Parenting Your Parents: Straight Talk About Aging in the Family by Bart J. MindszenthyParenting Your Parents: Straight Talk About Aging in the Family by Bart J. Mindszenthy

Parenting Your Parents: Straight Talk About Aging in the Family

byBart J. Mindszenthy, Michael Gordon

Paperback | September 14, 2013

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This latest, enhanced and updated edition will help guide the thinking of those challenged with aging in the family.

Since the last edition in 2006, much has happened in the field of eldercare. There is now an increasing awareness of the complex challenges posed by the expanding aging population in North America. When our parents reach a certain age and have difficulty coping, we find ourselves wondering how to provide them with the kind of love, care, support, and attention they need, just as they have done for us all our lives.

The third edition of Parenting Your Parents shows, through 24 case studies and the personal experiences of the authors, that you are not alone and offers crucial advice to help you along this difficult but rewarding journey. It also offers a new Vulnerability Index to measure what level of need your parents may have right now, as well as a financial planning section and resource directory.

Bart J. Mindszenthy, APR, FCPRS, LM, has been a family caregiver and eldercare advocate since 2002 with five books on the subject, including The Family Eldercare Workbook Planner. He is also a partner in a communications and training firm operating in Canada and the U.S. He lives in Toronto. Michael Gordon, MD, MSC, and FRCPC, is pro...
Title:Parenting Your Parents: Straight Talk About Aging in the FamilyFormat:PaperbackDimensions:400 pages, 9 × 6 × 1 inPublished:September 14, 2013Publisher:DundurnLanguage:English

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Rated 5 out of 5 by from Made A Difference I have been looking for various resources to help support an in-law, as well as a close friend whose mother is reaching a point where intervention is needed. I had read the original publication a while ago, but this new edition is excellent and I found I read it from beginning to end - whereas I was expecting to use it more as an updated reference as needed. Therefore, it really has made a wonderfully helpful difference to me, as I support my in-law as well as our close friend through these journeys. Thank you for a great new helpful book!
Date published: 2013-10-16
Rated 5 out of 5 by from Glebe Report - Jan. 16 “… is a most welcome reference book for adult children of elderly parents who are seeking advice from the experts into whose hands they see their parents’ health care ever-increasingly entrusted … I highly recommend Parenting Your Parent for adult children dealing with elderly parents and for their own children who will surely face the challenges their parents are facing now.” – Sharon Abron Drache
Date published: 2009-03-06

Table of Contents



Introduction: The Case for the Cause: Caring for Aging Loved Ones Is a Major
North American Social Issue and Challenge

Parenting Your Parents: Stepping into the Unknown

The Rocky Road of Responsibility

Case Studies:
1. Control: Laying on the Guilt Trip

2. Surgery: Weighing the Odds

3. Eldertravel: Balancing Risks and Benefits

4. Independence: Helping Parents Live Their Lives

5. Breaking the Mold: The Rebellious Grandmother

6. Culture Clash: Pitting Values against Needs

7. Substance Abuse: Drinking All Day Keeps Reality Away

8. Sexuality, Romance, and the Family: When Children Worry
about Their Parents

9. Tapping the Human Spirit: It’s Never Too Late to Create

10. Siblings: In Charge and On the Attack

11. The Conflicted Single Child: A Confusing Battle of Priorities

12. Finding the Middle Ground: Engaging Mediation with Age Related Issues

13. The Stroke: Sudden Challenges and Changes

14. Dementia and Depression: Reading the Signs

15. Advancing Dementia: When Life Gets More Difficult

16. Technology: Opening New Avenues of Care Management

17. The Difficulties of Decision-Making: Deciding What Treatments Make the Most Sense

18. When Love and the Law Conflict: Who’s Right, Who has the Right?

19. We’re On Our Own: How to Plan for the Future

20. Finding a New Life: Corrections and Concerns

21. Decision Time: Planning for the Inevitable

22. End of Life: Caring and Sharing

23. Moving On: Living Life without a Loved One

More than the Birds and the Bees: Having the Conversation with Your Parent
by Michael Gordon

Roz and Max
by Michael Gordon

A Week of Trauma Sets the Stage for Years of Hurt and Hope
by Bart Mindszenthy

The Personal Parenting Planner

The Financial Considerations: What You Need to Know

Directory of Key North American Resources

Editorial Reviews

[The] authors write eloquently and compassionately about each case study, weighing in on treatment plans and on which family members are behaving suitably under the circumstances. Mindszenthy's chapter on his mother's dementia and the personal anguish it caused his family is a cry from the heart that sends the ultimate message of the book with great clarity: 'It's a portion of life none of us is prepared to - or wants to - face. However, it's there, and for each of us, it's there in a different way and form.' - Publisher's Weekly (US)