Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, And Finding Joy by Sheryl SandbergOption B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, And Finding Joy by Sheryl Sandberg

Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, And Finding Joy

bySheryl Sandberg, Adam Grant

Hardcover | April 24, 2017

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#1 New York Times Best Seller
Named a Best Book of 2017 by Barnes & Noble and Amazon 

From Facebook’s COO and Wharton’s top-rated professor, the #1 New York Times best-selling authors of Lean In and Originals: a powerful, inspiring, and practical book about building resilience and moving forward after life’s inevitable setbacks.

After the sudden death of her husband, Sheryl Sandberg felt certain that she and her children would never feel pure joy again. “I was in ‘the void,’” she writes, “a vast emptiness that fills your heart and lungs and restricts your ability to think or even breathe.” Her friend Adam Grant, a psychologist at Wharton, told her there are concrete steps people can take to recover and rebound from life-shattering experiences. We are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. It is a muscle that everyone can build.
Option B combines Sheryl’s personal insights with Adam’s eye-opening research on finding strength in the face of adversity. Beginning with the gut-wrenching moment when she finds her husband, Dave Goldberg, collapsed on a gym floor, Sheryl opens up her heart—and her journal—to describe the acute grief and isolation she felt in the wake of his death. But Option B goes beyond Sheryl’s loss to explore how a broad range of people have overcome hardships including illness, job loss, sexual assault, natural disasters, and the violence of war. Their stories reveal the capacity of the human spirit to persevere . . . and to rediscover joy.
Resilience comes from deep within us and from support outside us. Even after the most devastating events, it is possible to grow by finding deeper meaning and gaining greater appreciation in our lives. Option B illuminates how to help others in crisis, develop compassion for ourselves, raise strong children, and create resilient families, communities, and workplaces. Many of these lessons can be applied to everyday struggles, allowing us to brave whatever lies ahead. Two weeks after losing her husband, Sheryl was preparing for a father-child activity. “I want Dave,” she cried. Her friend replied, “Option A is not available,” and then promised to help her make the most of Option B.
We all live some form of Option B. This book will help us all make the most of it.
SHERYL SANDBERG is chief operating officer at Facebook, overseeing the firm's business operations. Prior to Facebook, Sheryl was vice president of Global Online Sales and Operations at Google, chief of staff for the United States Treasury Department under President Clinton, a management consultant with McKinsey & Company, and an econom...
Title:Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, And Finding JoyFormat:HardcoverDimensions:240 pages, 9.5 × 5.7 × 1 inPublished:April 24, 2017Publisher:Knopf Doubleday Publishing GroupLanguage:English

