Drop the Worry Ball: How to Parent in the Age of Entitlement by Alex RussellDrop the Worry Ball: How to Parent in the Age of Entitlement by Alex Russell

Drop the Worry Ball: How to Parent in the Age of Entitlement

byAlex Russell, Tim Falconer

Paperback | April 24, 2012

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How to avoid being a helicopter parent—and raise well adjusted, truly independent children

In an age of entitlement, where most kids think they deserve the best of everything, most parents are afraid of failing their children. Not only are they all too willing to provide every material comfort, they've also become overly involved in their children's lives, becoming meddlesome managers, rather than sympathetic advocates. In Drop the Worry Ball, authors Alex Russell and Tim Falconer offer a refreshing approach to raising well-adjusted children—who are also independent and unafraid to make mistakes.

In this practical sensible book, parents will truly understand the dynamics between parents and their children, especially the tendency of children to recruit their parents to do too much for them. The book also counsels that failing—whether it's a test, a course, or a tryout for a team—is a natural part of growing up, and not a sign of parental incompetence.

  • Shows how to resist the pressure to become over involved in your child's life
  • How to retire as a gatekeeper or manager of your child's life, and become a genuine source of support
  • Build trusting relationships with teachers, coaches, camp counselors, and other authority figures—so they can play an effective role in your child's life
  • Understand problems such as ADHD, anxiety, and substance abuse

A guidebook for parenting courageously and responsibly—allowing your kids to be who they are while building structures that keep them safe—Drop the Worry Ball is a must for any parent who wishes to be and do their very best.

Alex Russell (PhD, CPsych) is a clinical psychologist and a research affiliate with the Hincks-Dellcrest Institute in Toronto. A popular speaker, he provides assessments and therapy to children and adults, consults to schools and is the father of two teenagers.Tim Falconer is the author of three non-fiction books, including Drive: A Ro...
Title:Drop the Worry Ball: How to Parent in the Age of EntitlementFormat:PaperbackDimensions:256 pages, 8.46 × 5.47 × 0.59 inPublished:April 24, 2012Publisher:WileyLanguage:English

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Table of Contents

Introduction 1

Chapter 1 – Parenting from the Bench 7

Hockey Dad 8

Children Once Grew Up; Now We Raise Them 11

The Island Family and the Family Island 15

Childhood Revolution 17

What We Worry About 22

The Worry Ball 26

Painful, Non-Catastrophic Failure 28

The Park Bench 30

Chapter 2 – Obligated Parents and Entitled Kids 35

The Age of Entitlement 39

Getting Perspective 42

Whose Problem Is It? 46

Minding versus Acting 48

Too Much of a Good Thing 51

Stories of Woe 53

Chapter 3 – "I Don't Want to Grow Up" 61

The Problem of Reality 65

The Terrible Twos 68

Power Struggles 71

Master and Slave 75

Gaining Respect 80

Chapter 4 – School and the "Looming Conveyor Belt of Life" 89

"Will This Be on the Exam?" 92

Trusting Teachers 94

Please and Appease 97

Don't Be a Homework Cop 101

Finding Flow 104

Minding the Children 107

Chapter 5 – Sex, Drugs and Video Games 115

Doomed to Fail 120

Being Bad 124

Scary Digital Age 129

The Handheld Danger 132

The Book on Facebook 135

Being Interested 136

Chapter 6 – Cheering Failure 145

Teenage Wasteland 147

United We Stand; Divided We Fall 150

The Two-Headed Parenting Monster 154

External Authority 158

Beyond Praise 160

Everyone Screws Up 164

Chapter 7 – Disabilities, Disorders and Disasters 171

Special Needs in Childhood 175

Learned Helplessness 177

Illnesses, Disorders and Labels 180

Frontal Lobes 184

Avoidance Disorder—Not Otherwise Specified 187

Suicide 192

A Happy Ending for Philippe 196

Chapter 8 – Building a Village 201

The Tree Fort 204

The Ingredients of a Village 206

Us Against Them 209

Safety Second 214

Over-Caring 216

Sharing the Load 218

Chapter 9 – Building an Adult 223

Looking After Yourself 226

From Child to Adult 228

Some Essential "Scraped Knees" of Childhood: When a Child Can Handle What 232

Parental Perspective = A Confident Child 237

Doing Your Best 241

Acknowledgments 245