How To Be A Bawse: A Guide To Conquering Life by Lilly SinghHow To Be A Bawse: A Guide To Conquering Life by Lilly Singh

How To Be A Bawse: A Guide To Conquering Life

byLilly Singh

Hardcover | March 28, 2017

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From the 2017 People's Choice Award winner for Favorite YouTube Star comes the definitive guide to being a bawse: a person who exudes confidence, hustles relentlessly and smiles genuinely because he or she has fought through it all and made it out the other side.

Lilly Singh isn't just a superstar. She's Superwoman—which is also the name of her wildly popular YouTube channel. Funny, smart and insightful, the actress and comedian covers topics ranging from relationships to career choices to everyday annoyances. It's no wonder she's garnered more than a billion views. But Lilly didn't get to the top by being lucky—she had to work for it. Hard.

Now Lilly wants to share the lessons she learned while taking the world by storm, and the tools she used to do it. How to Be a Bawse is the definitive guide to conquering life. Make no mistake, there are no shortcuts to success, personal or professional. World domination requires real effort, dedication and determination. Just consider Lilly a personal trainer for your life—with fifty rules to get you in the game, including:

• Let Go of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out): Temptation will try to steer you away from your goals. FOMO is just a test of your priorities, a test that a bawse is ready to pass.
• Be Nice to People: Treat niceness like an item on your daily to-do list. People will go out of their way to help and support you because you make them feel good.
• Schedule Inspiration: Lack of motivation isn't permanent or a sign of weakness. Expect it and proactively schedule time to be creative. 
• Be the Dumbest: Challenge yourself by surrounding yourself with people who know more than you do. It's a vital way to learn and improve.
Told in Lilly's hilarious, bold voice and packed with photos and candid stories from her journey to the top, How to Be a Bawse will make you love your life and yourself—even more than you love Beyoncé. (Yes, we said it!)
WARNING: This book does not include hopeful thoughts, lucky charms or cute quotes. That's because success, happiness and everything else you want in life need to be worked for, not wished for. In Lilly's world, there are no escalators, only stairs. Get ready to climb.

Praise for How to Be a Bawse:
"Lilly is a bona fide #girlboss, boss and bawse. Her meteoric rise has come with so many incredible lessons that we are all lucky to have access to. This book is a must-have for the hustler in all of us."—Sophia Amoruso, founder and CEO, Girlboss
LILLY SINGH (aka ||Superwoman||) is a multifaceted entertainer. She has found worldwide fame through her comedic and inspirational YouTube videos, amassing more than ten million subscribers. She has appeared in the feature films Ice Age: Collision Course and Bad Moms, and in 2016 she starred in and produced her own feature-length film,...
Title:How To Be A Bawse: A Guide To Conquering LifeFormat:HardcoverProduct dimensions:336 pages, 9.4 × 6.43 × 1.05 inShipping dimensions:9.4 × 6.43 × 1.05 inPublished:March 28, 2017Publisher:Doubleday CanadaLanguage:English

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Rated 2 out of 5 by from An ok book I did not finish reading this book. If you are a fan then yes it is for you. A tad too repetitive
Date published: 2018-09-19
Rated 5 out of 5 by from An amazing book! I have been a fan of Lilly Singh for a long time and was so happy when she came out with a book. I finally got around to buying the book and have only read a couple pages but already in love. Highly recommend. 3g
Date published: 2018-09-17
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Life-Changer This book has changed my life. It's short easy-to-read chapters makes it the ideal book to keep for life. I open it up whenever I am in need of a little inpiration. Would recommend it to anyone looking to add a little colour and vibrance in their life much like Singh herself.
Date published: 2018-08-01
Rated 4 out of 5 by from SO GOOD! I bought this a couple of months ago and its so good! She inspires people on how to be self confident! And a total BAWSE! I loved this book!
Date published: 2018-07-29
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Inspiring! A go-to book for every girl wishing to conquer the world!
Date published: 2018-07-25
Rated 4 out of 5 by from I loved This!!! This book helped me get through some times and it was an awesome book in general!
Date published: 2018-07-07
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Okay An okay read, entertaining in spots but not a page turner.
Date published: 2018-06-25
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Superwoman LILLY SINGH (aka ||Superwoman||) is a multifaceted entertainer. She has found worldwide fame through her comedic and inspirational YouTube videos,
Date published: 2018-05-10
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Great book! I'm so glad that this book was introduced to me. Def feeling more inspired to give my all to reach me goals!
Date published: 2018-05-02
Rated 5 out of 5 by from SUPER! Loved this! The book provided a lot of insight for Lilly's success.
Date published: 2018-03-17
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Much different than what I expected! WOW! To be honest I'm not a very big fan of these popular youtubers, and I had a few assumptions about how this book would be. I was very pleasantly surprised at how inspired I now feel after reading this book!! #plumreview
Date published: 2018-01-05
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Great book for teenagers (and parents too) Even this book was purchased for a teenager, I also read it. It helps me understand how to talk to teenagers in their language.
Date published: 2017-12-30
Rated 5 out of 5 by from I love this book I am in love with this book. Lilly is such a inspiration and she is a bawse!!!
