288 pages, 8.02 × 5.3 × 0.73 in
December 31, 2012
Penguin Publishing Group
The following ISBNs are associated with this title:
ISBN - 10: 1592407455
ISBN - 13: 9781592407453
Read from the Book
INTRODUCTIONIT SHOULDN’T BE THAT COMPLICATED People spend their hard- earned money seeking the advice of relationship experts when they already know what they need to do to have a good marriage— or at least a better one. I was recently reminded of this fact when listening to the marriage vows that two young people said out loud to each other in front of their community of family and friends.They said in turn:I promise to always treat you with kindness and respect.I promise to be faithful, honest, and fair.I promise to listen carefully to what you are saying.I promise to apologize when I am wrong and to repair any harm I have done.I promise to cook and clean for you.I promise to be your partner and best friend in the best and worst of times.I promise to bring my best self into our relationship.I promise to live these promises as a daily practice.How do you think this couple came up with their shared promises? Did they plow through the countless self- help books and blogs about the “ how- tos” of a successful relationship? Did they consult the work of psychologists and marriage counselors and study the latest research on marital failure and success?Of course not. They consulted their own hearts, their core values, their life experience, and the Golden Rule. By the time we’re old enough to choose a life partner, we’ve observed a number of marriages and have a pretty good idea about what makes things better and worse. We know it’s usually a good idea to treat the other person as
From the Publisher
Coupling up is complicated—Dr. Harriet Lerner’s marriage rules are not.
This marriage book provides couple’s therapy in a unique format perfect for today’s world. The renowned author of The Dance of Anger gives readers more than one hundred rules that cover all the hot spots in long-term relationships.
Marriage Rules offers new relationship advice to age-old problems (“He won’t talk”/“She doesn’t want sex”) as well as modern ones (your partner’s relationship to technology). If one person in a couple follows ten rules of his or her choice, it will generate a major, positive change. All that’s required is a genuine wish for a better relationship and a willingness to practice.
Marriage Rules is a treasure chest of lively, practical advice to help you navigate your relationships issues with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction.
About the Author
Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist whose many acclaimed books have topped six million copies in combined sales. She is a dynamic, sought-after speaker who has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, CNN, and NPR, and she hosts The Dance of Connection blog on psychologytoday.com.
“This is the marriage book we’ve been waiting for!” —Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW, bestselling author of The Gifts of Imperfection and Daring Greatly “Required reading for anyone hoping to interact successfully with any other human.” —Martha Beck, author of Leaving the Saints "If you're asking the question, "But what do I DO?" this book is for you. Marriage Rules is wise, gripping, funny, sanity-saving and above all, useful. It's brimming with Lerner's warmth, sharp wit, remarkable clarity, and practical advice." —Edward M. Hallowell, M.D. author of Driven to Distraction "This book is an astonishing blend of down-home wisdom and clinical experience. I can't think of a better comprehensive guide to making marriage work for today's couples. Read it for your own relationship and give it to every newlywed you know." —William J. Doherty, Ph.D., professor at the University of Minnesota and author of Take Back Your Marriage "Don't be fooled by this book's simplicity: Lerner, a distinguished psychologist, offers a real-life roadmap for a healthy relationship. She is an outstanding guide, accompanying us on the hard moments of the journey while escorting us firmly in the direction of love and joy and wisdom." —Pat Love, co-author of How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It "Open this book anywhere and you'll find a rule that will rescue you from the swamps and quicksands of marriage and couplehood. What a beautiful, smart, witty and eminently helpful book!" —Janis Abrahms Spr