Open House: A Novel

Paperback | May 1, 2001

byElizabeth Berg

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In this superb novel by the beloved author of Talk Before Sleep, The Pull of the Moon, and Until the Real Thing Comes Along, a woman re-creates her life after divorce by opening up her house and her heart.
Samantha's husband has left her, and after a spree of overcharging at Tiffany's, she settles down to reconstruct a life for herself and her eleven-year-old son. Her eccentric mother tries to help by fixing her up with dates, but a more pressing problem is money. To meet her mortgage payments, Sam decides to take in boarders. The first is an older woman who offers sage advice and sorely needed comfort; the second, a maladjusted student, is not quite so helpful. A new friend, King, an untraditional man, suggests that Samantha get out, get going, get work. But her real work is this: In order to emerge from grief and the past, she has to learn how to make her own happiness. In order to really see people, she has to look within her heart. And in order to know who she is, she has to remember--and reclaim--the person she used to be, long before she became someone else in an effort to save her marriage. Open House is a love story about what can blossom between a man and a woman, and within a woman herself.


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In this superb novel by the beloved author of Talk Before Sleep, The Pull of the Moon, and Until the Real Thing Comes Along, a woman re-creates her life after divorce by opening up her house and her heart.Samantha's husband has left her, and after a spree of overcharging at Tiffany's, she settles down to reconstruct a life for herself ...

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In this superb novel by the beloved author of Talk Before Sleep, The Pull of the Moon, and Until the Real Thing Comes Along, a woman re-creates her life after divorce by opening up her house and her heart.Samantha's husband has left her, and after a spree of overcharging at Tiffany's, she settles down to reconstruct a life for herself ...

Elizabeth Berg’s novels Open House, The Pull of the Moon, Range of Motion, What We Keep, Never Change, and Until the Real Thing Comes Along were bestsellers. Durable Goods and Joy School were selected as ALA Best Books of the Year. Talk Before Sleep was an ABBY finalist and a New York Times bestseller. In 1997, Berg won the NEBA Award ...

interview with the author

A Conversation with Elizabeth Berg

Christine Edwards Allred has a Ph.D. in English and American Literature and
has worked as a book club director. In addition to the reader’s guide for Open
House
, she created guides for Leave It To Me, What We Keep, and Until
the Real Thing Comes Along
.

Christine and her husband, Keith, live in Massachusetts.

Q: If you "could lift the roof--make for a real open house--and look in-side,"
what roofs would you lift? What do you think you would see?

EB: Given my interest in things "ordinary," I would probably lift the roof
of the people on my block. And what I would see are people involved
in "ordinary" lives, which, for me, are extraordinary. I’m the kind of
person who is entertained watching someone simply be themselves,
whether they’re putting their children to bed or making dinner or sit-ting
at the table reading the morning newspaper. I like the myriad
ways people reveal themselves, the great variation in the human
species, as well as the remarkable similarities.

Q: Is this what you’re doing when you write--"lifting the roof"?

EB: Yes. I look to find the heart and soul of people, of my characters. I
look for the truth of them, and the truths about life that are presented
through them.

Q: Sam wants to "lift the roof" in a moment of isolation. Does writing
allow you to ward off isolation? Or, is writing isolating?


EB: Well, that’s an interesting question. The answer is both. Writing is,
of course, a solitary occupation. But for many writers, myself in-
cluded, it’s through writing that we make certain vital connections.
Oftentimes I need to write about something in order to understand it.
And it’s on the page that I’m able to most accurately say the things I
feel and believe.

Q: Did this novel begin with a particular "roof" you wanted to lift or
a character or a situation you wanted to investigate?


EB: It began with an idea that I’d like to write about a woman who took
boarders into her suburban home. I thought, hmmm, what might
have to happen so that that occurred? And then it came to me that a
divorce would do it: a woman gets abandoned by her husband, and
wants to keep her house rather than selling it. And then the book be-came
something else altogether, which often happens. You start out
to write one book, and then another one takes over. In the case of
Open House, it became a story of a woman finding her way back to
herself.

Q: Is this where or how your novels usually begin?