Date published: 2017-12-29
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Inspirational! I truly loved this book and saw it as a tool of self-motivation. It inspired me in many different ways, and I can even say that it helped me get back up!
Date published: 2017-12-14
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Inspiring The book is inspiring and makes you work harder to achieve your goals. Lilly is truly superwoman.
Date published: 2017-12-01
Rated 5 out of 5 by from A must have! This book is amazing! I am a fan of her YouTube channel and definitely had to read her book. You don't need to be familiar with her channel to enjoy this book. She shares some great insights to life and I would definitely recommend this to everyone! It's a book that everyone should read.
Date published: 2017-11-28
Rated 5 out of 5 by from I love her! I think this is a great read for young adolescence but ALSO a great reminder to adults, I found myself hearing her voice reciting the words from the book when encountering moments of FOMO!
Date published: 2017-11-25
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Loved It! I have been a fan of Lilly for years, so when I seen this I had to get it! I think it book is fun, powerful, serious, just a bit of everything you need!
Date published: 2017-11-18
Rated 5 out of 5 by from A Lot Packed Into One Book A surprisingly HEAVY book for not a large volume. But all the chapters feel as though the author worked very hard and thought about what message she wanted to bring across. I have people in my life that would benefit from this book, which is one part comedy, one part biography, one part self-help book.
Date published: 2017-11-17
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Not for Me I have been a fan of Lilly for years, so naturally, I am glad to have supported her novel. It contains a great deal of advice, some of it a little repetitive but mostly helpful. I thought it could have benefited from fewer pop culture references and more insight on the points themselves. She does convey her honest opinion that runs consistent with her videos. As a self-help book, I would read this if you are in the age ranges of high school to early university years. I find her advice was geared towards very narrow approach of working to the bone for a nameless goal that seems to imply fame and riches. That would not be my idea of "conquering life". As a twenty-four year old, I found myself thinking more than once, "This is very obvious." The advice may be better suited for my much younger self. Her many chapters dedicated to each point are steps, but I would personally have benefited from her intimate thought process of changing her mindset from negatives and unproductive to positive and productive. Some chapters touch more on this than others and provide tips, though never really digging to the root of her emotions and motivation. Perhaps that was just not the goal for this book. Overall, it was an alright read, but will better benefit the ones looking for a similar career path.
Date published: 2017-11-04
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Super! Straight to the point. Awesome for building power from within.
Date published: 2017-10-26
Rated 5 out of 5 by from So motivational! This book was such an eye opener! As soon as I was finished I had this great feeling in my heart, and every time I see it on the shelf I smile. Lily is also my most favourite youtube, because she has very good principles, and she's sooo positive. Definitely recommend!
Date published: 2017-10-26
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Not sure.... I've seen this book in indigo stores time and time again and read little snippets here and there, and I can honestly say, I'm not sure if I even like it or not. It has it's moments of 'omg this is so relatable!' but it also has it's moments of '...really?...' I've been a fan of Lilly for a long time; I watched her videos on youtube constantly! I feel like young adults who come out with books nowadays [specifically YouTubers] just dance around the same subject [or amplify it]... I've read enough books about topics in Lilly's book to just say 'i'll pass on this one today' every time I go in the store.
Date published: 2017-10-21
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Unexpected This is a great book to read. I'm 26, and I really thought at first this book will be catered to individuals in high school but I was definitely wrong. There is tons of great points in that will truly help guide you on your path to a better you. Lilly does a great job at incorporating her experience (but I truly wish there was more about her personal experiences/struggles). It's a book that I feel like should be read at least every quarter as a reminder. It's quick, simple and easy to read but most importantly its a book that I related to. Her experiences growing up were very similar to my own and I was astounded to see how she came out of it and actually grew as a person. Parents - pick this up for your kids and one for your self!
Date published: 2017-09-28
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Loved this book! Would read over and over again for motivation, inspo and laughs
Date published: 2017-09-28
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Motivating This book is really fun and light read but at time serious and motivating. Great books for teenagers and adults.
Date published: 2017-09-27
Rated 5 out of 5 by from a great read a good book for fans of her
Date published: 2017-09-25
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Get this if you're looking for some MOTIVATION I really did not have high hopes for this book but it totally surprised me!
Date published: 2017-09-21
Rated 4 out of 5 by from so much love for her i watch her on youtube all the time and this book was a great and fast read surprisingly
Date published: 2017-09-03
Rated 4 out of 5 by from MOTIVAITIONAL, AND FUNNY. I bought this book to keep me entertained for a very long flight. It was a very light hearted, but very motivational book. Great tips for high-school/university/young-adults who are figuring out how to be their own in a big world while feeling confident. Truly inspiring!
Date published: 2017-08-18
Rated 4 out of 5 by from My New Favourite Book! I've read this book so many times now and I get inspired every single time. This book is for everyone how wants to conquer the world and the best person they can be. Absolutely Amazing!
Date published: 2017-08-04
Rated 4 out of 5 by from I loved it If you're a fan, you're going to love this for sure. We already love Lilly's voice and seeing it in writing is no less funny and inspiring! If you don't know Lilly, you will still enjoy this book. It's funny and it makes you think. It's not the best "self-help" book out there, but it's easy to read, humorous, honest and informative. Reading about being a "bawse" from someone who definitely is a bawse is very inspiring and uplifting. I'd recommend reading a few chapters a day (they're short) and take time to think about the lesson in each one of them.