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Rated 5 out of 5 by from Read this book! This is the best book about grief and resilience I have ever read. It is empowering and hopeful. Absolutely everyone who has experienced hardship will benefit from Option B.
Date published: 2019-01-06
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Building resilience I read Sandberg's Lean In last year. It had been on my "for later" shelf for a while, and I found it very relatable. I am equally impressed with Option B. The idea of pre-traumatic and post-traumatic growth resonates with me. I know I will never be able to fully prepare for some of life's challenges, but I can try to keep my resilience muscles strong and active.
Date published: 2018-09-13
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Excellent A heartfelt and yet practical book that helps during what is likely the most difficult time in your life.
Date published: 2018-08-31
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Encouraging Inspirational and encouraging tit bits of various stories and life events in order to help overcoming various life adversities. Insightful and easy to read.
Date published: 2018-08-18
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Helpful I really thought I was feeling alone and that what I feel is not validated but this book really helped me understand how to cope with the loss of my mom. Glad I read it.
Date published: 2018-07-15
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Great read. Great book with a wonderful message. Highly reccomend.
Date published: 2018-06-12
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Greta second book to Lean in! Absolutely love Sheryl Sandberg! She is a true leader and a great inspiration on a prsonal level!
Date published: 2018-04-17
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Love the message Sheryl definitely tries to foster resilience and acceptance of tragic or unfortunate events that may occur in someone's life. Whether you got fired, lost somebody, have financial difficulties, or any other aspect of your life where you've had a small tragedy - you should read this book
Date published: 2018-03-13
Rated 5 out of 5 by from EVERYONE needs to read this I purchased this book after watching a few of Sheryl Sandberg's speeches. This may be one of the most incredible books I've ever read. This is a book that everyone can learn something from (I was able to have multiple takeaways). Sheryl's wisdom and knowledge on the world is well beyond her years, and what makes her most inspiring is her ability to take a tragic and devastating life event and turn it into an opportunity to grow and rediscover joy. I'm a firm believer that every. single. person. can learn something from this book. Adam Grant's touch was perfect. 5 stars for sure.
Date published: 2018-02-25
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Great Read This is a great read, Sheryl keeps you hooked the whole book. Defiantly a book I would re-read I think there's much value in many lessons throughout the book.
Date published: 2018-01-23
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Amazing book Written in a way that keeps you hooked and makes you feel for Sheryl and the other characters in her journey.
Date published: 2018-01-22
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Good self help book This book is recommended if you have lost someone or if someone close to you has experienced this trauma. Gives a new vision towards life
Date published: 2018-01-13
Rated 5 out of 5 by from I would recommend EVERYBODY read this! This book gave such amazing insight into how to go through a difficult season yourself as well as how to support someone going through a difficult season. This was an amazing read.
Date published: 2018-01-05
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Extremely helpful I bought this book shortly after my father died, I had never lost anyone close to me and needed some insight on how to deal, and feel since everything was so foreign. This book helped me feel like I wasnt alone in the thoughts and emotions I was going through while giving helpful ideas on how to grieve and move forward.
Date published: 2017-12-22
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Loved it Must read for someone going through a phase. Uplifts your mood when you are down and gives you a broader perspective of life.
Date published: 2017-12-09
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Interesting and informative Although I am not dealing with trauma or loss I still found this book insightful and informative. There were lots of interesting stories.
Date published: 2017-10-30
Rated 4 out of 5 by from good heard good things about it so i thought i would read it!
Date published: 2017-10-30
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Will Save Your Life On a particularly desperate day, I made my way to bookstore to find something to read that would save me from all the messy feelings I was experiencing. I picked this book up and made my way to the beach and sat by the lake for 5 hours and couldn't put it down. This book saved me that day. I finished it the next day and would read it over again.
Date published: 2017-10-25
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Healing the should kind of book! This book is absolutely amazing. I finished it in 2 days and it was the most comforting read I have read in a while!
Date published: 2017-10-23
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Interesting and insightful Inspiring book. I didn't like Lean In but this was well written. Sheryl was incredibly transparent about her life.
Date published: 2017-10-22
Rated 3 out of 5 by from ok This was an interesting read full of life lessons learned through experiencing a terrible loss. Reading this provides insight into the grieving mind along with strategies to support someone experiencing los
Date published: 2017-10-22
Rated 3 out of 5 by from ok This was an interesting read full of life lessons learned through experiencing a terrible loss. Reading this provides insight into the grieving mind along with strategies to support someone experiencing los
Date published: 2017-10-22
Rated 5 out of 5 by from a great read Will help you deal with life's losses and tragedies.
Date published: 2017-10-21
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Open and Honest The writer opened up and shared about a tragedy, giving great lessons she learned along the way.
