Learning To Commit: The Best Time to Work on Your Marriage is When You're Single by Avrum NadigelLearning To Commit: The Best Time to Work on Your Marriage is When You're Single by Avrum Nadigel

Learning To Commit: The Best Time to Work on Your Marriage is When You're Single

byAvrum Nadigel

Perfect | September 15, 2015

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Commit to a successful relationship!Ever wonder why your relationships don’t last? Why do you always get the proverbial cold feet? Even when you have such feelings for someone, do you wonder why can’t you find an enduring love?Quite likely it’s not the other person, it’s you — specifically, your inability to commit.This book, a personal account by a respected and experienced therapist, teaches the skill of commitment. Step by step, Avrum Nadigel demonstrates how to overcome the anxieties and resistance to acquire the skills to build the sustainable bonds of a relationship. Learning to Commit is the definitive guide on how to prepare yourself for a successful life-partnership. Whether you are single and yearning or coupled and conflicted, Nadigel’s techniques are reassuring and inspiring in the pursuit of a happier and more durable love. - 20150917
Avrum Nadigel has been a therapist in Toronto, Montreal and Vancouver for more than 15 years. His approach combines family systems, psycho-dynamics and mindfulness perspectives. He has a Masters of Social Work from McGill University, a Bachelor of Commerce (Marketing) from Concordia University, and post-graduate training in Bowen Theor...
Title:Learning To Commit: The Best Time to Work on Your Marriage is When You're SingleFormat:PerfectDimensions:154 pages, 9 × 6 × 0.3 inPublished:September 15, 2015Publisher:Self-Counsel PressLanguage:English

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Rated 5 out of 5 by from Self-help that can actually help! Awesome book, refreshing, inspiring. Read this for something different from all the other self-help relationship books out there... Something that can actually help! Will be recommending to all my single friends.
Date published: 2015-11-04

Table of Contents

Introduction xv1 Beginning to Learn 11. My Story: A Fear of Commitment 31.1 A paradigm shift 91.2 Everything coming together 122. How Family Systems Theory Works 152 Rethinking Love 171. Challenge Your Assumptions about Love 191.1 What is love? 211.2 Move beyond feelings: Jerry McGuire 231.3 Using relationships for validation 272. A New Paradigm: Knowing Ourselves 292.1 How close is too close? 302.2 Differentiation: Finding a healthy distance 322.3 Why compromise fails 36vi Learning to Commit2.4 Fighting fusion: being your own person 402.5 Pursuers and Distancers 423. The (Naturally) Dark Side of Relationships 443.1 Matching your emotional maturity 473.2 Too many fish? 493.3 Warming up those cold feet 513.4 Communication issues 543.5 Jealousy and external threats 584. Why Sexual Intimacy Fails 604.1 Relationships ebb and flow 614.2 Faulty assumptions about sex 644.3 A focus on technique and tools 655. Prolonging Your Own Pain 666. What Now? 693 Growing 711. Inertia versus Change 742. Embracing Pain 772.1 Standing on our own two feet 802.2 Learning to soothe our own anxieties 802.3 Taking risks leads to growth 802.4 Working on your relationship is a two-way street 803. Preparing to Go Home and Work on Your Family of Origin 813.1 Broaden the picture 823.2 Cultivate good questions 823.3 Discover the story of you 833.4 Be patient with yourself and others 834. Studying Your Family of Origin 844.1 Offering perspective 844.2 Objective assessment 854.3 Rethink your family dynamic 854.3a Case study: Susan, on her own 854.3b Case study: Greg, with a professional 92Contents vii4.4 Family exploration: Getting started 965. Dating with Your Eyes Open 984 Moving Forward 1051. Next Steps 1091.1 Tips going forward 114Resources 115 - 20150917

Editorial Reviews

I loved this book! Few self help books have kept my attention from beginning to end. Those that do I recommend to my patients. An enjoyable read chock full of valuable information and insights backed up by important theoretical perspectives. I will definitely recommend this book to anyone, single or coupled, who is struggling with relationships and those who need to reflect on family of origin issues to understand their present and improve their future.