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I Loved You More

byTom Spanbauer

Paperback | April 11, 2014

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Tom Spanbauer's first novel in seven years is a love story triangle akin toThe Marriage Plot andFreedom, only with a gay main character who charms gays and straights alike.I Loved You More is a rich, expansive tale of love, sex, and heartbreak, covering twenty-five years in the life of a striving, emotionally wounded writer. In New York, Ben forms a bond of love with his macho friend and foil, Hank. Years later in Portland, a now ill Ben falls for Ruth, who provides the care and devotion he needs, though they cannot find true happiness together. Then Hank reappears and meets Ruth, and real trouble starts. Set against a world of struggling artists, the underground sex sceneof New York in the 1980s, the drab, confining Idaho of Ben's youth, and many places in between,I Loved You More is the author's most complex and wise novel to date. Tom Spanbauer's first novel in seven years is a love story triangle akin toThe Marriage Plot andFreedom, only with a gay main character who charms gays and straights alike.I Loved You More is a rich, expansive tale of love, sex, and heartbreak, covering twenty-five years in the life of a striving, emotionally wounded writer. In New York, Ben forms a bond of love with his macho friend and foil, Hank. Years later in Portland, a now ill Ben falls for Ruth, who provides the care and devotion he needs, though they cannot find true happiness together. Then Hank reappears and meets Ruth, and real trouble starts. Set against a world of struggling artists, the underground sex sceneof New York in the 1980s, the drab, confining Idaho of Ben's youth, and many places in between,I Loved You More is the author's most complex and wise novel to date.
Tom Spanbauer was born in a trunk in the Princess Theater in Pocatello, Idaho. Not really. The Princess Theater wasn't anymore by the time he came on the scene. He went to Catholic School until the eighth grade and then to Pocatello High School, then graduated from the newly finished Highland High. Five years at Idaho State University ...
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Title:I Loved You MoreFormat:PaperbackDimensions:468 pages, 8.91 × 5.64 × 0.95 inPublished:April 11, 2014Publisher:Hawthorne BooksLanguage:English

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Rated 5 out of 5 by from I loved you more You feel you are at the table as the characters struggle with the truths of human connection and separation. Such an entertainment with so much physical reality. I love Tom Spanbaur's ability to make life seem so f-cked up yet beautifully profound.
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I Loved You MoreSpanbauer relays from the start that Hank succumbs to cancer before he and Ben can make up the rift that springs from Ben's jealousy, so once the destruction unfolds in the final act, it happens at a riveting, fast pace. By turns poignant and funny, Spanbauer's story rings true at every turn.Publishers Weekly Starred ReviewThe fireworks that ensue between these strong-willed people over the course of book - not to mention the raw psychic scars and corrosive feelings that are ever-prevalent - are gripping. Spanbauer's talent is to collide all emotions against one another, quite often on the same page and sometimes in the same paragraph. - Christopher Carbone, Kirkus ReviewsSpanbauer simply unpacks imagery, events, and dialogue without judgment, allowing the reader to come to their own conclusions. If anything,I Loved You More provides an empathic view of bisexual relationships as the most natural in the world, perhaps the most generous expression of love and shared strength for the survival of humanity. - Rachel Wexelbaum, Lambda LiteraryTom Spanbauer, gifted anatomist of messy emotions and rangy sexuality, returns withI Loved You More. - Elissa Schappell,Vanity FairA masterful novel of what becomes of us long after we've come of age" and done all the brave things we thought would save us. Tom Spanbauer's pages pulse with life in all its messy beauty. - Ariel Gore, Publisher ofHip Mama Magazine and author ofHow to Become a Famous Writer Before You're Dead: Your Words in Print and Your Name in LightsIntelligence, wit, generosity, love, wisdom, insight, humility, guts, heart-crushing truth and spirit-lifting grace-it's all there in I Loved You More. This is Tom Spanbauer's wrenching and beautiful masterpiece. - Cheryl Strayed,Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest TrailA great read,I Loved You More is a brutal and beautiful book of love, sex, and friendship that begins in the impossible but totally mesmerizing decade of the 1980s and spans the next twenty years. - Sam Adams, Former Mayor of Portland, OregonTom Spanbauer'sI Loved You More is the most important book on sexuality, love, and the low down of relationships that I have ever read. The brilliant language is an epic ballad so deeply rendered it killed me and resurrected me a page at a time. This book