I Am No Longer Myself Without You: How Men Love Women by Jonathan Rutherford

I Am No Longer Myself Without You: How Men Love Women

byJonathan Rutherford

Kobo ebook | March 24, 2016

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Why do words fail men when they need them most? Why is the subject of what men want emotionally, shrouded in silence? This is a book that attempts, in the style of Blake Morrison and Richard Rayner, to put men’s experience of Love into words. ’A slim, elegantly written account, packed with quotations from poetry, fiction, cinema, items from newspapers, popular culture and personal anecdote, which argues that silence in the face of emotion is the predominant male response. Inarticulacy is still the norm… Rutherford doesn’t offer solutions but his assessments are both thoughtful and revealing and his anecdotes, particularly those from his own experience, pinpoint why men do what they do… As befits this huge subject, his frame of reference is wide from T.S. Eliot to Francis Fukuyama, Families Without Fathers to Men Behaving Badly. Non academic in tone, this book is very much for Rutherford’s own generation, those in their 30s and 40s who have had the post-war upbringing he explores. It will have less to say to men in their 60s and 70s, though it might help them understand their sons. And women, emotionally articulate lot that they are, will love it.’ CAROLINE GASCOIGNE, Sunday Times

Title:I Am No Longer Myself Without You: How Men Love WomenFormat:Kobo ebookPublished:March 24, 2016Publisher:HARPERCOLLINS PUBLISHERSLanguage:English

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ISBN - 10:0007485344

ISBN - 13:9780007485345

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Rated 3 out of 5 by from Interesting analysis on relationships I shocked my friends once again holding a book titled "I am no longer myself without you". Naturally, they thought this would be some tragic romantic book on the pain of unrequited love - shockingly advertised as a book on man's romantic love and relationships with woman on the book cover. Sorry, not really. Clarification! That wasn't what attracted me to this book anyway! When I explained my view that this book is actually a psychological and social analysis of the nature of the relationships man (as in male) have with their parents, lovers, and themselves, my friends seemed to be more shocked than ever. Jonathan Rutherford has written a thorough analysis on human relationships. He drew examples from many sources including psychology, sociology, literature and current affairs. I like the touch of male sentimentality he puts in that is seldom absence, or hidden, from public viewing. The chapter titled "Silence", and "Mother" were especially good. But beware that at times many parts of the book was overly analytical - confusing and too lecture-ish.
Date published: 2017-07-20