Date published: 2017-10-21
Rated 4 out of 5 by from A good read Will help you deal with life's losses and tragedies.
Date published: 2017-10-20
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Full of Life Lessons This was an interesting read full of life lessons learned through experiencing a terrible loss. Reading this provides insight into the grieving mind along with strategies to support someone experiencing loss or #plumreview
Date published: 2017-09-28
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Full of Life Lessons This was an interesting read full of life lessons learned through experiencing a terrible loss. Reading this provides insight into the grieving mind along with strategies to support someone experiencing loss or #plumreview
Date published: 2017-09-26
Rated 4 out of 5 by from an awesome read1 i love this read. it gives you an insight and tell you how you should react for a sudden, unexpected event.
Date published: 2017-09-23
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Good book I read this book a few months ago. I appreciated her honesty and openness regarding dealing with the sudden and unexpected death of her husband.
Date published: 2017-09-18
Rated 4 out of 5 by from good read some good nuggets in here about the experience of grief. Everyone's journey is different, but tf you have gone through something similar, you will find a lot to relate to.
Date published: 2017-09-12
Rated 3 out of 5 by from okay i originally saw the author interviewed on ellen and was interested in her story so i grabbed this. it was okay but not on my list of recommendations.
Date published: 2017-08-21
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Relatable Was able to see much of what I went through after losing my husband in this book, but it came about 5 years too late.
Date published: 2017-07-28
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Life changing i thought this book had a really strong message.
Date published: 2017-07-26
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Okay but nothing special I picked up this book because I lost a close family member this year. I wanted to be able to "share" in the grief and have a different POV. Overall, I didn't find it compelling but there were a few stories where I could totally relate, about the isolation of mourning someone and how other people react to you ( which isn't always very sensitive )
Date published: 2017-07-20
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Lovely An enjoyable and touching read. Sheryl Sandberg is able to express her deepest grief and smallest of joys while at the same time bringing attention to how government policies and societal views impact the journey of grief, especially for women.
Date published: 2017-07-09
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Insightful and Uplifting Bought this on a whim, not knowing who the author was. I am so glad I did! It's the type of book that is helpful, thought-provoking, uplifting and so much more. Whether you are going through a tragedy, you want to help family or a friend, or you want to be somewhat prepared for future challenges of any degree, I highly recommend this book!
Date published: 2017-07-08
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Enjoyable I definitely enjoyed this book, it really opens your eyes when looking a life and makes you feel.
Date published: 2017-06-28
Rated 5 out of 5 by from great! Good read! makes you think
Date published: 2017-06-23
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Interesting & Comforting I bought the book looking for a different point of view on the death of a spouse and was not disappointed. The book is easy to read and has some nice insights without being "preachy". It provides Sheryl Sandberg's experience as an example of what can happen but adds some tools and techniques that can be used to work through grief and loss.
Date published: 2017-06-22
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Insightful and thought provoking Insightful and thought provoking
Date published: 2017-06-19
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Uplifting Whether or not you have experienced tragedy in your life, this book will help you to appreciate what you have and the joys that life has to offer. The personal stores shared by Sheryl are emotional and thought-provoking and you feel as though you know her and her family personally.
Date published: 2017-06-05
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Loved this book! I wasn't sure I would enjoy this book, and when it got picked for my book club I wasn't that excited. But it was an excellent read. Very insightful, interesting, relatable and emotional. I would recommend it to anyone!
Date published: 2017-06-02
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Good but nothing new I liked reading about how personal Sheryl was able to go into her tragedy and how she dealt with it. However, there was nothing really new learned in terms of coping...
Date published: 2017-05-26
Rated 3 out of 5 by from Thought-Provoking! This was beautifully written. Even if you haven't encountered a tragedy such a losing a spouse, these life lessons can be applicable just about anywhere in life.
Date published: 2017-05-24
Rated 4 out of 5 by from An eye opener for those not looking. My mother bought this for a friend, and after being told about it I wanted to read it. Even though I am not "grieving" per se, I did pick up a few pointers from this book. I highly recommend this to anyone. It's an easy read, relatable, and a quick finish.
Date published: 2017-05-22
Rated 5 out of 5 by from love I love her writing style and the way she presents every day struggles and makes them relatable. I am only a couple chapters in but so far it's amazing!
Date published: 2017-05-15
Rated 3 out of 5 by from inspiring really great book. makes you realize a lot and open your eyes.
Date published: 2017-05-12
Rated 4 out of 5 by from Inspiring Inspiring and enjoyable read for the summer!
Date published: 2017-05-10
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Amazing It's well-written and inspiring. I loved "Lean in" and loved "Option B" just as much.
Date published: 2017-05-04
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Perseverance at best Perseverance and determination at its finest. A good read.
Date published: 2017-05-03

