How We Grieve: Relearning the World by Thomas AttigHow We Grieve: Relearning the World by Thomas Attig

How We Grieve: Relearning the World

byThomas Attig

Paperback | November 18, 2010

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If we wish to understand loss experiences we must learn details of survivors' stories. The new version of How We Grieve: Relearning the World tells in-depth tales of survival to illustrate the poignant disruption of life and suffering that loss entails. It shows how through grieving weovercome challenges, make choices, and reshape our lives. These intimate treatments of coping with loss address the needs of grieving people and those who hope to support and comfort them. The accounts promote understanding of grieving itself, encourage respect for individuality and the uniquenessof loss experiences, show how to deal with helplessness in the face of "choiceless" events, and offer guidance for caregivers.The stories make it clear that grieving is not about living passively through stages or phases. We are not so alike when we grieve; our experiences are complex and richly textured. Nor is grieving about coming down with "grief symptoms". No one can treat us to make things better. No one cangrieve for us.Grieving is instead an active process of coping and relearning how to be and how to act in a world where loss transforms our lives. Loss forces us to relearn things and places; relationships with others, including fellow survivors, the deceased, even God; and our selves, our daily life patterns,and the meanings of our life stories. This revision adds an introductory essay about developments in the author's thinking about grieving as "relearning the world." It highlights and clarifies its most distinctive and still salient themes. It elaborates on how his thinking about these themes has expanded and deepened since the firstedition. And it places his treatment of those themes in the broader context of current writings on grief and loss.
Thomas Attig is Past President of the Association for Death Education and Counseling and is currently an independent applied philosopher, writer, and speaker.
Title:How We Grieve: Relearning the WorldFormat:PaperbackDimensions:264 pages, 5.98 × 9.09 × 0.71 inPublished:November 18, 2010Publisher:Oxford University PressLanguage:English

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ISBN - 10:019539769X

ISBN - 13:9780195397697

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Table of Contents

Introduction to the Second Edition1. Stories of Grieving: Listening and RespondingMartin and LouiseJenniferBill, Diane and MargaretEd, Elise, and DavidKathrynColleenStories Are the Heart of the Matter: The Point of Thinking about GrievingWhy Do Persons Look to Books on Grieving?They Seek General UnderstandingThey Seek Respect for IndividualityThey Seek Ways to Deal with Helplessness in GrievingThey Seek Guidance for Caregivers2. Grieving Is Active: We Need Not Be HelplessThe Story of Martin and LouiseJennifer's StoryBereavement Is Choiceless, but Grieving Is NotGrief Is an Emotion, Grieving a Coping ProcessSome Say We Grieve in Stages or PhasesSome Describe Our Grieving in Medical TermsIs It Helpful to Talk of Stages, Phases and Medical Analogies?Some Say that as We Grieve We Address TasksA Task-Based, Active ViewSome Choices We All Have as We GrieveGrieving Is Active: A Summary3. Respecting Individuals When They GrieveThe Story of Bill and DianeRespecting Individual FlourishingActing Respectfully Once We Understand IndividualFlourishing and VulnerabilityWhat Our Self-Respect Requires4. Relearning the World: How We GrieveThe Story of Ed and EliseHow We Relearn Our WorldsThe Worlds We RelearnWe Relearn Our Physical SurroundingsWe Relearn Our Relationships with Fellow SurvivorsWe Relearn Our SelvesWe Relearn Our Places in Space and TimeThe Power of the Relearning Idea5. Relearning Our Selves: Grief and Personal IntegrityDavid's StoryMargaret's StoryHow Are We to Understand Ourselves in Loss and Grief?An Image of How We Become the Selves We AreOur Selves in Loss and Grief: Elaborating the ImageAs We Cope, We Engage with and Move beyond SufferingWe Struggle to Put Our Shattered Lives Back TogetherWe Seek New Ways to Complete Our Life StoriesWe Become Whole Again as Parts of Larger WholesTogether We Reshape Our Families and CommunitiesAdvantages of This Idea of Relearning Our Selves6. Relearning Our Relationships with the Deceased: Grief, Love and SeparationKathryn's StoryColleen's StoryWhat We Lose, and What We Do Not Lose, When Someone DiesLet Go We Must, but Not EntirelyWe Continue to Love and Cherish the Stories of Lives Now EndedWe Still Care About What Those Who Died Cared AboutAdvantages of This Idea of Relearning Our Relationships with the DeceasedIndex