Date published: 2017-08-02
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Proud follower I'm soo proud of Lily! This is a very good book.
Date published: 2017-07-28
Rated 5 out of 5 by from How to be a Bawse An inspiring book! Highly recommend
Date published: 2017-07-25
Rated 2 out of 5 by from Only a good read if you're a fan Everyone reviewing is clearly a fan of her youtube videos, wouldn't bother reading unless you're a big fan
Date published: 2017-07-23
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Loveee As a fan of Lilly , I was very excited to pick up her book.I loved everything about this book, it is very inspiring, funny and new.Each page of the book feels and looks like a magazine it is so cool.I recommened this to anyone who really wants to be inspired.
Date published: 2017-07-16
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Great Read The book is well laid out. The chapters are not overly long, which is great! Her written humor comes across the same as her YouTube videos. If you are a fan of Lily, or you just need a book that inspires and uplifts, you should pick up this book.
Date published: 2017-07-14
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Fabulous I got this book and I decided to read a chapter a day. It's a perfect confidence boost and just, wow.
Date published: 2017-06-22
Rated 4 out of 5 by from inspiring this is such an amazing book! I love it
Date published: 2017-06-21
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Great book! Been a fan of Singh's for a long time!!! Love that she wrote a book that has helped me rethink what's important in my life.
Date published: 2017-06-14
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Inspiring Read Splendid piece of writing.
Date published: 2017-06-13
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Pretty Good! This was a fun book to read and had some really good suggestions, although at times it was a bit repetitive
Date published: 2017-06-13
Rated 2 out of 5 by from Nothing special Found it to be extremely preachy, nothing special that hasn't been done a thousand times before
Date published: 2017-06-12
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Inspirational Great book! The illustrations and Lilly's wit keep you turning the pages of this motivational book. It feels like she is your friend supporting you and teaching you how to be a bawse. Worth the read, I would recommend to everyone!
Date published: 2017-06-12
Rated 5 out of 5 by from I loved this The author gives advice to someone who is not only a teen but to someone who is living life as a 50 year old & beyond. A definite read
Date published: 2017-06-07
Rated 4 out of 5 by from HOW TO WORK IT! Amazing book! Really funny and motivational.
Date published: 2017-06-06
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Not bad I heard good and bad review about this..
Date published: 2017-06-05
Rated 2 out of 5 by from Already done Superwoman's target audience is definitely pre-teen and young adolescents. This book is a great motivator for youngsters shedding some positivity for them to reach for their goals. However, as an adult, I found this book to be unappealing and something I have already read...many a times.
Date published: 2017-06-04
Rated 5 out of 5 by from This is helping me a lot! I'm only through the first three chapters, but I have already learned so many new information on how I can quite literally "conquer life" and be more confident in my abilities. I highly recommend trying this one!
Date published: 2017-06-03
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Amazing! This book was an awesome read and very helpful in ym everyday life!
Date published: 2017-06-01
Rated 2 out of 5 by from Done a Million Times Before These books seem to be a dime a dozen, nothing spectacular. A nice light mindless read but try checking it out at the library, wouldn't recommend spending money on the book.
Date published: 2017-05-30
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Inspiring Book I watch Lilly on youtube, and wasn't sure whether to buy the book or not. But a couple weeks ago I caved, and bought the book and I do not regret it at all.
Date published: 2017-05-26
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Mood Booster! A bought this book a while ago, and I truly love it :) This book helped be see my life more clearly in a positive way. I am very happy that I bought this book and I will always see Ms. Lilly Singh as an inspirational idol.
Date published: 2017-05-25
Rated 1 out of 5 by from whats next a fouseytube book? cheap cash in on youtube success. not everyone can be a youtube star... in this case an author.
Date published: 2017-05-25
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Great Book! Its almost like she is having a conversation with you! This book is really motivating and inspiring!
Date published: 2017-05-24
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Great book! Would recommend, especially for younger audiences.
Date published: 2017-05-23
Rated 5 out of 5 by from I LOVE LILLY AND I LOVE THIS BOOK Such a great, inspirational novel. Everyone should definitely read this!
Date published: 2017-05-18
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Inspiring in the Most Universal Way Lilly definitely nailed the definition of motivational self help book with this one. It embodies everything you need in this genre and more. It is inspirational, funny, motivational and exudes greatness. Definitely a page turner you wouldn't want to put down!
Date published: 2017-05-15
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Motivational, filled with great tips for success If you're looking for a book to boost your mood and motivate you to create a better version of yourself, this is a good option. Would be great for a gift, too. The photo pages are high-quality and the writing is easy to read. Again, I would emphasize that the book is motivational rather than a how-to.
Date published: 2017-05-12
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Excited to read! I watch her YouTube channel, and am super excited to pick this book up!
Date published: 2017-05-06
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Amazingly Influential. How To Be A Bawse really inspires you to hustle, be a genuine person, and most of all, love yourself while you're at it.
