Discipline without Damage: How to Get Your Kids to Behave Without Messing Them Up by Vanessa Lapointe

Discipline without Damage: How to Get Your Kids to Behave Without Messing Them Up

byVanessa Lapointe, Dr. Laura Markham

Kobo ebook | January 1, 2016

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In this easy-to-read, science-based book, parents, caregivers, and adults of all kinds discover how discipline affects children’s development, why intervention should reinforce connection not separation, and why the disciplinary strategies that may have been used on us as children are not the ones that children really need. As a practicing child and family psychologist and advisor to the British Columbia ministry of children and families, Dr. Vanessa has seen it all, and she has navigated hundreds of tough situations with families. Drawing on scientific research and a wealth of clinical experience, she shows you how to put out the fire without dampening your child’s spirits; how to correct their behavior while emphasizing connection; and how to discipline without damage.

Title:Discipline without Damage: How to Get Your Kids to Behave Without Messing Them UpFormat:Kobo ebookPublished:January 1, 2016Publisher:Greystone BooksLanguage:English

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ISBN - 10:1928055117

ISBN - 13:9781928055112

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Date published: 2018-03-11
Rated 5 out of 5 by from fantastic parenting book one of the best ever fantastic parenting book, the best i've read in years (and I've read a lot). Professor Lapointe talks about how to build your relationship with your kids so they WANT to obey you, instead of FORCING them to obey you under the duress of time outs, punishments, etc. In my experience a way more harmonious way to parent, building the child up, getting the results, not to mention keeping my own blood pressure down ;-)
Date published: 2016-09-16
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Finally, a book for all ages of kids! Discipline Without Damage: How to Get your Kids to Behave Without Messing Them Up by Dr. Vanessa Lapointe. I’m so tired of parenting labels: Tiger Mom, Helicopter Parenting, Free-Range and more. This book does not label any parent. Instead it helps you address the cause of your child’s misbehavior. “They misbehave because they’re emotionally disregulated.” Dr. Lapointe has structured this book to help parents connect instead of reconnect. She shows you how to approach the meltdown through a compassionate lens. Young children need to connect to feel safe, secure and regulate. The book’s format is easy to follow along as it is divided into two parts; part science and part practice. The doctor also includes personal examples in her parenting journey. I kept nodding through out the whole book. I have a question for Dr. Lapointe: any advice for kids who do not have self-regulation skills? My 7 year-old is on the spectrum and has meltdowns in public and home still. This book is great for parents of infants to teenagers. I highly recommend it.
Date published: 2016-01-16