Family Ties That Bind: A self-help guide to change through Family of Origin therapy by Dr. Ronald W. RichardsonFamily Ties That Bind: A self-help guide to change through Family of Origin therapy by Dr. Ronald W. Richardson

Family Ties That Bind: A self-help guide to change through Family of Origin therapy

byDr. Ronald W. Richardson

Perfect | April 1, 2011

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Improve your personal relationships Most people’s lives are complicated by family relationships. Birth order, our parents’ relationship, and the “rules” we were brought up with can affect our self-esteem and relationships with spouses, children, and other family members. Family of Origin therapy and techniques can help you create better relationships. This easy-to-read, practical book explains how families function and what you can do to change the way you act in your family and with other people. Exercises show how to apply the principles to your own situation and develop a more positive approach to all aspects of your life. Topics covered include: * What makes it so difficult to be myself with my family? * How is my relationship with my spouse affected by how my family acted when I was a child? * Will my parents still love me if I let them know my real feelings? * How has my birth order and my gender affected my personality? * What birth order in a spouse is the best match for me? * Why do I always feel rejected when my spouse disagrees with me? * How can I change the way I react? * What role does my family history play in my life? * How can I improve my communication skills?Step-by-step exercises show how to make contact with “lost” family members, how to interview relatives to develop a clearer picture of how each member fits into the family tree, and how to find different and better ways of dealing with family relationships. Professionals will also find this book a useful companion to their therapy sessions with clients. - 20110307
Dr. Ronald W. Richardson, BA, MDiv, DMin, has been a marriage counselor and family therapist since 1976. He retired in 1996. He was formerly the Executive Director and Director of Training at the North Shore Counselling Centre in British Columbia. He was also on the faculty of the Pacific Coast Family Therapy Training Association. He i...
Title:Family Ties That Bind: A self-help guide to change through Family of Origin therapyFormat:PerfectDimensions:152 pages, 9 × 6 × 0.32 inPublished:April 1, 2011Publisher:Self-Counsel PressLanguage:English

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ISBN - 10:1770400869

ISBN - 13:9781770400863


Table of Contents

1 INTRODUCTION 12 FAMILIES ARE STRANGE CREATURES 81. The Hip Bone’s Connected to the Thigh Bone —How Families Work 82. Eat Your Spinach — Rules in the Family 123 YOU NEVER TALK TO ME — CLOSENESS AND DISTANCEAMONG FAMILY MEMBERS 171. Come Closer — Not Too Close 172. Appearances Are Deceiving 203. All the World Wants a Mommy 224 YOU’RE NOT BETTER, JUST DIFFERENT —DEALING WITH DIFFERENCES 241. I Say Tomato, You Say Tomahto —Anxiety about Differences 242. Do It My Way or Else — The Demand for Sameness 262.1 “I only want what you want, dear” —The compliant ones 262.2 “I did it my way” — The rebels 292.3 “I’m the king of the mountain” — The attackers 302.4 “Bye-bye” — The cutoff 33vi Family ties that bind5 HOW TO BE TRUE TO YOURSELF AND STILL HAVE FRIENDS 351. Free to Be Me — Being Yourself and KnowingWho That Is 351.1 Being goal-directed 371.2 Distinguishing between thinking and feeling 382. Stuck in the Mess — Fusion 413. You Made Me Do It — Being Responsible for Yourself 454. Let Mother Take Care of It — Under-Functioningand Over-Functioning 474.1 Negative consequences 474.2 Positive consequences 495. Conclusion 496 TRIANGLES IN RELATIONSHIPS 521. Three’s a Crowd — What Is a Triangle Anyway? 532. How Triangles Operate 573. You and Me Against Her — The Meaning of Coalitionsin Triangles 614. The World Is a Stage — Roles in the Triangle 677 WHO’S ON FIRST? — BIRTH ORDER ANDGENDER POSITION IN THE FAMILY OF ORIGIN 711. The Oldest Child 751.1 Oldest sister of sisters 771.2 Oldest sister of brothers 771.3 Oldest brother of brothers 781.4 Oldest brother of sisters 792. The Youngest Child 802.1 Youngest sister of sisters 812.2 Youngest sister of brothers 822.3 Youngest brother of brothers 832.4 Youngest brother of sisters 833. The Middle Child 84Contents vii4. The Only Child 874.1 Male only child 884.2 Female only child 895. Twins 908 DOING THE WORK 92Step 1 — The Begats: Who Is in Your Family? 93Step 2 — Hello, Mom. Remember Me?:Contacting Family Members 97Step 3 — Developing a History 100Step 4 — Dr. Livingston, I Presume?: Researching 102Step 5 — You Can Go Home Again: Making Family Visits 107Step 6 — This Is Me, Like It or Not: Differentiating 113Step 7 — Redoing It 1189 THE AUTHOR’S OWN FAMILY OF ORIGIN WORK 1201. My Own Family Circumstances 1211.1 My family diagram 1232. Starting the Work 1253. The Work Progresses 1274. Dealing with Triangles 1305. Differentiation of Self 1326. Conclusion 134APPENDIX I:Family Research 135APPENDIX II:Finding Professional Help For Doing Family Of Origin Work 139 - 20110713