Lawfully Wedded Husband: How My Gay Marriage Will Save The American Family by Joel DerfnerLawfully Wedded Husband: How My Gay Marriage Will Save The American Family by Joel Derfner

Lawfully Wedded Husband: How My Gay Marriage Will Save The American Family

byJoel Derfner

Hardcover | September 19, 2013

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When Joel Derfner's boyfriend proposed to him, there was nowhere in America the two could legally marry. That changed quickly, however, and before long the two were on what they expected to be a rollicking journey to married bliss. What they didn't realize was that, along the way, they would confront not just the dilemmas every couple faces on the way to the altar—what kind of ceremony would they have? what would they wear? did they have to invite Great Aunt Sophie?—but also questions about what a relationship can and can't do, the definition of marriage, and, ultimately, what makes a family.
            Add to the mix a reality show whose director forces them to keep signing and notarizing applications for a wedding license until the cameraman gets a shot she likes; a family marriage history that includes adulterers, arms smugglers, and poisoners; and discussions of civil rights, Sophocles, racism, grammar, and homemade Ouija boards—coupled with Derfner's gift for getting in his own way—and what results is a story not just of gay marriage and the American family but of what it means to be human.
Joel Derfner is or has been an aerobics instructor, knitter, go-go boy, math teacher, cheerleader, and the author of Gay Haiku and Swish: My Quest to Become the Gayest Person Ever and What Happened Instead. Musicals for which he has composed the score have played in London, New York, and several cities in between (going the long route)...
Title:Lawfully Wedded Husband: How My Gay Marriage Will Save The American FamilyFormat:HardcoverDimensions:248 pages, 8.25 × 5.5 × 1.1 inPublished:September 19, 2013Publisher:University Of Wisconsin PressLanguage:English

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ISBN - 10:0299294900

ISBN - 13:9780299294908

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Table of Contents

1 Saying Yes              
2 Researching Family Marriage Traditions                
3 Deciding on Living Arrangements               
4 Dealing with the Legal Business                 
5 Dealing with the Legal Business, Take Two                      
6 Planning the Ceremony                   
7 Taking Stock of the Relationship               
8 Taking Care of Last-Minute Details                       
9 Getting Married                  
10 Living Happily Ever After                                   
Appendix: A Brief and Highly Biased Legislative History of American Marriage Equality with Respect to Sexuality                  

Editorial Reviews

“This is an enjoyable, thoughtful look at marriage, wrapped in wry humor with a few eyebrow-raisers to make things interesting. If you’re a softie for a boy-meets-boy story, a lover of how-we-met tales, a twitterpated romantic, you’ll want it now. For you, Lawfully Wedded Husband will be a nice surprise.”—LGBT Weekly