Making Out Like a Virgin: Sex, Desire & Intimacy After Sexual Trauma by Catriona McHardyMaking Out Like a Virgin: Sex, Desire & Intimacy After Sexual Trauma by Catriona McHardy

Making Out Like a Virgin: Sex, Desire & Intimacy After Sexual Trauma

EditorCatriona McHardy, Cathy PlourdeForeword bySue William Silverman

Paperback | October 18, 2016

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Making Out Like a Virgin: Sex, Desire & Intimacy After Sexual Trauma is a unique and moving collection of personal nonfiction essays that detail how each writer has moved beyond mere survival of sexual trauma to unapologetically discover a sexually and emotionally thriving life.

Making Out Like a Virgin is not a collection of victim narratives, nor a healing workbook. Instead, this book is a bold new addition to generations of stories told by survivors. The mission of these writers is not to recount their individual trauma but to detail what has helped them reclaim both body and sexual desire. “Making out like a virgin” serves as a metaphor, giving permission to sizzle and seize the moment. By telling their stories, these writers share their strength and successes found somewhere between the big shifts and small intimate moments, inspiring others while furthering their own healing.

The anthology features 17 contributor—women, men, and transgender—from 5 countries; ranging in age from their mid-20s to their late 60s; hailing from Dubai, Cairo, Dublin, Toronto, Melbourne, and from across the United States. These writers offer answers to:

·       What does it mean to not just survive, but to flourish?

·       Is it possible to ever again feel powerful and confident in one's own body and within relationships?

·       Can someone move beyond being limited or controlled by a tragic event?

“Making Out Like a Virgin is the collective power of a community of people who have refused to let the circumstances of their younger selves dictate the course of the rest of their lives. The individuals in this community have found the strength to become sexually and emotionally whole—a healing that transcends gender and orientation.” (from the foreword by Sue William Silverman, author, Love Sick: One Woman’s Journey Through Sexual Addiction)

Edited and introduced by Catriona McHardy and Cathy Plourde with a foreword by Sue William Silverman. Paperback, audio and eBook formats will release simultaneously. The audiobook edition is performed by award-winning narrator Tavia Gilbert.

Making Out Like a Virgin: Sex, Desire & Intimacy After Sexual Trauma is the inaugural publication of Portlyn Media, an imprint of Animal Mineral Press. Animal Mineral is the parent company for a set of publishing imprints that cover different aspects of sex, sexuality, and relationships, including non-fiction, faith-based romance, erotica, and other fiction for youth, new adults, and adults.

Catriona McHardy has spent her life studying human sexuality and formally held a career promoting healthy expressions of sexuality, individually and culturally. In 32 years at Planned Parenthood of Northern New England, she rose from health care associate to longtime Vice President for Education and Training. She led a team of "sexpert...
Title:Making Out Like a Virgin: Sex, Desire & Intimacy After Sexual TraumaFormat:PaperbackDimensions:186 pages, 9 × 6 × 0.4 inPublished:October 18, 2016Publisher:Animal Mineral Press, LLCLanguage:English

The following ISBNs are associated with this title:

ISBN - 10:194456800X

ISBN - 13:9781944568009


Rated 5 out of 5 by from Essential tool for those effected by sexual tramua this book shows those effected by sexual trauma that healing is possible. IT take several different people from different cultures who had different types of sexual trauma and they band together to share their sorties of the aftermath of sexual trauma .....the ptsd and moving beyond that "damaged goods" onto superhuman beings. A great tool for those directly effected and their friends family and lovers
Date published: 2016-10-14

Table of Contents

Forward by Sue William SilvermanA Kiss is Just a Kiss by Catriona McHardy and Cathy Plourde, editorsFolding In by Kevin GallagherBreathing Compassion by Lynnette E. HarperFreedom at my Fingertips by Sarah MellPerfect Kiss by Teri WestAs I Am by T. M.Find Your Voice and Carry a Big Sign by Maureen ShawLike a Virgin by Justine LarkClearing the Debris by Cairo GirlAlone With My Bliss by Kyle D. AndrewsYear of the Make Out Told by Tara Abrol, Composed by Cathy Plourde There But... SaidhbhOne Woman, Many Names by Sally J. LaskeyFour Out of Five by GlenBody, Heart, Desire by T.A. Ki?uBecause I Love Hard Told by Nefer Bovea, Composed by Cathy PlourdeMy Twenty-Four Carat Self by Jordan MasciangeloMy Red Wedding Dress by Catilin HeatherAfterwordAcknowledgements

Editorial Reviews

"What a gift to anyone recovering from sexual trauma or anyone wanting to accompany them on their journeys to recovery and fulfillment." ~DAVID WALSH, author, Why Do They Act That Way? A Survival Guide to the Adolescent Brain for You and Your Teen."Stories that promise a life beyond the trauma - one that is vibrant, passionate, and full of possibility." ~Vermont Network Against Domestic and Sexual Violence"This collection fills a gap in available literature about survivorship and healing." ~Washington Coalition of Sexual Assault Programs"...the first book about child sexual assault that has ever made me feel understood, heard, accepted into a community, and healthy in my recovery." ~ YEHUDIT ZICKLIN-SIDIKMAN, El HaLev NGO, Isreal"Rich in honest details." ~CHERYL BURGHDORF, Professor of English"Some ask me if they will ever "recover" and be able to reclaim their full selves. I tell them it is a long, slow, non-linear process, but yes, I believe it is possible. With the publication of this book, my students will no longer have to take my word for this!" ~JACQUELINE S. WEINSTOCK, University of Vermont"An essential book... Though of different countries, races, genders, orientations, backgrounds, and experiences, their tales weave together a tapestry of courage, strength, resourcefulness, resilience, and hope."~ LUCA MAURER, Program director, The Center for LGBT Education, co-author, The Teaching Transgender Toolkit"...Immensely helpful to those who call themselves victims and those who call themselves survivors and those readers looking for a more complex understanding of sexuality after trauma, growth, recovery, and healing." ~SHARON LAMB, author, Packaging Girlhood, and Sex, Therapy, and Kids."...Tales of resilience offer hope to others who have been traumatized, to those who work in the helping/healing field, and to those of us who envision a world in which the forces of light have prevailed." ~The Bingham Program, Tufts Medical Center"A poignant, diverse and courageous collection of experiences of sexual trauma that celebrate our resilience as human beings to survive, heal, and live fully satisfying lives." ~Maine Coalition Against Sexual Assault"Finally, a book that explores the effects of sexual assault on both women and men ...survivors can hear from other survivors that healing is attainable." ~WENDI DRAGONFIRE, Shuri-Ryu and Empowerment Self Defense, Netherlands and Germany"After 26 years of working with well over 800 male survivors and a couple dozen female survivors, I am well aware of the range of losses (or thefts) experienced by survivors of sexual abuse. However, the greatest theft is the loss of true intimacy-emotional, psychological, or sexual. The testimonies offer specific examples of the real possibility of regaining one's natural, joyful, and fulfilling sexual and emotional connectedness. It's not just a lovely sounding theory, this book gives concrete examples and thereby a newfound hope." ~British Columbia Society for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse"Through a diversity of voices and perspectives--all the richer for having included the oftentimes marginalized experiences of boys and men--we ultimately rediscover our common humanity. Those who have experienced abuse will find inspiration in these stories." ~Canadian Association for Equality