is not a love story. It guts the heart of the cliche love story and hands it back to you, beating. Love is the endless falling. - Lidia Yuknavitch, author ofDora: A HeadcaseFaraway PlacesThe thing about Tom Spanbauer is-he is the real deal. [Faraway Places] is masterly - a near perfect book. The story is hypnotic, mesmerizing, delicately brilliant - and so well made. While you are lulled by the language and the characters, the storyline builds and then like a well timed firework explodes - surprising, enthralling, captivating. - A.M. Homes, Author ofMay We Be ForgivenA taut, brutal narrative ? that comes to hypnotize, shimmering like the brilliant sun on the alfalfa fields. - The New York Times Book ReviewForceful and moving ? Spanbauer tells his short, brutal story with delicacy and deep respect for place and character. - Publishers WeeklyNo magical realism. No myth or legend. No Chinook winds. Just a man and his life and what it meant to him. The bad parts and the good parts, and what those parts have assembled. [I Loved You More]is beautiful and brilliant and every other positive adjective I can rain down upon it. - Rob Hart,Lit ReactorIt's a classic triangle and it unfolds with all the wit, sexual candor, and humility that Spanbauer can summon. All his novels, and this one in particular, embody the advice a rock critic once gave his young protege: "The only true currency in this bankrupt world is what we share with someone else when we're uncool." - Angie Jabine,The OregonianI Loved You More is the most personal book we've seen yet from an author who's important to so many of us. It reads like the deliberate unpacking of one man's personal mythology - self-delusion and doubt and vanity and anger and lust and all the bad parts, along with the good. - Alison Hallett,The Portland MercuryWhile Shakespeare offered us cross-dressing as a way to push beyond the binary notion of love, Cunningham and now Spanbauer have given us a more complex view of human sexuality, and what it means to really love someone. - Melissa Duclos,Book TribPortland author Tom Spanbauer could be considered responsible for some of the best and most widely recognized contemporary writing to come out of the Pacific Northwest, both in his own acclaimed novels likeFaraway Places andNow Is the Hour as well as from the authors who have emerged from the writing group he founded, like Chuck Palahniuk, Chelsea Cain and Cheryl Strayed. Spanbauer's fifth novel and newest release,I Loved You More, follows the themes of his previous work by examining the heartbreak of relationships and deeper issues of sexuality. - Penelope Bass,The Willamette WeekI Loved You More is very right now, and yet it's also timeless. I thought of Hemingway's unfinished novel, "Garden of Eden" - a book about a young married couple who bring another woman into their relationship, and before long the marriage is in pieces - as I read Tom's book? It's a hell of a book. - Michael Goldberg,Days of the Wild CrazyI Loved You More is breathtaking for its audacity. Spanbauer is unflinching as he looks at physical need and carnal desire? He certainly does plunge into territory that many writers would not dare approach. And while he runs the risk of having readers interpret his work as exhibitionism, Spanbauer probably would argue it would be more outrageous still not to acknowledge that such complexities exist and deserve to be considered. - Barbara Lloyd McMichael,The Seattle Times[I Loved You More] is the sort of lifelong story of adoration and refusal and unrequited love that John Irving made his fortune on, but it's better than that, because it's delivered in Spanbauer's gorgeous voice. - Paul Constant,The StrangerI Loved You More is about the power of words. There are many passages in the novel that achieve dizzying heights of unabashed beauty and lyricism. - Sally Hessney,A&U: American's AIDS MagazineAt Elliott Bay Book Co. in Seattle last month, Spanbauer treated a packed house to a portion ofI Loved You More that serves as an overture to its torrid relationships. Closing the book, he took a moment to regain himself before taking questions. He said, "People ask me why I write, and I tell them it's because I can't cry and speak at the same time." - Dave Wheeler,Shelf AwarenessFeelings are complex, and love is never really just love, and Grunewald (and by default to some degree, Spanbauer), realizes this. There is a lot to love about this book - Matty Byloos,Nailed MagazineBen Grunewald is an outspoken character whom readers will fall in love with.Spanbauer has crafted a meticulously conceived and executed novel brimming with heart, soul, and the unique kind of affections found in both platonic and romantic love. - Jim Piechorta,Bay Area ReporterThis is a book about taking your whole life to be able to tell your own love story-not the one you are supposed to have, but the one that is yours-and then telling it as truthfully as possible. - Valerie Stivers,HTMLGIANTThe Man Who Fell in Love with the MoonThe miracle of this novel it that it obliges us to rethink our whole idea of narration and history and