Help! My Kids Are Hurting: A Survival Guide to Working with Students in Pain by Marv PennerHelp! My Kids Are Hurting: A Survival Guide to Working with Students in Pain by Marv Penner

Help! My Kids Are Hurting: A Survival Guide to Working with Students in Pain

byMarv Penner

Paperback | December 26, 2005

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A Survival Guide to Working with Students in Pain This book provides a wide range of appropriate interventions and fundamental people-helping skills, as well as critical help for youth workers to recognize their limitations and learn the principles of effective referral. This practical and informative book is essential for any untrained youth worker, and will be a vital tool for any youth pastor to share with their staff.

Marv Penner is a youth ministry expert with more than 30 years in the field, chairs the youth and family ministry department at Briercrest Graduate School in Saskatchewan, Canada. He's also director of the Canadian Centre of Adolescent Research and author of "The Youth Worker's Guide to Parent Ministry" and "Help! My Kids Are Hurting....
Title:Help! My Kids Are Hurting: A Survival Guide to Working with Students in PainFormat:PaperbackDimensions:144 pages, 8 × 5.31 × 0.44 inPublished:December 26, 2005Publisher:Zondervan/Youth SpecialtiesLanguage:English

The following ISBNs are associated with this title:

ISBN - 10:0310267080

ISBN - 13:9780310267089


Rated 5 out of 5 by from The book all youth workers should read This book should be mandatory reading for anyone in youth ministry. Penner spends the first half of the book building a framework for working with youth who are hurting and finding ways to mask or deal with this hurt in all different ways. He talks about boundaries, various styles of caring and what hurting kids want from us. He affirms the trained and untrained workers in their capacity to walk alongside hurting youth simply because they care and reminds us that ultimately God cares for the youth under our charge more than any of us could. He then provides an overview of the common challenges we are likely to face with youth who are hurting by providing some understanding, suggestions for how to respond or not to respond, and suggested reading to dive deeper into the topic. Penner manages to take the reader into the dark and often secret parts of teenagers in such a way that gives us hope.
Date published: 2017-01-20

Table of Contents

ContentsPreface 6Introduction 8Section One: Understanding the World of Hurting Kids 11Chapter 1: Five Things You Can Count On 12Chapter 2: Eight Unique Challenges of Working with Kids in Pain 15Section Two: Becoming a Person Who Can Help Hurting Kids 21Chapter 3: What Do Hurting Kids Want from Us? 22Chapter 4: What about Boundaries? 24Chapter 5: What's Your Style---Hugger, Teacher, Preacher, or Surgeon? 29Chapter 6: Sorting Through Your Own Baggage 39Section Three: The Nuts and Bolts of Helping Hurting Kids 43Chapter 7: It's All about L.O.V.E. 44Chapter 8: "L" Is for LISTEN 47Chapter 9: "O" Is for OFFER 54Chapter 10: "V" Is for VALIDATE 62Chapter 11: "E" Is for ELIMINATE, EMPOWER, and EXPECT 69Chapter 12: Mistakes That Can Destroy Your Ministry with Hurting Kids 76Section Four: When You're Out of Your Depth: Rules for Referral 83Chapter 13: Why You Should Refer a Hurting Student 85Chapter 14: When You Should Refer a Hurting Student 89Chapter 15: How You Should Refer a Hurting Student 97Section Five: Tackling the Tough Stuff---10 Topics You Need to Understand 99Chapter 16: Eating Disorders 100Chapter 17: Adolescent Suicide 104Chapter 18: Rape, Acquaintance Rape, and Sexual Assault 109Chapter 19: Adolescent Pregnancy 113Chapter 20: Substance Abuse 117Chapter 21: Grief and Loss 122Chapter 22: Self-Injury 127Chapter 23: Family Breakdown 130Chapter 24: Pornography and Sexual Addictions 134Chapter 25: Adolescent Depression 138Final Thoughts 142