How To Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use by Randy J. PatersonHow To Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use by Randy J. Paterson

How To Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use

byRandy J. Paterson

Paperback | May 1, 2016

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In How to Be Miserable, psychologist Randy Paterson outlines 40 specific behaviors and habits, which-if followed-are sure to lead to a lifetime of unhappiness. On the other hand, if you do the opposite, you may yet join the ranks of happy people everywhere! There are stacks upon stacks of self-help books that will promise you love, happiness, and a fabulous life. But how can you pinpoint the exact behaviors that cause you to be miserable in the first place? Sometimes when we're depressed, or just sad or unhappy, our instincts tell us to do the opposite of what we should-such as focusing on the negative, dwelling on what we can't change, isolating ourselves from friends and loved ones, eating junk food, or overindulging in alcohol. Sound familiar?This tongue-in-cheek guide will help you identify the behaviors that make you unhappy and discover how you-and only you -are holding yourself back from a life of contentment. You'll learn to spot the tried-and-true traps that increase feelings of dissatisfaction, foster a lack of motivation, and detract from our quality of life-as well as ways to avoid them.So, get ready to live the life you want (or not?) This fun, irreverent guide will light the way.
Randy J. Paterson, PhD , is director of Changeways Clinic, a private psychology practice in Vancouver, BC, Canada. He is author of The Assertiveness Workbook and Your Depression Map, and conducts training programs for professionals on evidence-based treatment. Through Changeways Clinic, Paterson presents lectures and workshops interna...
Title:How To Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already UseFormat:PaperbackDimensions:248 pages, 7 × 5 × 0.65 inPublished:May 1, 2016Publisher:New Harbinger PublicationsLanguage:English

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Rated 3 out of 5 by from Unique I found it surprisingly difficult to follow along because with everything I read I was mentally flipping it to figure out what I was supposed to do. It did have some interesting points in it though that I haven't heard about anywhere else - it's more than just a fun take on self-help.
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Rated 5 out of 5 by from loved it this is such a funny way to look at things and figure out how to be happy... I did laugh out loud a few times as I was doing what was in the book and to have it pointed out made me realize that is what I need to change!
Date published: 2018-01-02
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Funny Insights This book is perfect. You will discover why your making yourself unhappy and how to fix it. I found it very helpful and entertaining at the same time. #plumreviews.
Date published: 2017-06-20
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Great book The book was funny and pleasant to read, and I got quite a few insides into mental health.
Date published: 2017-01-14
Rated 5 out of 5 by from very interesting wow!! talk about life and the truth.
Date published: 2016-12-11
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Reverse Psychology At Its Best Do you hate being told what to do? Do you ignore people's advice even when you know it will make you happier and more successful? Then this book is for you.
Date published: 2016-11-21
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Engaging read! I thoroughly enjoyed this book for its' tongue-in-cheek humor - as a psychologist, this book is now part of my recommended reading list for clients who in fact already do know how to be miserable.
Date published: 2016-07-13
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Funny, engaging, and oh so frightfully accurate As a practicing psychologist, I picked up this book with great interest. The title alone flies in the face of a thousand other self-help books about depression and I loved the more light hearted approach to what is of course a very serious topic. Randy asks a question of his depressed clients - put simply, he asks them what would they do to make themselves worse. And, when they consider it carefully, they realize that what they would do is perhaps a lot more of the things they are already doing. Therein lies the premise of this clever book - there are of course many life occurrences that are tragic and out of our control. But there are also those that are within our grasp and, if we do in fact hope to feel better, we must work on the things we can. An easy and yet insightful read.
Date published: 2016-06-05

Editorial Reviews

Randy J. Paterson has hit a home run with this highly accessible, engaging book. How to Be Miserable uses tongue-in-cheek humor, scientifically grounded practical advice, and a healthy dose of what is colloquially known as 'reverse psychology' to help put an end to common behavioral patterns that contribute to unhappiness. Anyone who wants to be less miserable should read this book and do the opposite of everything it recommends!" - Martin M. Antony, PhD, ABPP , professor of psychology at Ryerson University in Toronto, ON, Canada, and coauthor of The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook and The Anti-Anxiety Workbook "Randy J. Paterson's How to Be Miserable contains practical, witty, and wise advice, and is based on the premise that we have become our own worst enemies. Confronting our 'management' strategies consciously is the only way our life actually begins to turn toward better outcomes." - James Hollis, PhD , Jungian analyst, and author of The Middle Passage and Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life "Randy J. Paterson has failed miserably in his quest to create a recipe for unhappiness in How to Be Miserable, and instead has written a gem of a parody on how to cope with the inevitable difficulties we all must face in order to live a happy and fulfilling life." -Simon A. Rego, PsyD, ABPP , associate professor of clinical psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Albert Einstein College of Medicine/Montefiore Medical Center in New York, NY" How to Be Miserable is a different kind of self-help book. By learning the forty traps that lead to unhappiness, readers will actually discover how to create the life they've always wanted-one filled with lasting happiness." - Matt McKay, PhD , coauthor of Thoughts and Feelings "? for fed-up self-help readers, it may be the panacea they need." - Publishers Weekly "What makes this book from Paterson ("Your Depression Map") so delightful is that the author's obvious use of reverse psychology actually works as readers can laugh at their own behaviors. For instance, Paterson says that if a person wants a miserable life, then he or she should eat junk food, dwell on what "could be," read online news in endless detail, and eliminate the word "no" from their vocabulary. Although most readers will be accustomed to positive and negative behavior patterns, this work outlines the results of their favorite excuses for not acting in mentally healthy ways." - Library Journal "