Love the One You're With

Mass Market Paperback | February 26, 2013

byEmily Giffin

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How do you know if you've found the one? Can you really love the one you're with when you can't forget the one who got away?

Emily Giffin, author of the New York Times bestselling novels Something Borrowed, Something Blue, and Baby Proof, poses these questions-and many more-with her highly anticipated, thought-provoking new novel Love the One You're With.

Ellen and Andy's first year of marriage doesn't just seem perfect, it is perfect. There is no question how deep their devotion is, and how naturally they bring out the best in each other. But one fateful afternoon, Ellen runs into Leo for the first time in eight years. Leo, the one who brought out the worst in her. Leo, the one who left her heartbroken with no explanation. Leo, the one she could never quite forget. When his reappearance ignites long-dormant emotions, Ellen begins to question whether the life she's living is the one she's meant to live. At once heartbreaking and funny, Love the One You're With is a tale of lost loves and found fortunes-and will resonate with anyone who has ever wondered what if.

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How do you know if you've found the one? Can you really love the one you're with when you can't forget the one who got away? Emily Giffin, author of the New York Times bestselling novels Something Borrowed, Something Blue, and Baby Proof, poses these questions-and many more-with her highly anticipated, thought-provoking new novel Love ...

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A novel for anyone who has ever wondered: how can I truly love the one I'm with when I can't forget the one who got away?Ellen and Andy Graham have the perfect marriage. There is no question how deep their devotion is, and how naturally they bring out the best in each other. But one fateful afternoon, Ellen runs into Leo. The one who b...

Emily Giffin is a graduate of Wake Forest University and the University of Virginia School of Law. After practicing litigation at a Manhattan firm for several years, she moved to London to write full time. The author of several New York Times bestselling novels, Something Borrowed, Something Blue, Baby Proof, and Heart of the Matter, ...

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Format:Mass Market PaperbackDimensions:384 pages, 6.78 × 4.2 × 1.04 inPublished:February 26, 2013Publisher:St. Martin's PressLanguage:English

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Customer Reviews of Love the One You're With