EB: It depends. Sometimes it’s an issue I want to explore, like the power
of women’s friendships in Talk Before Sleep or changes that occur with
menopause as in The Pull of the Moon. Sometimes a character’s voice
leads the way and makes the story emerge later: Katie in Durable
Goods and Joy School.

Q: What was unique to your experience of writing Open House?

EB: Every novel is unique, because it makes its intentions known in its
own way: at a certain point, it takes over and invents itself, and I’m
just the typist. Every novel is the same for the same reason. One really
different thing about Open House, though, is that after I turned it in,
I decided not to publish it. It just didn’t feel right. I kept it on the
shelf for five years, then rewrote it, added a few things (the Martha
Stewart thing, for example), and then let it be published.

Q: The first sentence of the novel is "You know before you know, of
course." Is it "of course"?


EB: Seems to be so. Your heart knows before your head will let the information
in.

Q: Once Sam realizes that the divorce is really happening, she does
some rather--well--extraordinarily embarrassing things. Do you
ever--out of sympathy--want to stop a character from acting as
she intends to?


EB: I never want to stop a character from doing anything. I love when
they "take over" and I feel like I’m just watching the show.

Q: In a way, Sam isn’t acting like herself. Is it difficult to write about
a character who acts out of character?


EB: No. Extraordinary circumstances make for different kinds of behavior.
Part of a writer’s job, I think, is to know her characters so completely
that it’s no more difficult to write them acting out of character
than in it. It’s that old thing about how you have to know much more
about your characters than you ever present on the page. You may not
ever write about what’s in their refrigerator or their closet, or how
they take a bath, or if they like poetry, or who their first love was, or
how they would react in certain situations, but you should know it.

Q: In the moment that Sam tells Travis about the divorce, you write
two explanations: the explanation we all know Sam should give,
and the response she does give. When you began to write, did you
know which would actually come out of her mouth?


EB: No. I like to let the characters lead the way. When I write dialogue,
it emerges on the page as is. I don’t plan it.

Q: Sam leaves a tough question in the novel unanswered: How much
truth are children entitled to? Do you have an answer to that
question?


EB: Oh, I wish I did. It’s a hard question. And there is no definitive answer,
because children are all different. Some are well equipped to
handle difficult truths; others need more protection. Some have a
great deal of empathy and perspective; some do not. It’s not always a
function of age, either--a younger child may be more philosophical
or calm or secure than an older one. Our job as parents is to try to
know our children as best we can, and then support them in the ways
that they need it. And it’s a really hard job. It might be impossible.
But we try. And when they know that we really, really love them, it
helps.

Q: In a difficult conversation between Sam and her own mother,
Veronica tells Sam that "your children never really grow up for
you." Is this true of a child’s experience of her mother, as well? Is
an adult child ever able to relate to her mother not as a mother, but
only as another adult? Is Sam?


EB: I think it is in that moment that Sam does begin to see her mother as
a person. She believes she understands why her mother has this impenetrable
cheerfulness and crazy behavior--Sam has begun to see
the fault lines. That is to say, she has come to understand her
mother’s vulnerability, and her defenses against her own fragility.

Q: Although her relationship with Veronica is difficult, Sam relies on
the "truth" communicated across generations. Is there wisdom
that can be communicated only across generations? Is there wisdom
that only older women--like Lydia--possess?


EB: Wisdom is a funny thing. I think some children are very, very wise,
and some old people are not wise at all. It seems to me that, more
than anything, wisdom is a gift some people are given.

Q: In her search for women to share her experience or to offer wisdom
or empathy, Sam seriously considers calling the author of a novel
she’s just read. Has such a reader ever called you?


EB: Yes. Many times.

Q: How did you respond?

EB: It depends on the caller. Most of the time, they’re very kind and considerate,
and they just really want to tell me how much a book has
meant to them. And that’s nice. But sometimes I get someone who
wants me to write a book for them, or read their manuscript, or do
some other favor, and they can be very pushy. That’s not so nice.

Q: Have you ever called another author?

EB: Many years ago, when Erica Jong’s Fear of Flying came out, I tried to
call her. I called New York City information, got a number, dialed it,
and then hung up. I wanted to tell her how much I loved the book,
but I was afraid I’d be bothering her andor sound like an idiot.

