I'm Judging You: The Do-better Manual by Luvvie AjayiI'm Judging You: The Do-better Manual by Luvvie Ajayi

I'm Judging You: The Do-better Manual

byLuvvie Ajayi

Paperback | September 13, 2016

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"A truth-riot of a book!"-Shonda Rhimes

New York Times Bestseller
#1 Washington Post Bestseller
Redbook "20 Books By Women You Must Read this Fall"
GoodHousekeeping.com "17 New Best New Books to Read This Fall"
BookRiot "100 Must-Read Hilarious Books"
Goodreads Choice Awards Finalist
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Comedian, activist, and hugely popular culture blogger at AwesomelyLuvvie.com, Luvvie Ajayi, serves up necessary advice for the masses in this hilarious book of essays

With over 500,000 readers a month at her enormously popular blog, AwesomelyLuvvie.com, Luvvie Ajayi is a go-to source for smart takes on pop culture. I'm Judging You is her debut book of humorous essays that dissects our cultural obsessions and calls out bad behavior in our increasingly digital, connected lives. It passes on lessons and side-eyes on life, social media, culture, and fame, from addressing those terrible friends we all have to serious discussions of race and media representation to what to do about your fool cousin sharing casket pictures from Grandma's wake on Facebook.

With a lighthearted, razor sharp wit and a unique perspective, I'm Judging You is the handbook the world needs, doling out the hard truths and a road map for bringing some "act right" into our lives, social media, and popular culture. It is the Do-Better Manual.

Luvvie Ajayi is an award-winning writer, pop culture critic, and professional troublemaker who thrives at the intersection of comedy, technology and activism. She is the person who often says what you're thinking but dared not to because you have a filter and a job to protect. She is also a digital strategist, noted speaker and Executi...
Title:I'm Judging You: The Do-better ManualFormat:PaperbackDimensions:256 pages, 8.16 × 5.55 × 0.71 inPublished:September 13, 2016Publisher:Henry Holt and Co.Language:English

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ISBN - 10:1627796061

ISBN - 13:9781627796064

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Rated 2 out of 5 by from Not worth writing a book about I was expecting a lot gems in this book, a lot of wisecracks about society and life in general but this book was very basic and nothing special.
Date published: 2018-04-28
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Good There is something about this book that tickles my hair.
Date published: 2018-02-09
Rated 3 out of 5 by from I really wanted to love this book At the beginning of this book I was really into it and really thought this was going to be a book I am going to tell all my friends to get. About 3/4 of the way through it started to feel a little ranty. Luvvie makes a lot of awesome arguments and I really enjoyed her point of view on a lot of things and agree with her, but the book felt a little too fluffy starting with ranting over dinners with friends and promise rings and plastic surgery and then diving into feminism and racism. Even though I still enjoyed the points she was making it just felt like it went from being fluffy and based on friends dating stories to being very deep touchy subjects. The epilogue was great and I would definitely say it is worth reading just be prepared for the subjects.
Date published: 2017-10-05
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Belly laughs and truth bombs from Awesomely Luvvie You won't know what to do with yourself with this book: Whether to laugh out loud or vigorously nod your head. Luvvie tackles situations as simple as Dinner Scrooges and Promise Rings to issues as deep and culturally important as privilege and feminism. This book is a guide to help us all do better. You will not regret buying this book, nor will you regret giving a copy to all your friends.
Date published: 2016-09-26

Table of Contents

Introduction: New Rules for a New World

1. Gosh, You're the Worst
2. Why Must You Suck at Friendship?
3. When Baehood Goes Bad
4. Under the Knife
5. Weight a Minute
6. Don't Be Pigpen

7. Racism is for Assholes
8. The Privilege Principle
9. Zamunda is Not a Country, Neither is Africa
10. Rape Culture is Real and It Sucks
11. Nobody Wins at the Feminism Olympics
12. Homophobia is Geigh
12. #FixItJesus. #BindItBuddha. #AmendItAllah

14. #Hastag #I #Hate #Your #Hastag #Abuse
15. Your Facebook is My Favorite Soap Opera
16. For Same: Get Some eBehavior
17. Dumbed-Down News
18. How to Succeed at Business Failure
19. Real Gs Move in Silence