Rated 3 out of 5 by from Quick read This is a quick easy read if you need to pass the time
Date published: 2017-01-19
Rated 2 out of 5 by from Another predictable storyline for the holiday season! I would only recommend this book if you need a quick beach or holiday read - not a lot of depth in the characters and storyline is predictable but it passes the time quickly and easily!
Date published: 2016-12-29
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Okay NOt as interesting as her other works.
Date published: 2016-12-20
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Okay A little but boring compared to her other books.
Date published: 2016-12-20
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Great read! Emily Giffin's books are such great and easy reads yet relatable. This one does not disappoint!
Date published: 2016-12-19
Rated 4 out of 5 by from love the one you're with This was one of her better stories, I find her other plots to be very simplistic and this one kept me wanting to read more and more. I liked the characters and in was intriguing. The ending was far too abrupt.
Date published: 2016-11-25
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Love the One You're With Not as good as her other books, but still a decent read.
Date published: 2016-11-14
Rated 2 out of 5 by from Boring Not my favourite Emily Griffin book.
Date published: 2016-11-05
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Great read! This book was a fun read. Interesting characters and plot line. #plumreview
Date published: 2016-11-04
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Loved it I really enjoyed reading this book. I couldn't put it down. I read it in less than a week. It has an interesting plot and captivating characters.
Date published: 2014-06-16
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Could not put this book down. It is an easy read but with a strong message. Emily Giffin is one of my favorite author.
Date published: 2014-01-23
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Real and moving I have to say, this remains one of my all-time favourites. It relays a strong message that life is full of mysteries, but sometimes we must learn to appreciate what we have and let go of what we lost because what we have is ultimately better. This is a good life lesson for anyone. I read this book when I was young, but I keep going back to re-read it
Date published: 2012-10-15
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Great Author This wasn't as good as "Something Borrowed" or "Something Blue", but nonetheless it was a great read. The best thing about Giffin's novels is that they're quick reads which absorb you completely.
Date published: 2011-12-23
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Good! This is the 3rd book I read from Giffin. I liked it but it was definitely not the best one so far. The story line is good but I don't think there are too many events in this book. A lot more was happening in Sth Borrowed & Sth Blue. Will be reading Baby Proof next. Hope this one is good too!
Date published: 2011-07-21
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Another Great Read By Giffin I had heard a lot of bad things about this book; it didn't live up to the hype, it wasn't as good as the first one, it was boring. However, upon reading Love the One You're With, I strongly disagreed with everything I had heard. I love this book. It was a great read, and I related with the character so well that at some points I gasped at what was happening. I did find that it ended too suddenly... but there is rarely a completely perfect book.
Date published: 2010-09-25
Rated 4 out of 5 by from I could not stop reading... recommended for any girl who wonders if they chose "the right one"
Date published: 2010-07-23
Rated 5 out of 5 by from A Story of Love and the Choices We Make This book pretty much brings the idea of true love into the harsh realities of life, be it career, family, or both. But it gives one answer to the question "how can I truly love the one I'm with if I can't forget the one that got away?". The book begins with Ellen's chance encounter with her ex and then begins to tell the story of her past history - her past and present relationships with her ex, parents, sister and best friend as well as her relationship with the man now her husband. As she questions the choices she made in her life, she begins to discover that maybe true love isn't that warm, tingly feeling that makes your heart beat slightly faster, but that true love is making the choice to commit, true love is about family and true love is first and foremost, being true to yourself.
Date published: 2010-01-01
Rated 2 out of 5 by from Meh I enjoyed but at the same time I was bothered by this book. I sorta expected the book to be what it was but even knowing that I only read fast because I wanted to be done with it. I probably wouldn't have snagged this book up on my own if I hadn't had to read it for my book club. The lead female really irked me. I understood where she was coming from but I felt like she threw blame on other people rather than realizing that some of the situations and her feelings were strictly due to her behavior rather than her in-laws. I don't think that they would've loved her less if she had at times spoken her mind. She let things progress too far before realizing she had to change the situation. As for her ex-lover coming back in her life I think this shows us all a simple rule. Just tell the husband. Had she told Andy originally there never would've been such a huge build up in her mind. Even if she was still working out her reactions/feelings to Leo's return it wouldn't have been so all-consuming, at least in my opinion.
Date published: 2009-11-21
Rated 1 out of 5 by from really boring i was super disappointed with this book. the summary of the book on the back seemed so promising. and i even thought the beginning was good because it wasn't one of those books that took FOREVER to get to its conflict but then i kept reading and it just seemed like the book never had a climax at all. it was boring and predictable and i didn't care much for the character. this was my first book by her and definitely my last.
Date published: 2009-07-20
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Giffin is good in this book, not great. The foundation of the book had to do with a struggling woman who keeps on thinking about the one who got away. It was set up to be a great perfect chick lit as I think that many women can relate to that. However, the heroine lacked substance and events were highly predictable. Better than baby proof but nowhere near something borrowed/blue.
Date published: 2009-06-06
Rated 2 out of 5 by from Quick Read This was the first Emily Giffin book I read, it was a quick entertaining read. I agree that it was predictable I knew exactly what was going to happen before it did. On the other hand it dealt with a situation more then a few people have been in before. Not great, not horrible.
Date published: 2009-05-07
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Fun Read I enjoyed this book because it feels exciting...I cannot say I have had anyone like Leo "the-one-that-got-away" guy in my life, but I have found myself day dreaming about the closest thing I had to it. Anyways, Emily writes in a way that i enjoy reading it and the story seems to be both far and close to my life. I have begun reccommending it to my other girlfriends who have had trouble puttin git down. I read it in less than a week. I am reading her Something Blue novel now - not as good so far but I still enjoy Emily Giffins writing.
Date published: 2009-04-01