Q: Did you know, when you began to write, that David would ask to
return? Were you afraid that Sam would take him back?


EB: No. When he said he wanted to come home, though, I knew Sam
would not take him back. Especially since the only way he could ex-press
appreciation of her was to note what she did for him.

Q: Is there a moment when you knew Sam was strong enough to stand
on her own?


EB: Well, it was a slow evolution. But something big happened when she
lay in the bathtub listening to Janis Joplin.

Q: Does divorce always result in what Sam calls a "psychic limp"?

EB: I can only speak from my own experience. I will always have a raw
place inside me from that experience.

Q: Where does a character like King come from? Does he just walk
onto the page?


EB: Actually he did just walk onto the page.

Q: What did that feel like? How did it happen?

EB: It felt completely natural. I have no idea how it happens. You’re asking
an "under the hood" question, and I’m a person who doesn’t think
very much about technique. In Escaping into the Open, I tried to
explain all that I know and believe about the writing process. But
it’s mostly . . . I don’t know, magical. I mean, how would you ex-plain
how and why people fall in love? Why we crave chocolate or
salt? (Or, my favorite, chocolate and salt together?) Those things are
just in us. I don’t think about or try to manipulate or analyze the creative
process when I’m writing something. For me, that would be
death.

Q: When did you know that King and Sam would be instrumental in
helping each other find their way back to themselves?


EB: Again, you’re assuming I know what I’m going to do. I don’t. I just get
out of the way and let it happen. When Sam first met King, I didn’t
know who he was going to be for her.

Q: As King helps Sam find her way back to herself, he asks her to re-member
a time when she "wanted to know everything." She re-members
herself as a little girl. Why is it that she has to look back
so far? Why do women so frequently seem to lose themselves during
adolescence?


EB: It’s not that she has to look that far back. It’s just the memory that occurs
to her at the time he asks the question. To answer your other
question, I think women often lose themselves in adolescence because
of boys--because of our desire to shape ourselves so that they
will be attracted to us, and because boys sort of take over in general.
That has certainly been well documented!

Q: When King explains to Sam why his job isn’t astrophysics, he talks
about the "limitations of words." Is this something that you know
about through writing? Are there moments where you want to say
"red" and come out with "chartreuse"?


EB: As I mentioned before, the place I come closest to speaking the real
truth is on the page. But I also believe that the deepest things are
very, very difficult to express, no matter how articulate you are. The
eyes hold so much. A touch. A sigh. The translation is so difficult and
so often inadequate.

Q: Do you ever stop writing for a while because, as King says, "when
I’m away from it in the specific, I’m better able to see it generally"?


EB: I never stop writing unless my life circumstances force me to. It has
nothing to do with publication. It has to do with the fact that I must
do it, and that I love doing it.

Q: When and how did you learn that Open House had been selected as
an Oprah Book Club book?


EB: I was sitting at my desk on August 16 when the phone rang and a producer
told me the good news that Open House would be the September
selection. She said that Oprah said to apologize for not calling
herself--she was in court that day. I thought, oh, man, Oprah doesn’t
have to apologize for anything.

Q: What was your book club discussion experience like?

EB: It was enormously gratifying. The women who appeared on that show
were so honest and so giving, and I feel they helped other women
who have been through or are contemplating divorce. There was
such pain expressed, but also such triumph. Women laughed and
cried during that discussion--who could ask for a richer emotional
experience?

Q: All of the individuals discussing Open House at that meeting were
women. When you write, do you write for women or with women
in mind?


EB: I write for myself. But I am very interested in women’s issues, and I
seem to tend to focus on them.

Q: How do you think that the men reading this novel--or any of your
other novels--respond?


EB: Most of my readers are women, but more men are starting to write to
me andor come to readings. A lot of men have told me that my books
help them to understand their women better, and that makes me feel
great.

Q: What are you working on now?

EB: The next novel, called Never Change, will be out in June of 2001. It’s
about a visiting nurse in love with one of her patients, a man with a
terminal illness. It’s much more serious than the last two, and I’m
very excited about it. I’ve begun a new novel, too, but it’s much too
soon to talk about it.