myth. Tom Spanbauer's wild West is the hurly-burly of the mind. He takes us into territories where few of us would ever dare to go. - The New York Times Book ReviewHaunting and earthy, this deeply felt tale of love and loss? Spanbauer fuses raunchy dialogue, pathos, local color, heartbreak and a serious investigation of racism in this stunning narrative. - Publishers WeeklyGender and racial lines are bent out of shape in this tale of turn-of-the-century Idaho spun by a youth who is part Indian, not quite wholly homosexual, and in the grip of a powerful imagination. Spanbauer creates a pansexual West that John Wayne wouldn't have recognized. - Kirkus ReviewsA visceral, sprawling tragic-comidy? The Man Who Fell in Love with the Moon is equal parts bizarre Bildungsroman, raucous picaresque, and hard-driving wild-West yarn. - New York MagazineA masterful plot? Delightfully unpredictable and compelling. - Library JournalEvery once in a while a reviewer comes across a book that seems so startlingly original and true that it redeems everything: art, life, the human spirit, a reviewer's job? Tom Spanbauer's novelThe Man Who Fell in Love with the Moon is such a book. - Willamette WeekIn The City of Shy HuntersAn expertly drawn, starkly authentic, early-1980s Manhattan provides the setting for this sprawling novel by Spanbauer. Spanbauer's rapid-fire narration and clipped sentences generate a surprising amount of tension and gritty emotion, as does his vibrant, dead-on dialogue and keen sense of place. This is a big, brazen, histrionic work of fiction, one that pays respectable, if unsentimental, homage to a devastating period in gay history. - Publishers WeeklyUnlike other "early AIDS" novels, this one acknowledges that AIDS touches all classes, races, religions, and sexual orientations. Excellent characters (real New Yorkers), great writing, and a new twist on an over-used plot recommend this book for most libraries, though some readers might want a more conventional ending. - Library JournalA master narrator and stylist? In the City of Shy Hunters is so finely crafted, Spanbauer's characters so true to life, the New York City he remembers from the early days of the plague so exactly captures in its 'unrelenting' mess and glory, you'll think you've been reading a modernist classic. - Peter Kurth,Salon.comSpanbauer's genius resides even in the asides? teas[ing] out the genuine complexity of human love. - Thomas McGonigle,The Washington PostIn the City of Shy Hunters has the earmarks of a literary landmark. ? Its importance and originality are unmistakable. - Laura Demanski,The Baltimore SunAmbitious and compelling? a mixture of the ghastly, the hilariousism and the curiously touching. - John Hartl,The Seattle TimesIn the City of Shy Hunters is a chronicle of deaths foretold, a journal of the plague years when AIDS swept through the city and destroyed a culture that had barely taken hold. - Jeff Baker,The OregonianTom Spanbauer breaks all the rules in his new novelIn the City of Shy Hunters - rules of grammar, rules of social propriety, rules of sanctioned sexuality, rules that keep a novelist at a desk, on a page, in the real world. - M. L. Lyke,Seattle Post-IntelligencerMesmerizing dialogue and gritty characters immediately startle you. ? The book may consist of letters typed upon a page, but those words transcend mere storytelling by nearly leaping forth and materializing into a stunning theatrical presentation. This writing as performance art? Our beloved Spanbauer has retaken center stage. He has surpassed the art of writing dangerously to create the theater of writing dramatically. - Susan Wickstorm,Willamette WeekA big ambitious stylefest of a novel, in the mode of? Edmund White'sThe Farewell Symphony, Allan Gurganus'sPlays Well with Others, and Dale Peak'sNow It's Time to Say Goodbye? What distinguishes Spanbauer's novel from the rest of the pack is his hellish, distinctive voice. Longtime fans will recognize its unusual sentences, at once choppy and strangely elegant, overtly informative but weirdly surreal, tender of phrase yet cleansed of overt emotion. - Dennis Cooper,The Village VoiceIn the City of Shy Hunters is near-epic in its emotional scope, a sprawling story that recalls at once the freewheeling black comedy of Ken Kesey's work, the spiritual quest at the heart ofZen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, and some of the precise diction of Gertrude Stein. ? There is such a myriad of small truths here that the cumulative effect is overwhelming? Fascinating and compelling. - Ken Furtado,Lambda Book ReportNow is the HourPublishers Weekly choice for one of the best 100 books of 2006This author can write. You feel pulled in immediately just by the rhythms of his language. Then by his great humor, his vast heart. There is no one like Tom Spanbauer writing in America. What a terrific novel! What a huge talent - Natalie Goldberg, Author ofWriting Down the BonesIn Tom Spanbauer'sNow Is the Hour, white small-town America gets its cherry busted in an orgy of cigarette smoke and racism. - Chuck Palahniuk, author ofFight Club "