Date published: 2017-05-05
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Looking forward Looking forward to reading this book :)
Date published: 2017-05-05
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Very sincere and down to earth... After debating whether or not I needed another "inspirational" tell all, I ended picking this up and quite honestly, I was pleasantly surprised! Not knowing anything about Lilly (in my opinion) gave me an unbiased view on where she comes from as well as how she deals with life's everyday challenges the way she does. She's funny, smart and not afraid to speak her mind... I enjoyed the tid-bits of life lessons and how to deal with them with sass and come out on top!
Date published: 2017-04-29
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Love this so much! I've been watching Lily on YouTube for so long and always found her so inspiring! This book just sums everything up so neatly and you always have it there spelled out for you when you're in need for some motivation or emotional healing!
Date published: 2017-04-27
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Good! I bought this book not really knowing much about Lilly, but so far, I love it! The chapters are short, but inspiring. Great to read in little bursts if you're short on time but want a little mood boost! The book itself is very nice, with interesting page layouts, glossy paper and some nice weight to it.. things I like in a book!
Date published: 2017-04-27
Rated 4 out of 5 by from It'll make you real Lilly was 100% real throughout the entire book, she was never afraid to hurt some feelings while giving you the best advice she's learned in life. I plan on never looking at certain chapters again, however with other I plan to reread them as often as possibly and apply them to life, She has a ton of real knowledge to share and I am grateful that she has,
Date published: 2017-04-27
Rated 5 out of 5 by from A breath of fresh air! (No subject) RJ Ruby Jaswal Reply| Today, 9:37 PM You I wasn't really sure what I expected what I started reading this book. I had heard of Lilly and a saw a few of her appearances on jimmy Fallon but didn't know her a whole lot. Nonetheless I was blown away. I really wished I bought this book because I ended up photocopying a lot of chapters that were important or spoke to me! This book is full of so much wisdom and really teaches you how to be the best version of yourself. The author feel like a close friend who becomes your personal cheerleader and boot camp coach to be the best you can be and setting realistic goals for yourself.There are so many valuable lessons to take away from this book that can be applied to your personal and professional life! Absolutely loved it!
Date published: 2017-04-26
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Amazing This book is a great book especially because it was written by superwoman (iisuperwomanii) a you tuber who always motivates people and teaches them how to be a BAWSE
Date published: 2017-04-26
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Unsure I used to watch her YouTube videos and enjoyed some of them. But I don't know if there is really a need to have a book on this. I personally would not pick it up if I didn't have to.
Date published: 2017-04-24
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Always the boss Lily Singh has given us the best tips on becoming the ultimate BOSS <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 It's a must read
Date published: 2017-04-24
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Beyond Inspirational I finished reading it in 2 days, and it was absolutely SPECTACULAR. I can't recommend it enough.
Date published: 2017-04-23
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Incredible and Inspiring How to Be a Bawse is full of incredible, inspiring lessons everyone should read and know. It’s a guide to not surviving life but conquering it. Lilly doesn’t just write about inspiration quotes and the best part of her lavish life; she talks about her struggle with depression, overcoming it and growing as a person. She's straight forward and talks about the reality of working hard to get what you want and accomplishing your goals. In addition, she encourages others to spread kindness and to inspire others. Lily writes to her audience to help others and change the world in a positive way. If you are passionate about something, make it heard and shout it out across the world! Have only good vibes and try to lessen the negatively in your life. "Train your brain to think positively… Almost everything else in life has limits, but your mind is the one thing that has no limits. So, what are you going to think about? What are you going to talk about? Are you going to waste your mind on gossip and drama? You shouldn’t, because your brain deserves better…Spend time each day thinking about ideas to GROW your mind and resist the urge to talk negatively about people." Instead of tearing people down we should be rising each other up. Complimenting others and brighten each others day. If everyone had that sort of mentality, then I'm pretty sure the world would be an even more magnificent place. #NOHATE!! "Everyone is special and unique, but that specialness goes away if you do not do anything with your unique characteristics… Participation ribbons are for country fairs, not life. You don’t get one for being born." Another lesson to be learned from Lilly's book is that we should use our talents and uniqueness to their full potential otherwise, what's the point of even having them. Never try to hide who you are. Be a positive influence on the world and to those around you. Overall this was a fantastic book and I would definitely recommend this book to everyone and anyone nor matter their age. Anyone can learn something from this book no matter who or how old they are. "A Bawse knows that shortcuts do NOT exist when it comes to success. Doing work eliminates the need for LUCK."
Date published: 2017-04-22
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Speechless This book is definitely motivating
Date published: 2017-04-22
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Okay Not very inspirational or original.
Date published: 2017-04-21
Rated 5 out of 5 by from iisuperwomanii lily is such an inspiration to teens and people of all gages really. this book is but another example of how she continues to spread love as well as a generation of change makers.
Date published: 2017-04-21
Rated 5 out of 5 by from fan of lilly Really good biography type of book , was really excited to fianlly see lilly singh on a book cover all over indigo , couldnt be more proud of her .
Date published: 2017-04-19
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Fun Read This is such a good, fun, relaxing book to read. If you want to know how to be like a bawse, I definitely recommend reading this book.
Date published: 2017-04-16
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Loved it! This was such a fun great read with lots of great tips on how to be a bawse!
Date published: 2017-04-13
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Awesome I'm not the biggest fan of Lilly anymore, but this book reminded me why I was so captivated by her in the first place. This is really different from a lot of the youtuber books you see being released, and this one was genuinely amusing while still teaching important life lessons.