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Format:PaperbackDimensions:272 pages, 8.2 × 5.46 × 0.6 inPublished:May 1, 2001Publisher:Random House Publishing GroupLanguage:English

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Reviews

Rated 3 out of 5 by from Of two minds I fell into the story quickly, finding myself so distressed for the main character that I wanted to be there to support her in whatever was going to happen on the next page. I read little grabs of it over the stove, during commercial breaks, went to bed early for a chance to get more. Then, just as quickly, I lost it. The empathy I'd been nurturing turned sour when I realized that the author was racing toward an unearned conclusion. Decisions that would have been laboured over earlier in the book were suddenly taken and actioned without any attempt to explain. Pregnant, not pregnant. Want him back, don't. In the space of a chapter. I can't say I didn't enjoy it. But I felt like the last quarter could have used some fleshing out.
Date published: 2008-09-30
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Open House This is the Oprah book in trade paperback. It was a much "lighter" story than I had expected, having heard so much about it beforehand. I liked it, and could relate to it personally. I'm a single mom to a 15 year old son and could certainly see and understand her thought patterns. Sam becomes distraught and turns into herself, following a split up of her marriage. She begins to second guess everything she does to the point of almost completely losing herself. She fumbles along and finally settles upon friendships cultivated after the breakup, and is much better for it. She learns to get on with her life, and to create a new and personal life she alone can be content and ultimately happy within When she has an opportunity to rekindle the relationship with David, she chooses not, (to her credit) she learns/sees the realization of it all - that she was looking after David her whole married life, and catering to his whims and wishes, and has indeed lost Samantha in the process. Stumbing and falling and getting right back up have provided Sam the assurances she needed in order to take charge of her own life, and with that, her son's acceptance and understanding as well. Good story, but quite a bit of life in there too!
Date published: 2001-05-22

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Read from the Book

PROLOGUEYou know before you know, of course. You are bending over the dryer, pulling out the still-warm sheets, and the knowledge walks up your backbone. You stare at the man you love and you are staring at nothing: he is gone before he is gone. The last time I tried to talk to David was a couple of weeks ago. We were in the family room--David in his leather recliner, me stretched out on the sofa. Travis was asleep--he'd had his eleventh birthday party that afternoon, the usual free-for-all, and had fallen into bed exhausted. The television was on, but neither of us was watching it--David was reading the newspaper and I was rehearsing. Finally, "David?" I said. He looked up. I said, "You know, you're right in saying we have some serious problems. But there are so many reasons to try to work things out." I hoped my voice was pleasant and light. I hoped my hair wasn't sticking up or that my nose didn't look too big and that I didn't look fat when I sat up a bit to adjust the pillow. "I was wondering," I said, "if you would be willing to go to see someone with me, just once. A marriage counselor. I really think--" " Samantha," he said. And I said, "Okay." He returned to the paper, and I returned to lying on the sofa, to falling down an elevator shaft. There were certain things I could not think about but kept thinking about anyway: how to tell the people I'd have to tell. How lonely the nights would be (that was a very long elevator shaft). How I believed so hard and for so long that we would be able to overcome everything, and now I would have to admit that we could not. How wrenching it is when the question you want to ask is "Why don't you want me?" but you cannot ask it and yet you do not ask--or talk about--anything else. "David?" I said again, but this time he did not look up.