20. About Microwave Fame
21. So You're a Big Deal on the Internet
22. On Sex Tapes
23. The Unreal World

Epilogue: Do Something That Matters
Postscript: We Didn't Do Better

Editorial Reviews

"The Internet's newest comic phenom . . . . She has been hailed by Bono and Shonda Rhimes for her singular voice and stinging political commentary...You may not have heard her name yet. But you probably will, because Luvvie Ajayi, a Nigerian-born "professional shade thrower," as she calls herself, is offering incisive, hilarious commentary on polarizing issues (race and gender in particular), and she has found her audience."-Judith Newman, The New York Times"This truth-riot of a book gives us everything from hilarious lectures on the bad behavior all around us to razor sharp essays on media and culture. With I'm Judging You, Luvvie brilliantly puts the world on notice that she is not here for your foolishness - or mine."-Shonda Rhimes, New York Times bestselling author of Year of Yes and executive producer of Scandal and Grey's Anatomy"I don't know how Luvvie Ajayi got so smart so young about so many things, from feminism to social media, from the pervasiveness of rape culture to the excellence of Red Lobster's Cheddar Bay Biscuits. I'm just grateful she has chosen to share her wisdom with the rest of us in this warm and witty book. The world is going to love it!"-Jennifer Weiner, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Best Friends Forever"You will love Luvvie Ajayi's I'm Judging You, and you will argue with it, laugh hysterically at it, shout "AW HELL YES" at it, and carry parts of it in your heart to dissect or inspire...Perfect for starting important and meaty discussions about all of the topics your mama told you never to bring up at polite dinner parties...religion, race, relationships, reality tv. Read the book. Have the discussions. You'll be better for it."-Jenny Lawson, New York Times bestselling author of Furiously Happy"I'm Judging You is whip-smart, take-no-prisoners hilarious."-ChicagoTribune "Humor writing at its best. . . . A truth serum tempered with the bite of laugh."-NBCBLK(NBC News)"Luvvie Ajayi calls out everybody on their bad behavior . . . but she does it with such a light and funny touch that you can't help but laugh even as you learn."-Goodhousekeeping.com"Hilarious and perceptive."-PopSugar"The ultimate handbook on the dos and don'ts of socially navigating the digital era. Brilliantly witty and heartful."-Redbook Magazine"Reflects Ajayi's spunky personality and hilarious commentary."-The Huffington Post"A smart, vividly humorous handbook...Overall, [Ajayi's] "do-better" calls for us to reclaim common sense, compassion, and critical thinking, in both personal and online interactions. Astute and timely advice, wittily presented." -Booklist, starred review"By exposing the uncool, unwashed underbelly of American society, Ajayi's essays force readers to reconsider their stances on a variety of issues, including social media and the public airing of everything, celebrities, sex tapes, the various types of friendships one might have, feminism, religion. Be prepared for some laughs, but also be prepared to think and confront tougher issues." -Kirkus"Ajayi writes with humor and intelligence about a range of topics . . . . Her honesty makes the book worth reading."-Publishers Weekly"I could NOT stop laughing. Luvvie has a way of tapping into the universal things that make us all suck at being people. EVERY person needs to keep I'm Judging You on them at all times just to avoid being terrible. I know I will."-Issa Rae, author of The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl"When I heard Luvvie was writing a book, I knew the following things would happen as surely as day follows night: I would read it, and I would love it...Luvvie is correct about more things more often than any single human woman has the right to be, and has the most stylish and deft command of language this side of P.G. Wodehouse. I like her immensely for it, and I wish I could read I'm Judging You for the first time again. I have been chided by the best, and I love it.-Mallory Ortberg, bestselling author of Texts from Jane Eyre"I'm Judging You is a brilliant, laugh-out-loud manual for the generation that can configure a wireless router but still hasn't realized social media is not the place for child support issues. It's the tough and tender love letter everyone should be forced to read before they take their first selfie."-Angela Nissel, author of The Broke Diaries and Mixed