Date published: 2017-04-13
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Love it I pre ordered the book and couldn't wait to read it!!! Love the book so inspirational and it's pretty funny
Date published: 2017-04-10
Rated 2 out of 5 by from OK Meh - I would think twice before purchasing this book.
Date published: 2017-04-10
Rated 5 out of 5 by from AMAZING!! This book is honestly the best book I've ever read. I am not just saying that because I am a huge fan of Lilly, I am saying this because I genuinely mean it. I love how this book reminds me of how I can be a better person not just to other people but a better person to myself. This book has really helped be to become a "Bawse" and I feel as though this book reminded me what a hard-working lovely person I can be.
Date published: 2017-04-10
Rated 5 out of 5 by from An Open Letter to Superwoman Dear Lilly, Firstly, this contains a review of Bawse Book, which I read and absolutely loved! I will go into details soon. But what made me read, or rather preorder, was the fact that you are the first YouTuber I have ever encountered. I have also said that when you write a book, I will instantly preorder. And I did along with a copy for my sister, who is a super fan of yours for as long as I can remember. The year she met you in 2015 during the home show of AT2UI (I would’ve been there too but, I had a night class and also can’t skip university) was also when I noticed YouTubers writing books, and I hoped that you too would do so when the time was right. And thank goodness it was now. I can see Bawse Book being seen as two genres: autobiography and self-help. I prefer the former since it is not a memoir and in fact, can be seen as self-help because I read these valuable lessons from your viewpoint, and then challenge the reader to also act the same. Now everyone’s different, including myself and you. But I believe that everyone can read this with an open mind and feel as though they have the power to change and always evolve. Not to be cocky but I already felt as though I am most of the content you speak about in this book. And that’s not to say I found it unuseful since I will be referring to this when I feel as though I most in need of your words for a boost. This helped me see many things I am practicing, and also to even continuously challenge myself, like a Bawse. This book was about how you became a Bawse, and because of that, this exists to help others become a Bawse too. My favourite chapters in Parts 1 and 2 included: Get Uncomfortable, for without it how will I conquer? Send the GPS Deep so I can understand why I believe what I do. Pause, as I have been practicing and enjoyed knowing to savour life. Let Go Of FOMO, because haha, I wish I was able to attend your signing for this book in Brampton (a bit of a long story), and I had to move on and am happy to say I did. I wish I could have been there still, but I was able to handle myself from not going and letting go of FOMO. By the way, it looked as though it was a lot of fun, and I'm happy to have seen that! Have Visions, since your recommendations there are challenging me. The Alphabet is a Lie, as I think risk taking is something I will continue to aspire in with what I do creatively as an aspiring author. At Part 3, I read it all in one sitting. It’s my favourite part of the book, and as I reflect on the previous two parts, I noticed how the journey in becoming a Bawse is an up level climb. This was when I felt the best when reading. Except for that last chapter since, I’ve never been in that situation with my ex; yet for others, it’s great for that to be there. And finally, how you became born as a unicorn. This literally sweetened (not as though it’s like some lucky charms or pixie fairy dust, just to be clear) the entire book to make the reader feel confident in conquering and should be the great start they need when becoming a Bawse. It made the ending joyful for me and even bittersweet when it should not be. This is not the end because I know this journey is only beginning, and I for one know, there will be re-reads and even references to my favourite lines and chapters. I’m already anticipating when I will turn the pages again, highlighting and placing post-it notes for future reference. I don’t read YouTuber’s books because it’s not to my interest in many cases. That doesn’t mean I totally shut them down because I would like to read some based on the content. However, since I had known you from the beginning, due to my sister adoring you so much, and even watching some hilarious content on your channel, as well as some personal things you've conquered before Bawse Book; I’m so happy to say this book has exceeded my expectations. Most importantly, it has helped me grow into being a better person, like a BAWSE. Everyone seeing this review should read this book. I'm sure you will find something relatable to make you feel like a Bawse and see where you can improve to always keep learning. All best, Bobby
Date published: 2017-04-10
Rated 4 out of 5 by from 4.5 stars. Great for EVERYONE but especially fans of iisuperwomanii I picked this up as a huge fan of Lilly Singh and her youtube channel. Without intending to, i read this in one shot in a couple of hours because i was drawn in. I have always found Lilly's work ethic to be extremely inspiring and motivating. When reading, i was actually hearing her say the words --her voice was really prominent in this book. My only critique would be that there are too many short lessons (50). I would have preferred a few less "chapters" (often 2 pages each) to have a deeper insight going more in depth with the lessons. Nonetheless, I'm now motivated to be a Bawse in all aspects of life. I would definitely recommend this book. Pictures and book design are stunning too.
Date published: 2017-04-09
Rated 5 out of 5 by from BEST BOOK EVER I have never loved a book so much! The book was so inspiring and actually uses examples that relate to help you out.. it real to the real! Glad I got this book, definitely recommend it!
Date published: 2017-04-09
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Incredible, incredible, incredible I've been following Lilly for years and I can say that her book is just as amazing as her work online. Lilly is always one-upping herself and this is such a motivational amazing read!