Bookclub Guide

1. On the morning that Sam acknowledges that she will be get-tinga divorce, she begins to act like "the new me" (5). Ofcourse, the divorce will change Sam, but how does this "newme" of the first morning differ from the woman she will eventuallybecome?2. On this first morning, Sam acts as she imagines Martha Stewartwould. Later, she wants to talk with Martha Stewart althougheven Travis assures her that "everybody" hates Martha Stewart(167). Why? What is Martha Stewart a symbol of? Why is Samsuddenly so interested in her? Is it actually Martha Stewart whocalls Sam?3. Sam has rather definite ideas about what Travis's mother oughtto be like. "His mother," she insists, "should know what she'sdoing" (58). Does Sam know what she's doing? Is she a goodmother to Travis?4. Sam's relationship with her own mother is a difficult one. Herfrustration with Veronica's "constant, crazy cheerfulness" (88)is matched only by Veronica's frustration with Sam's need to"revel" in "misery" (49). Still, Sam acknowledges that "at theheart of things, I am my mother's daughter" (133). How alikeare Sam and Veronica? In what ways are they different?5. Open House is marked with moments in which Sam's family andfriends offer their memories of Sam's past with David. Rita admitsthat she "never" liked David (35). David insists that heand Sam "just never really connected" (132). Even Sam acknowledgesthat she doesn't think David "ever loved me" (39),although she stops herself from saying that she "never lovedhim" (93). How accurate are these memories-Rita's, David's,Sam's-of the past? Is hindsight 20/20?6. In a difficult conversation about their separate lives, Sam wantsto warn David. "Doesn't he understand," she wonders, "that ifhe doesn't stop this, it will be too late?" (130). In this very moment,however, Sam mourns that it "is too late" (130). Whendoes Sam realize that it is "too late" for her to save her marriage?When did you realize this?7. During a particularly lonely evening, Sam enters Lydia's roomin an attempt to "wrap" herself "in the comfort of someoneelse's life" (82). Is this possible? How does it happen?8. Although Sam longs for a "real open house" (196), her mother,her son, and her best friend are wary of her decision to "open[her] house to strangers" (49). Why is the novel titled OpenHouse? Who are the "strangers" in Sam's home?9. Although Sam reads through the personal ads with both Lydiaand Rita, she seems rather skeptical of their promises. Are personalads inevitably dishonest? What would an honest personalad sound like?10. As Sam listens to her mother describe the moment in which,ironing a shirt, she realized just how much she loved Sam's father,Sam acknowledges that she appreciates such "evidenceof love." What is this "evidence of love"? Is it absent betweenSam and David? What "evidence of love" exists between Samand King?11. Sam insists that her decision to get divorced is marked both bymoments that are "awful" and moments that are "ecstatic" (53).Which moments predominate? Do you feel that Sam made theright decision?12. After taking Sam to the employment agency, King thanks Sam.It is a gesture Sam doesn't understand. What is King thankingher for? Why doesn't Sam understand?13. King explains to Sam that, following a disastrous relationshipin college, he turned away from individuals to science. "Every-thingis there, in science" (201). However, Sam insists on thestrength and superiority of "human connection" (197). In whatways does King find "science" all-fulfilling? What does Samseek through "human connection"?14. At one moment in the novel, Sam contemplates the realitythat "you live your life, and you get to ask for things, and some-timesthey are given to you" (167). What does Sam ask for?What is she given?15. Throughout Open House, Sam experiences moments of wishingshe "believed" and that she "could pray" (198). Sam whispers"Help me" into "folded hands" (42) and offers a "type of prayer"over her solitary Thanksgiving dinner (140). In the last sentencesof the novel, she feels "full of faith, blessed by it" (241).What does Sam have faith in?

Editorial Reviews

"Touching . . . [A] deft, sweet, and often comic novel."--Chicago Tribune"THIS NOVEL MAKES FOR PLEASANT READING . . . PATTY MURPHY IS APPEALINGLY VULNERABLE. . . . NOVELIST ELIZABETH BERG HAS AN ENGAGING VOICE AND STYLE."--Los Angeles Times"A PERCEPTIVE COMEDY OF MODERN MANNERS . . . At the end of each undemanding day, Patty goes home to an empty apartment and listens to her biological clock ticking as ominously as Captain Hook's crocodile. . . . Patty wants a husband and a baby, and not necessarily in that order. . . . But Patty has a problem. Try as she might, there is only one man she can love--her best friend, Ethan--and try as Ethan might, he is quite firmly and intractably gay. With rueful good humor, Until the Real Thing Comes Along shows how Patty and Ethan come to terms with the impossibility of having it all."--The Boston Globe"BERG WRITES WITH HUMOR AND UNDERSTANDING ABOUT MATTERS OF THE HEART. . . . The author's generous view of humanity is evident in her characters, who walk right off the page they are so well and truly drawn."--St. Louis Post Dispatch"ENTERTAINING . . . FLAWLESS DIALOGUE . . . READING IT IS LIKE EAVESDROPPING ON AN INTIMATE FEMALE CHAT."--New York Daily News"COMPELLING . . . [A] WARMLY TOLD TALE."--People