Not Under My Roof: Parents, Teens, and the Culture of Sex by Amy T. SchaletNot Under My Roof: Parents, Teens, and the Culture of Sex by Amy T. Schalet

Not Under My Roof: Parents, Teens, and the Culture of Sex

byAmy T. Schalet

Paperback | November 1, 2011

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For American parents, teenage sex is something to be feared and forbidden: most would never consider allowing their children to have sex at home, and sex is a frequent source of family conflict. In the Netherlands, where teenage pregnancies are far less frequent than in the United States, parents aim above all for family cohesiveness, often permitting young couples to sleep together and providing them with contraceptives. Drawing on extensive interviews with parents and teens, Not Under My Roof offers an unprecedented, intimate account of the different ways that girls and boys in both countries negotiate love, lust, and growing up.

Tracing the roots of the parents’ divergent attitudes, Amy T. Schalet reveals how they grow out of their respective conceptions of the self, relationships, gender, autonomy, and authority. She provides a probing analysis of the way family culture shapes not just sex but also alcohol consumption and parent-teen relationships. Avoiding caricatures of permissive Europeans and puritanical Americans, Schalet shows that the Dutch require self-control from teens and parents, while Americans guide their children toward autonomous adulthood at the expense of the family bond.

Amy T. Schalet is assistant professor of sociology at the University of Massachusetts, Amherst.
Title:Not Under My Roof: Parents, Teens, and the Culture of SexFormat:PaperbackDimensions:312 pages, 9 × 6 × 0.8 inPublished:November 1, 2011Publisher:University of Chicago PressLanguage:English

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ISBN - 10:0226736199

ISBN - 13:9780226736198

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Table of Contents


One / Raging Hormones, Regulated Love

Two / Dutch Parents and the Sleepover

Three / American Parents and the Drama of Adolescent Sexuality

Four / Adversarial and Interdependent Individualism

Five / “I Didn’t Even Want Them to Know”: Connection through Control

Six / “At Least They Know Where I Am”: Control through Connection

Seven / Romantic Rebels, Regular Lovers

Eight / Sexuality, Self-Formation, and the State

Conclusion / Beyond the Drama

Methodological Appendix




Editorial Reviews

“The analyses and insights are mightily impressive. . . . Schalet’s own background has enabled her to be both an insider and an outsider in her observations in both countries, and this advantage has clearly been maximised. A very important work, and very strongly recommended.”