Date published: 2017-04-08
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Amazing I am not someone who enjoys reading books, but Lilly really knows how to pull the reader in and incorporate comedy, while inspiring you to take control of your mind and conquer your life. Such an easy read and makes you take a look at your life. I loved it!
Date published: 2017-04-08
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Fun I really enjoyed watching her youtube video. She's just as amazing in book form!
Date published: 2017-04-08
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Cannot express in words I juts love this book, I tried to pick my favourite quote to write here but couldn't because they are all amazing! So inspirational!
Date published: 2017-04-07
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Be a Bawse So much fun, a joy to read, made me laugh and smile throughout. #plumreview
Date published: 2017-04-07
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Happy Looking forward to reading this book. :)
Date published: 2017-04-03
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Inspiring Sooo good. I haven't finished it yet, but it's such a raw and emotional book, I love it so far.
Date published: 2017-04-01
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Awesome This book is so inspiring and true. It made me happy when reading it and I thoroughly enjoyed reading it!
Date published: 2017-03-31
Rated 5 out of 5 by from love it When I read it I can 100% hear her voice in the words; everything sounds very genuine and not superficial. The design of the book is also gorgeous! Super inspiring
Date published: 2017-03-30
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Love it When I read it I can 100% hear her voice in the words; everything sounds very genuine and not superficial. The design of the book is also gorgeous! Super inspiring
Date published: 2017-03-30
Rated 5 out of 5 by from BAWSE Makes me feel like a BAWSE when I read it!
Date published: 2017-03-30
Rated 5 out of 5 by from AMAZING iv been a fan for a really long time and she is one of the most inspirational people out there and this book is so inspirational and its funny
Date published: 2017-03-29
Rated 4 out of 5 by from LOVE She is such a great comic and her videos are inspiring and funny!
Date published: 2017-03-28
Rated 4 out of 5 by from An enjoyable read Could be read by anyone, not necessarily just for her fan base! Conversely, it was really a bit generic.
Date published: 2017-03-24
Rated 2 out of 5 by from Eh An okay book, nothing special
Date published: 2017-03-19
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Looking forward to it Love her videos, looking forward to the book!
Date published: 2017-03-19
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Love Her!! So excited for this book to come out, I already pre ordered it!!
Date published: 2017-03-17
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Ahhh I can't wait to finally read this book!!!
Date published: 2017-03-09
Rated 5 out of 5 by from SUPERWOMAN Well, if you know her personality then you are sky rocking with me!
Date published: 2017-03-07
Rated 5 out of 5 by from I am waiting for it.. I have actually put a countdown till the day I can actually buy this book. Looking forward for this..:)
Date published: 2017-02-18
Rated 5 out of 5 by from So excited! Cant wait to read the entire book! I love Lilly sooo much!
Date published: 2017-02-11
Rated 5 out of 5 by from LILLY!! Saw Superwoman live, and was the best experience ever! Can't wait for this book!
Date published: 2017-01-18
Rated 2 out of 5 by from Eh. I didn't like this book too much.
Date published: 2017-01-07
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Can't wait This book is going to be amazing! I love Lily's content!
Date published: 2016-12-19
Rated 2 out of 5 by from tries a bit too hard great motive but at times, uninspiring
Date published: 2016-12-18
Rated 5 out of 5 by from EXCITED I'm so excited to read this book! Pre-ordered!
Date published: 2016-12-12
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Ok read I enjoyed reading it, but it was not the best
Date published: 2016-12-11
Rated 5 out of 5 by from I loved this This book looks so good, I can't wait to read it
Date published: 2016-12-09
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Wow I honestly thought Lilly could only inspire through her videos but this just proves that she can do it with words as well :) the BAWSE Lilly. #plumreview
Date published: 2016-11-22
Rated 5 out of 5 by from AHHHH I can't wait fo this book to come out. I can already tell that it is going to be incredible!!
