I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!: A New Understanding of Mother-Daughter Conflict by Roni Cohen-sandlerI'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!: A New Understanding of Mother-Daughter Conflict by Roni Cohen-sandler

I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!: A New Understanding of Mother-Daughter Conflict

byRoni Cohen-sandler, Michelle Silver

Paperback | March 8, 2000

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For mothers who are reeling from the rockiness of an ever-changing adolescent, or struggling with a relationship that's deteriorating by the day, here is encouragement, reassurance, and great advice. "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" discusses the social, emotional, cultural, and psychological issues that can lead to mother-daughter conflicts. It offers illuminating and very recognizable case studies, and demonstrates how mother-daughter friction during adolescence can actually empower girls by teaching them invaluable skills. By providing mothers with much-needed encouragement and practical strategies to help their daughters grow into emotionally healthy and capable adults, "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" can transform the tempestuous teenage years into years of positive, enriching growth.
Roni Cohen-Sandler, Ph.D., is the author of two previous books and has written for many publications. Her numerous television and radio appearances include the Oprah Winfrey Show, Good Morning America, Today, and NPR.
Title:I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!: A New Understanding of Mother-Daughter ConflictFormat:PaperbackDimensions:288 pages, 7.97 × 5.38 × 0.61 inPublished:March 8, 2000Publisher:Penguin Publishing GroupLanguage:English

The following ISBNs are associated with this title:

ISBN - 10:0140286004

ISBN - 13:9780140286007

Appropriate for ages: 18 - 18


Table of Contents


Part 1: Understanding Your Worlds

1. You and Your Daughter
2. Being a Mother
3. Being an Adolescent Girl
4. Family and Cultural Influences
Part 2: Bridging the Mother-Daughter Gap
5. Building on Your Strengths
6. Recognizing Your Styles
7. Choosing Your Battles
8. Expressing Yourself Effectively
9. Handling Her Outbursts
10. Staying the Course
11. Dealing with Stressful Events
12. Gaining Perspective, Giving Forgiveness

Part 3: Putting It All Into Practice
13. Standing Up to Her Peers
14. Contending with Authority Figures
15. Growing from Her Mistakes

Epilogue: Closing Thoughts


From Our Editors

The relationship between mother and daughter is an intense one marked by dramatic and confrontational moments that can have a profound impact. With a little understanding and some common sense guidance, mothers can enrich their relationships with their daughters. I`m Not Mad, I Just Hate You! draws on the expertise of clinical psychologist Roni Cohen-Sandler and teen magazine editor Michelle Silver to find a middle ground for the tumultuous teen years. Filled with practical strategies for helping daughters grow into emotionally balanced adults, this is a must for loving mothers. 

Editorial Reviews

"I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" takes on the formidable challenge of dealing with a daughter's explosive teenage years . . . [with] practical tools for staying connected". -- The Los Angeles Times