"I don't have time for this!": A Compassionate Guide to Caring for Your Parents and Yourself by Katherine Katherine Arnup PhD"I don't have time for this!": A Compassionate Guide to Caring for Your Parents and Yourself by Katherine Katherine Arnup PhD

"I don't have time for this!": A Compassionate Guide to Caring for Your Parents and Yourself

byKatherine Katherine Arnup PhD

Paperback | March 31, 2015

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"I don't have time for this!" provides a roadmap for the journey into aging, illness, and dying that we will all travel-ourselves and the people we love. With gentle persuasion and moving stories from her family, her clients, and her years as a hospice volunteer, Dr. Katherine Arnup shows how to overcome the fear of aging and loss so we can show up for the challenges in our lives. You will discover: the ways to begin essential conversations with your parents- before it's too late!the tools you need to survive and thrive as a caregiver; the keys to releasing guilt and regret; the joy that's possible when you stop running from your life; the secret to asking for and receiving help; the rewards of being present with the people you love during the final chapter of their lives."Dr. Arnup deftly melds stories from her personal and professional experience to provide practical guidance and sound counsel. I don't have time for this! is an invaluable resource for all of us with aging parents." -Ira Byock, MD, author of Dying Well and The Best Care Possible"An important missing link for those seeking information and support on caring for elderly parents. Far more than a checklist of financial and healthcare issues to cover, it provides the compassionate companionship families need to make this journey together with love, courage, and humanity."-Susan Piver, author of The Wisdom of a Broken Heart and The Hard Questions for Adult Children and Their Aging ParentsA social historian, professor, and life coach, Katherine Arnup has written extensively on sexuality, marriage, motherhood, and child rearing. Author of the award-winning book Education for Motherhood, a history of advice for mothers, she has pioneered studies on the diversity and complexity of family life. In this beautifully written, deeply personal book, she tackles the last taboo-death itself.
Title:"I don't have time for this!": A Compassionate Guide to Caring for Your Parents and YourselfFormat:PaperbackDimensions:202 pages, 9 × 6 × 0.43 inPublished:March 31, 2015Publisher:Katherine ArnupLanguage:English

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ISBN - 10:0994007809

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Rated 5 out of 5 by from great book This is an extremely tough topic to tackle but this author manages to handle it with intelligence, sensitivity and even humour. I wish this book has been available when my own parents were facing aging and eventually death. She writes from her heart and personal experience which makes the book much more than a typical "how to" type of book. I encourage you to buy this book for yourself because it offers a unique insight into the aging process and mortality we all face. Buy it for the people you know who are dealing with aging parents. They will thank you. Most importantly buy it for your children.. The author is right it is never too early to start the conversation.
Date published: 2017-12-24
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Excellent Resource We are living a time when so many of us feel the burden of caring for parents, adult children or friends. This book offers great wisdom for anyone faced the challenges that come with caring for another. Katherine Arnup has done it all and shares from her own experience some of the wisdom she has gained along the way. Her personal antidotes are easy to identify with and we are assured that someone gets it. As a church minister I have added this book to church our library and keep a copy handy to give to those who I know are dealing with the day to day challenge of caring for someone they love.
Date published: 2016-11-12
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Love this book This book helped me tremendously as I was struggling with issues regarding my own parents who are old and invalid. It changed my perspective completely on old age and the issues that my parents are definitely facing- psychological and physical. A beautiful, compassionate book, helpful and supportive for all.
Date published: 2016-02-26
Rated 5 out of 5 by from A book you will read more than once, and it will help you each time I bought this book reluctantly (who wants to think about parents dying?) and I'm so glad I did. I bought it as a gift for my mom, who is going through a difficult time because of aging parents. I wasn't sure how else to support her. I read it first, to make sure it was something that she might get something out of, and I was surprised how accessible and heartfelt it was. I wasn't sure if my mom would read it, but she did, and has even passed it along to friends in the same situation. We have talked about it more than once, and if it helped in one little way, that was to open up the conversation and make us feel supported in the roller coaster of emotions that take place when supporting someone you love. I highly recommend this book.
Date published: 2016-02-13
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Very helpful book The book came out soon after my mom passed away from Alzheimer's disease. I really wish I had had some of the information provided earlier on. It would have made the whole process of helping mom live and die somewhat easier in many ways. The author provides a map of sort to bring up the subjects of caregiving and end of life decisions with loved ones and to navigate the highs and lows inherent to a caregiving journey. I highly recommend this book: its guidance will be a blessing and a comfort to all caregivers.
Date published: 2016-02-12
Rated 5 out of 5 by from An Amazing Book This author really, really understands caring for elderly parents. It is all here: feeling overwhelmed, guilt-ridden, always letting someone down, no time, fixated on to-do lists, glued to a cell phone, ashamed for not coping, unable to focus, unable to ask for help, waking in the night to write emails, and constantly fighting the urge to run away. All this plus the knowledge that things are not going to end well and feeling very much alone. I wish I had had this book five years ago but I am grateful to have it now as it is the best, most helpful book I have read on the subject of end-of-life care. I highly recommend it as an indispensable guide for living, and dying, with compassion for our loved ones and for ourselves.
Date published: 2015-07-20
Rated 5 out of 5 by from I loved this book -- really hit home! My partner bought this book a month ago (3 months after our beloved father/father-in-law died); I kept hearing "Katherine gets it"! Thought I should read it. My partner was right -- Katherine gets it!!! I haven't been able to put the book down. My only regret is that it wasn't available 2 years ago to help us through the process of putting our father in a nursing home and dealing with all the emotions that came with that. If you, or someone you know, is dealing with aging parents -- buy this book. You will be glad you did, and your friends will thank you for it! Thank you Katherine for sharing your personal story!
Date published: 2015-07-09