Date published: 2016-11-12
Rated 5 out of 5 by from I LOVED THIS It's beautiful.... just the description brings tears to my eyes
Date published: 2016-07-23

Read from the Book

Chapter 1Play NintendoI’m sweating in my blue overalls as I look at all the obstacles ahead of me. I have three options: (1) pound my head on this brick block and hope for a star, (2) run and jump over the enemy, or (3) step on this turtle’s head and force him to retract into his shell. No matter which option I go with, the fact remains that the Koopa Troopa up ahead is going to stay there. I can’t control it or convince it that it’s actually a Ninja Turtle and thus is in the wrong game. That’s fine. No Ninja Turtles means more pizza for me, and I’m Italian, so this is all working out. I know the Koopa Troopa isn’t going to listen to me, and therefore I need to control the only thing I can—and that’s me, Mario.Videogames are a great analogy for life. You go through levels, get thrown off by obstacles, and face several enemies. The game will become harder and harder, but it’s okay because you become smarter, faster, and more skilled. When playing a videogame, you control a character by making it jump, run, duck, and attack. I mean, that was back in my day when my Super Nintendo controller had two buttons. Today videogame controllers have as many buttons as a keyboard, so who knows what you can do. You can probably press A + Y + Z while twirling your left joystick and your character will sing the national anthem. Either way, the fact remains that your character is the only thing you can control in the game. The enemies will keep coming, the walls will keep shrinking, and the time will keep ticking away. It’s your job to navigate your character through a situation you cannot control.That’s exactly how you should view life. A Bawse understands that there are many things in life you have no control over and it is inefficient to become frustrated by that reality. Not being able to control people and situations doesn’t make you powerless; it just means you have to exercise your power in a different way. If you can’t control people, then control your reaction to them. If you can’t control a situation, then prepare for it.Before I started my career in the entertainment industry, I was the leader of a small dance company (if you could even call it that) in Toronto. We started off small, with only a few dancers, specializing in only Indian dance styles, but over time, in true Lilly fashion, I wanted to keep growing and expanding our horizons. Since I was little, I’ve had larger-than-life ideas. I never wanted to settle for something simple or mediocre, and as a result, when I did things, I wanted them to be the biggest and best things. There were so many other dance teams and companies around and I didn’t want to just be another addition to an already long list. I committed my days to transforming the company in the hopes of creating a dance empire that would take over the world. I really thought that was possible. We would be dancing Power Rangers who saved the world, one extended leg and pointed toe at a time. I decided to convert my basement into a full-blown office. We held auditions for dancers who were skilled in all forms of dance so that we could perform hip-hop, classical, and fusion in addition to what we were already doing. I organized photo shoots and video shoots and other creative marketing techniques. I had so much drive and determination that no injury, financial strain, or competition could steer me off my path. What I couldn’t see, however, was the one obstacle that was in front of me the entire time, and which caused everything to fall apart: the team itself.I had such big dreams for the company and I was always willing to work for them. Without hesitation, I would pull all-nighters to put together marketing materials, spend money out of my own pocket to invest in what we needed, and drive myself crazy thinking of innovative ways to set ourselves apart. But then I would arrive at practice and deal with three dancers showing up late, one not showing up at all, and two of them leaving early. Getting people to put in work on events to help our brand was like pulling teeth. We often performed at weddings and thus needed to adhere to a professional dress code, yet some dancers would occasionally show up wearing shorts and flip-flops. I would get so frustrated with them because I was putting in so much work for this dream, but the reality of the situation was that the dream was mine, not theirs. I tried for years to control them and make them work for something they didn’t care about as much as I did, and it just didn’t work.My dance company dreams faded away gradually, but the process was hastened by my discovery of YouTube. I remember feeling a new sensation the first time I uploaded a video. I wrote the script, shot it, edited it, and released it. No one else was involved or required, and the independence was exhilarating. Soon I developed an even greater drive and passion for my career as Superwoman than I’d had previously with my dance team. This time, however, I wasn’t trying to control a group of twenty people every time I needed something to get done. The only person I needed to control was the only person I could control, and that was me.Today, of course, I have a team that surrounds me and helps me to build my business. But Lilly is still at the root of Superwoman. The success of Superwoman and the failure of my dance team helped me learn a very important lesson: work with what’s in your control. This lesson can be applied to so many situations in our lives. You get frustrated when your parents nag you, so every time they do, you storm out of the room. You can’t control your parents, so stop trying. Instead, use that energy to control your reaction the next time they nag you. You might not be able to smash a brick block and find a star that makes you invincible, but you can practice patience and build up a resistance to nagging. If none of that works, you can find the closest green tube and transport yourself out of the conversation.Have you ever played a videogame then lost because you realized you were looking at the wrong part of the screen the whole time? You were so confused as to why your controller wasn’t working, but really you were just trying to control the wrong character. That’s what trying to control people is like in real life. We’re so often fixated on getting people to behave in accordance with what we want that we forget to focus on ourselves.The best way to stop people from pushing your buttons is to start pushing your own.A + Y + Z. Left joystick.