Editorial Reviews

“A remarkable achievement: generous, honest, poignant. Option B reveals an aspect of Sandberg’s character—her impulse to be helpful. This is a book that will be quietly passed from hand to hand, and it will surely offer great comfort to its intended readers . . . The candor and simplicity with which she shared all of it is a kind of gift . . . Helpful, moving.” —Caitlin Flanagan, The New York Times “The overwhelming message of this book is: We’re a lot more resilient than we think we are. But there are things we can do for ourselves, and for other people who are hurting, that will really allow that resilience to bloom.” —Katie Couric “Sandberg is wise and honest and funny and practical in ways that are likely to stay with the reader. Her deeply personal book is more than memoir; interspersed with devastating scenes are equally powerful strategies for coping when your world has gone tilt.” —Tracy Grant, The Washington Post  “I recommend this inspiring book to everyone around the world. None of us can escape sadness, loss, or life’s disappointments, so the best option is to find our Option B.” —Malala Yousafzai, Nobel Peace Prize winner   “Option B is as hopeful as it is heartbreaking. Here are stories of sometimes unimaginable pain and loss, but also of how human beings nonetheless have the capacity to endure and even thrive. This book is not just an absorbing read. It also provides lessons that everyone needs to learn.” —Atul Gawande, author of Being Mortal “Sheryl writes about her own heartbreaking experience with a rare honesty. Then she and Adam translate her personal story into a powerful, practical guide for anyone trying to build resilience in their own lives, communities, and companies. It’s hard enough to resonate with readers. It’s even harder to help them take concrete steps toward a better future. Option B does both.” —Bill and Melinda Gates, co-chairs of the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation “Thoughtful, insightful, and compelling. Both individually and collectively, we all need to understand the power of rehabilitation, recovery, and redemption if we are to overcome adversity. This incredible book doesn’t avoid the loss and tragedy we all sometimes encounter, but it is animated by a resolve that is both inspiring and instructive.” —Bryan Stevenson, author of Just Mercy and founder of the Equal Justice Initiative    “Illuminating, original, and deeply inspiring, Option B is one part riveting memoir, one part heal-your-heart boot camp, one part stories of others who learned to thrive in the face of profound loss: a practical, vital contribution to the literature on loss and resilience.” —Cheryl Strayed, author of Wild  “Like her debut volume, Sandberg’s Option B is an optimistic book, even if one riven with sorrow. She argues that after adversity and loss, there is an opportunity for ‘post-traumatic growth.’ Thus the book is in part a moving memoir.” —Rebecca Mead, The New Yorker   “Sandberg’s new book is tough, full of the raw, painful emotions . . . Option B [has] advice for people who are grieving. But it’s also a book for nearly everyone—people who may not know what to say or do in the wake of a tragedy. It’s also a deeply optimistic book, framed around the question, what’s next?” —Rebecca J. Rosen, The Atlantic   “Intimate, personal . . . Within Option B there are lessons for leaders who want to make organizations more resilient, help employees recover from a loss—or crisis—and create workplaces that are more prepared to deal with failure.” —Jena McGregor, The Los Angeles Times   “Admirably honest, optimistic . . . Sandberg shares a great deal of herself and what she has learned. At its core the book helps those who have been felled by despair: a guide both for those who have directly suffered loss and for those who are close to people who have.” —The Economist  “Though it was inspired by a deeply personal tragedy, Option B details Sandberg’s experience and the topic of resilience more broadly, and is filled with insight that is useful for anyone overcoming loss or failure.” —Brad Stulberg, New York Magazine “Science of Us” “Being among the most powerful women in the world didn’t spare Sheryl Sandberg from the sudden death of her husband, not quite two years ago. Option B is at its best when pinpointing specific tips for coping with overwhelming grief. Sandberg writes how she created new rituals, such as taking a moment at dinner each evening to express gratitude for something positive that day, and declaring ‘small wins.’ Day by day, the book says, these small victories can become building blocks to a return to emotional equanimity.” —Diane Cole, The Wall Street Journal “Option B tackles a universal subject, and offers up a path to happiness based not on fantasies of immortality but on the reality of the sorrow of life itself . . . The book is also a practical guide for handling grief and adversity. With her coauthor Grant, Sandberg lays out anecdotes and research on perseverance and resilience . . . Finding growth and ultimately joy is the project of Option B. Sandberg makes a point of emphasizing this aspect.” —Emily Peck, The Huffington Post“Part memoir and part operating manual for surviving the hardest moments in our lives, Option B has essential wisdom . . . This book has the power to help heal. What's doubly impressive about Sandberg’s decision to write it: she must have known it required opening herself up to feedback that far exceeds the usual literary criticism.” —Rebecca Ruiz, Mashable “Option B chronicles Sandberg’s devastating loss, her grief and how she emerged from it with a new perspective on life. The most affecting parts of the book recount not just Sandberg's grief, but that of her children . . . ‘Tragedy does not have to be personal, pervasive or permanent, but resilience can be,’ she writes. ‘We can build it and carry it with us throughout our lives.’” —Associated Press “Sandberg is helping people find resilience and meaning in the face of adversity. She says there isn’t one way to grieve, but she’s learned that processing your feelings and not blaming yourself is an important part of recovery. . . Facing adversity, Sandberg says, is a part of daily life from childhood to adulthood.” —Queenie Wong, The Mercury News “Moving . . . A memoir of the loss of a husband and finding a path forward beyond the grieving process. Writing with Grant, a highly rated professor at Wharton, Sandberg explores how to weather the storm of grief, applying concrete skills—in addition to more complex theories of psychology about how to find meaning in life-changing circumstances. A book that provides illuminating ways to make headway through the days when there doesn’t seem to be a way forward.” —Kirkus “Helpful and hopeful Sandberg draws on her own pain around the sudden death of her husband, and shares what she has learned about resilience with a tone that is raw and candid. Those suffering as well as those seeking to provide comfort should find both solace and wisdom” —Publishers Weekly