and the link between narcissism and sex addiction.
Finally, you'll learn how to set limits with your narcissist and when it's time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior.
Wendy T. Behary, LCSW, is founder and clinical director of the Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and a faculty member at the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York. She is also a distinguished founding fellow of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. She maintains a private practice, specializing in narcissis...
Title:Disarming The Narcissist: Surviving And Thriving With The Self-absorbedFormat:PaperbackDimensions:224 pages, 9 × 6 × 0.51 inPublished:July 1, 2013Publisher:New Harbinger PublicationsLanguage:English

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Rated 4 out of 5 by from Very Helpful I originally borrowed this from the library, renewed it twice, loaned it to several people, etc. I find it helpful enough that I am now I'm buying it. What I liked is that it sheds light on categorizing what type of narcissist you are dealing with, understanding how they operate and gives strategies for trying to cope with their destructive behaviour. There are narcissists you can't simply blot out of your life (siblings, parents, children, etc.) without blotting out other family members with whom you do want a relationship. This book gives ideas on how to deal with the narcissists within that framework.
Date published: 2015-12-28
Rated 1 out of 5 by from Self destructive tosh. An utter waste of your time and money, unless you are a total masochist. This book advocates coping the abuse "with understanding." Continuing the abusive relationship you are probably in desperate need to get out of, if you are searching for solutions here. This book is not a solution. Getting out, or distancing yourself from, the abusive relationship and rebuilding your self esteem is. You will not find that here, this book advocates you changing to suit the narcissist, maintaining and exaggerating further the one sided relationship you are already in. (You can be assured he, or she, will not change the cancerous habits of a lifetime, on the contrary, according to most professional opinions, will probably get worse as they get older). This book would take you on a foolish and self destructive path, leading to more misery and playing right into the narcissist's hands. Move on and get help in doing so.
Date published: 2015-02-28

Editorial Reviews

Wendy Behary has dedicated decades to understanding narcissism, both as a clinician and a scholar. In Disarming the Narcissist, she distills these hard-won insights into a very readable form. This book is a terrific resource for those looking to better understand narcissism." - W. Keith Campbell, PhD, professor in the department of psychology at the University of Georgia and author of The Narcissism Epidemic "