“O Canada.”Chapter 2Conquer your thoughtsTouch your nose. No, I’m serious. I want you to stop reading after this sentence and don’t resume until you take your right hand and use it to touch the tip of your nose.Do it.Look at you! What an impressive piece of machinery you are. Do you know what you just did? You were introduced to a thought and decided to act on it; your brain sent signals through your neurotransmitters, through your body, and into your arm, prompting it to move and touch your magnificent nose.Why did I just make you touch your nose? Because I’m Simon and I run this town! No, but really, it was to show you that YOU control your mind; your mind doesn’t control you. You successfully directed your brain to touch your nose. Understanding your mind’s power is key to being a Bawse. Imagine using that same type of direction to instruct your mind to stop being negative, or jealous, or terrified. We often feel that we are slaves to biology. People say things like “I just can’t help but feel that way” or “I can’t control being jealous.” But I believe that, in most situations, we can teach our minds to function with more positivity and efficiency. In other words, by understanding that mushy sponge in our skulls, we can conquer our thoughts.What does conquering your thoughts mean? First, it means you get to wear an awesome warrior costume, so congrats on that victory! #OOTD Also, it means understanding why you feel the way you feel, what prompts you to carry out certain actions, what causes specific reactions, and what circumstances lead you to make regrettable decisions. Once you discover all the ins and outs of your mind, you basically have the cheat code to your game of life. All you have to do is input the data and you have access to extra mental weapons, stronger protection, and new passageways. Notice I said YOUR game of life and not THE game of life. That’s because everyone’s mind is different. The cheat codes you discover for your mind cannot be applied to all of humanity. I’m not encouraging you to study the BIOLOGY of the brain (it is fascinating, but also, who has that much time?). I’m encouraging you to study your specific psychological makeup.I was forced to learn how to conquer my thoughts because of the nature of my job. For six years I’ve been posting videos twice a week on the Internet. I have over 500 videos on my main channel and 500 videos on my second channel—that’s over 1,000 videos for people around the globe to view and judge as harshly as they desire. The Internet is wonderful and revolutionary, but let’s face it, it can also be extremely cruel. People feel they can say anything to you when they are sitting comfortably behind their computer screen being completely anonymous. When I first started posting videos, I got a lot of support (mostly because my friends and family would watch and they felt obligated to be nice. Also, I had a second account that I would use to compliment myself. Oops!), but with time I started to receive negative, hateful comments and I didn’t know how to react. Here are a few examples (word for word, without spellcheck) of the comments I’ve received:This lily Singh paki ***** needs to die she’s everywhere I hate seeing her Bengali paki face I hope she gets cancer or her mum dies slowly j painfully leave focus tube alone up horrible black *****This is why women shouldn’t have rights.This video gave me cancershe is so ****ing stupid. she only get famous because she hot and thst sells but she is still dumb. I hope someone shoots herFUN!Do hateful comments still bother me? Sometimes, but not as often. How did I deal with them? When people ask me this, my response is usually, “I developed a thick skin.” But what I really mean is, I learned how to conquer my thoughts. This is how I broke it down:People are leaving mean comments.Why?Maybe it’s because my videos suck.Do you say mean things to people when you think they suck?No. Not unless I’m having a bad day or in a bad mood.Maybe people leaving the negative comments are having a bad day. Maybe that’s what the comment is really about.But the comments make me feel insecure.Do you like your videos?Yes.So should your opinion of your videos be dependent on what other people think? Is that the type of person you want to be?Not at all.So it doesn’t make sense to let the negative opinions of others impact what you think.Maybe I should stop making videos, though.Does making videos make you happy?Yes, very.Do you believe you should value negative comments above your own happiness?That doesn’t sound right. Maybe I should just reply to them?Or you could spend more time replying to people that make you feel good so they’re more encouraged to keep supporting you.Now, you may think a convo like this sounds a bit naive. OF COURSE people want to be happy and ignore negative comments, but it’s easier said than done. That’s why it’s important to closely analyze this conversation and discover all the cheat codes hidden within it.“Maybe they’re having a bad day.” CHEAT CODE ONE: Lilly, when people do or say hurtful things to you, there’s a chance they may actually be upset about something else in their life.“Should other opinions impact what you think about yourself?” CHEAT CODE TWO: Lilly, sometimes when you hear other opinions you’ll feel pressured to change your own. Before you enter into situations in which you will be confronted with a lot of opinions, make sure you strongly believe your own.“I don’t want to stop making videos, because they make me happy.” CHEAT CODE THREE: Your happiness is stronger than fear. You can continue battling fear as long as your videos, make you happy. Make sure you prioritize creating content that makes you happy; otherwise fear and negativity will slowly take over.“Maybe I should reply to them.” CHEAT CODE FOUR: Recognize that replying was suggested to make you feel better. Understand this impulse and catch it before you act on it. Make yourself feel better in a more constructive way.The cheat codes I discovered while dealing with YouTube comments have been useful in so many areas of my life. When someone cuts me off while driving, I apply cheat code one so that I don’t overreact: the person driving could be upset about something in their life. Cutting me off wasn’t about ME. When a brand offers me a lot of money to make a video I don’t actually like, I implement cheat code three: my content has to make me happy, otherwise negativity will start to seep in. When I’m having an argument and want to make an unnecessary remark to get the last word in, I try to catch myself because I know I’m just trying to make myself feel better—thus cheat code four. If I’ve gotten myself into an upsetting situation, it’s usually because I ignored a cheat code or pattern in my behavior.Conquering your thoughts is not a task that can be accomplished overnight, or over many nights, to be honest. It’s an ongoing process that requires frequent readjustment because your mind is constantly evolving. It requires you to ask yourself a lot of questions and to analyze the answers honestly. From now on start asking yourself WHY you feel a certain way, WHAT made you perform a certain action, and HOW you could do things differently. The information you discover is powerful because it helps you to discover patterns and in turn use your mind productively and efficiently. After all, your mind is your most powerful tool, but it’s not useful if you don’t know how to use it. It’s like trying to fix a printer with a stapler: it doesn’t work. Trust me, I’ve tried. The key is to use a hammer because all printers suck.

Editorial Reviews

#1 National BestsellerNew York Times BestsellerA Goodreads Best Book of 2017"This book is, unlike many of the softer self-help career guides out there, unapologetically frank—filled with tough-love advice on everything from relationships to FOMO." —Marie Claire (UK)"A motivational handbook stuffed with business, social and relationship advice imparted with the snappy humour and giddy whimsy that animates Singh's videos." —The Globe and Mail"Snappy, humorous and inspiring." —Canadian Living "Lilly is a bona fide #girlboss, boss and bawse. Her meteoric rise has come with so many incredible lessons that we are all lucky to have access to. This book is a must-have for the hustler in all of us." —Sophia Amoruso, founder and CEO, Girlboss