the author of the blockbuster bestseller The Game comes a shockingly
personal, surprisingly relatable, brutally honest memoir, in which the
celebrated dating expert confronts the greatest challenge he has ever faced:
monogamy and fidelity.
of us are told, from the moment we are old enough to understand a story, that
there is a golden path waiting to take us safely through the jungle of life:
get a good job, fall in love, get married, have children, and live happily ever
after. It sounds simple enough. Yet as a species, we seem to have an incredibly
difficult time making it happen. So, one day, I looked around and saw my
friends frustrated and neglected in their marriages-some being unfaithful,
others white-knuckling it, many surrendering to their fate, and a few living in
denial. And I saw myself still unmarried, childless, and, in the biggest
disappointment of all to myself, cheating. And I wondered if it was possible to
change the odds-and the rules-for myself.
story that follows, however, is not a journey that was undertaken by choice or
for the purposes of a book. It is a painfully honest account of a life crisis
that was forced on me by my own behavior and its consequences. And as such, it
requires sharing a lot of things I'm not proud of-and a few things I feel like
I should regret a whole lot more than I actually do. Because, unfortunately, I
am not the hero in this tale. I am the villain."
Strauss became famous to millions around the world as the author of The Game,
a funny and slyly instructive account of how he transformed himself from a
scrawny, insecure nerd into the ultra-confident, ultra-successful "pickup
artist" known as Style. The book jump-started the international "seduction
community" and made Strauss a household name-revered or notorious-among single
men and women alike.
the experience of writing The Game also transformed Strauss into a man
who could have what every man wants: the ability to date-and/or have casual sex
with-almost every woman he met. The results were heady, to be sure. But they
also conditioned him to view the world as a kind of constant parade of women,
sex, and opportunity-with intimacy and long-term commitment taking a back seat.
That is, until he met the woman who forced him to choose between herself and
the parade. The choice was not only difficult, it was wrenching. It forced him
deep into his past, to confront not only the moral dimensions of his pickup
lifestyle but also a wrenching mystery in his childhood that shaped the man
that he became. It sent him into extremes of behavior that exposed just how
conflicted his life had become. And it made him question everything he knew
about himself, and about the way men and women live with and without each
would never be the same again.
honest, compulsively readable, this new book may have the same effect on you.