MY CHAOS: Searching for My New Normal by Rick C BensonMY CHAOS: Searching for My New Normal by Rick C Benson

MY CHAOS: Searching for My New Normal

byRick C Benson

Paperback | September 12, 2017

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Loss, grief and life transitions. You have coped well before, but not now. Searching led you to this resource. Your experiences are unique, without exception. Therefore, your response to who you are now must also be unique. 

The title was not chosen to be catchy or cute. It comes from thousands of interactions the author has had with people seeking support. MY recognizes that you live with this experience in the deepest part of your being. That CHAOS most often comes from variables or influences beyond your control. Searching comes from the ongoing influence of Viktor Frankl MD, who wrote "Man’s Search for Meaning" in 1946. Searching also describes your ongoing journey in this process. MY personalizes and affirms your unique experience. NEW recognizes that significant experience in loss and life transitions forever changes you. You will never be the same. But, you will continue to search and find peace, find the “New Me.”

Normal is said to only exist as a stage selection in your washing machine! Like your loss, your normal is as unique as you are. Your normal, your peace, your healing will only be found if you take on the search, and accept ownership.

Rick C. Benson B.A. B.Ed. M.A. has held various positions in health care, education, leadership and service for almost four decades. He has experienced formal and informal education from diverse sources across Canada and around the world. The disadvantaged and the poor have taught and continue to teach Rick how to serve others. He is o...
Title:MY CHAOS: Searching for My New NormalFormat:PaperbackDimensions:218 pages, 9 × 6 × 0.5 inPublished:September 12, IncLanguage:English

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Rated 4 out of 5 by from Good Overview of Approaches to Life Transitions An easy and enjoyable read. Provides a good brief overview of thoughts and approaches to manage grief, loss and the life changes we all face. The author shares real life insights from his personal councilling experience. No one subject is explored in-depth; numerous references to supporting websites. A good reference tool for those interested in exploring different approaches to life's transitions. A nice blend of narrative stories and related theory.
Date published: 2018-04-17
Rated 4 out of 5 by from A resource for your lifetime An excellent resource for anyone dealing with loss; loved ones, positions, opportunities, there are a myriad of options Rick provides for navigating the tricky waters of loss and life transition. I found his personal anecdotes particularly impactful, both from the author's family, and the patients {clients} he has worked with over the years. My wife and I have only recently returned to hiking in the mountains {many suggestions of the benefits of being in nature in the book} and have found the benefits to be many and varied. I also really appreciate the frequency throughout the book of a key phrase "Practice doesn't make perfect, practice makes familiar", as we move towards our new normal.
Date published: 2018-01-25
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Inspirational .Excellent tips for dealing with loss or stress of any kind.Enjoyed the stories!
Date published: 2017-12-08
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Must read! I really enjoyed this book, A definite need for anyone dealing with grief.
Date published: 2017-12-07
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Inspirational stories and great suggestions. I found the author's candid and inspirational stories helpful in dealing with my many losses. The research confirms my own beliefs that being in nature and practicing meditation reduces my stress. I highly recommend this book to others looking for your own - new normal.
Date published: 2017-11-08

Table of Contents

INTRODUCTION and G.L.A.M.E.© Why the collection of stress and anxiety interventions?
CHAPTER 1: “My friend just died.” - Popular advice, with important additions
CHAPTER 2: Grief, Loss, Anxiety and Stress - Symptoms, Clichés, Avoidance. Resiliency - Neuroplasticity. I can change?
CHAPTER 3: Mindfulness - Holistic health spirituality
CHAPTER 4: Meditation - Health hygiene you should not skip
CHAPTER 5: Spiritual Connection - “I’ve never told anyone this, but… Climbing Mount Sorrow
CHAPTER 6: Journaling - Written and verbal adds needed depth of understanding 93
CHAPTER 7: Be in Nature - Shinrin-yoku – Forest bathing - Water – Sunrise – Sunset
CHAPTER 8: Qi-Gong - Yoga - Tai Chi - Slow mind body spirit movements
CHAPTER 9: Music - Your brain fully functioning
CHAPTER 10: Creative Practice - You name it – art, gardening, beads, mandalas
CHAPTER 11: Ritual - Personal and with others gives meaning
CHAPTER 12: Exercise and Mobility - The best proven prevention for all ills! Sleep - can’t function without it
CHAPTER 13: Counselling - Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), Meaning Reconstructing - Medications, combine with a listening heart
Chapter 14: Nutrition - Don’t cry eat this cookie. Healthy intake
Chapter 15: Charting G.L.A.M.E. - Your natural medication pill box - Chart & GLAME Journal. Growth in Eight Weeks!

Editorial Reviews

"This is an excellent resource for people searching for support at one of life’s most challenging periods. As a community based psychiatrist, and as someone familiar with the author’s practice I can recommend its authenticity and practical advice."- Dr. Pamela Forsythe, MD FRCPC, Community Mental Health Services"Our older population experience loss constantly- physical, spiritual and mental health, independence, family and friends. Rick’s book offers many tools to guide us back to feeling inner peace while we live life to the fullest while on this earth."- Sherry Gionet, RNGNC, Charge Nurse of Geriatric Unit"Reading this book will take you on a journey to peace. It is for anyone who has experienced loss of any kind and wishes to find hope and healing. The human spirit will respond to Rick’s sensitive and gentle leading to find wholeness again."- Adrien-David Robichaud (Rev. Dr), Clinical Pastoral Educator Supervisor/Educator,Director of Spiritual and Religious Care"A compassionate book written by a man enthusiastic about his work and presented in a very practical, easy to digest format, My Chaos is a book you’ll want to have on your shelf or to give as a gift to those you love who have faced a significant loss or major life transition."- James Fisher,