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Editorial Reviews

"Giffin's talent lies in taking relatable situations and injecting enough wit and suspense to make them feel fresh. The cat-and-mouse game between Ellen and Leo lights up these pages, their flirtation as dangerously addictive as a high-speed car chase." -People"Giffin is a dependably down-to-earth, girlfriendly storyteller." -New York Times"Giffin excels at creating complex characters and stories that ask us to explore what we really want from our lives. LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH skillfully explores the secret workings of a young woman's heart, and the often painful consequences of one's actions." -The Atlanta Journal-Constitution"Giffin's fluid storytelling and appealing characters give her novels a warm, inviting air, and her fourth is no exception. Giffin's snappy prose makes Ellen's dilemma compelling, once again proving she's at the top of the pack." -Booklist"Though it's easy to resent Ellen for taking her ideal life for granted, Giffin's vivid depictions of Ellen's steamy past with Leo help you commiserate with this realistically insecure woman." -Entertainment Weekly"Giffin's books are funny, sensitive and truthful depictions of female friendships and the complexities of marriage and motherhood." -Atlanta Peach"Ellen's conflicting thoughts and emotions ring true from page one through the book's teary (well, at least for this reader) conclusion." -Ft. Worth Star-Telegram"Giffin's book is instantly relatable. Few don't wonder how their lives would be different if they had turned left rather than right at life's big forks. Her writing is realistic and entertaining. There are unexpected plot twists and measured jabs at materialism and Southern societal norms, and Giffin's funny, honest voice lends credence to this modern riff on the old adage that the grass appears greener on the other side of the fence." -Charlotte Observer"I so loved Emily Giffin's last three books that I almost didn't want to crack her latest effort, for fear it would be the Superman IV of the author's literary opus. Mercifully, the new book not only lives up to its elegantly constructed predecessors, it arguably surpasses them in style, maturity, emotion and overall relatability. An achingly honest look at the notion of love as the sum of our choices as opposed to the contents of our vows." -Edmonton Journal"Giffin's books are smart, sad and witty . . . Giffin is bold enough to allow a mainstream heroine to be happily married while still maintaining her curiosity about the road (or the guy) not taken, let alone considering infidelity. And she's able to show the strains that these considerations take on family, friends and husband . . . It's the difference between appealing to a mass audience and a reader who wants her ideals challenged rather than affirmed, often intentionally ending in ambiguity and compromise. It's the stuff of real life, stripped of literary pretensions." -National Post"Who hasn't fantasized about what might have happened if? Giffin does an excellent job of letting us live that one out vicariously while telling us a story that is so modern, multi-layered and moving that you'll feel a little sad when it comes to a close." -Gentry magazine"Giffin is a masterful storyteller and manages to infuse energy, freshness and suspense into what could have been yet another predictable 'woman-at-a-crossroads' story. (Giffin could, in fact, teach some literary authors a few things about how to write compelling plots with strong motors.) The best thing about this book is Giffin doesn't play it safe or shy away from allowing her heroine to explore lust, infidelity and the road not taken. The dichotomy of passion and comfort, lust and security, is nothing new to literature, and yet in Giffin's deft hands, I really had no idea who Ellen would wind up with until the very last page, and more important, I actually cared." -The Globe and Mail"This sweet tale satisfies through well-drawn characters who are forced to make some tough real-life decisions." -Star"Love that's clouded by the memory of an old romantic relationship is the subject of Emily Giffin's aptly titled LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH. Readers will follow Ellen with fascination and trepidation as she enters the dangerous waters of what might have been--or still could be." -Hartford Courant"LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH is a delicious novel for anyone ever caught between what is right and what is irresistible." -Bookpage"Giffin delivers another relatable and multifaceted heroine who may behave unexpectedly but will ultimately find her true path." -Library Journal"Giffin's fourth novel demonstrate much depth as she explores the conflicts that arise between passion and common sense." -Kansas City Star"For anyone who has wondered about the path not taken. Thought-provoking . . . and perfect for an afternoon in the sun." -New York Resident"Giffin has a remarkable gift for taking banal relationship issues and infusing them with life through her characters. LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH is Giffin's most moving book yet. The romantic tension hangs off the pages like webs, trapping the characters as they attempt to live conventional lives. As always, Giffin's writing will leave you fully satiated." -Woodbury magazine"Emily Giffin delivers the characters and stories we love in her fourth novel." -OK! magazine"Giffin's characters are all quite likable, and this book is full of fun New York details and musings on the human condition that are more insightful than many books." -Minneapolis Star-Tribune