How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To by Janis A. SpringHow Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To by Janis A. Spring

How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To

byJanis A. Spring

Paperback | February 1, 2005

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Until now, we have been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. Dr. Spring, a gifted therapist and the award-winning author of After the Affair, proposes a radical, life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives—without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for genuine forgiveness—one that asks as much of the offender as it does of us.

This bold and healing book offers step-by-step, concrete instructions that help us make peace with others and with ourselves, while answering such crucial questions as these:

  • How do I forgive someone who is unremorseful or dead?
  • When is forgiveness cheap?
  • What is wrong with refusing to forgive?
  • How can the offender earn forgiveness?
  • How do we forgive ourselves for hurting another human being?
Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., is a nationally acclaimed expert on issues of trust, intimacy, and forgiveness. In private practice in Westport, Connecticut, she is the author of the award-winning How Can I Forgive You?, The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To, andLife with Pop: Lessons on Caring for an Aging Parent.
Title:How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not ToFormat:PaperbackDimensions:272 pages, 8 × 5.31 × 0.61 inPublished:February 1, 2005Publisher:HarperCollinsLanguage:English

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ISBN - 10:0060009314

ISBN - 13:9780060009311

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Rated 5 out of 5 by from Highly Recommended This book is an absolutely excellent resource for anyone struggling to deal with interpersonal injuries either as victim or perpetrator. The information and ideas are clearly and simply presented, with a balance of respect, wisdom and compassion. The frequent examples used in the book, provide illustration and enliven and enhance the text. This book is very clearly written; direct and accessible.
Date published: 2008-02-13
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Healthy Forgiveness is True Forgiveness Written in a compassionate and wise manner intended for those who have experienced a very harrowing situation, this book explores and offers emotionally healthy tools for healing the deepest hurts inflicted by someone very close to us. Based on real-life case stories the book explores in a reality-oriented manner the paradox of true forgiveness that allows deep and complete healing for a person. This is not about blaming the victim or sugar-coated attempts at glossing over mud with whip cream ... it is getting to the core hurt and really mending a broken heart so it is stronger and wiser and safer than before. A must read!
Date published: 2006-10-10

Editorial Reviews

“A fresh and original approach to an ancient challenge.”