Press Pause Before You Eat: Say Good-bye to Mindless Eating and Hello to the Joys of Eating by Linda MintlePress Pause Before You Eat: Say Good-bye to Mindless Eating and Hello to the Joys of Eating by Linda Mintle

Press Pause Before You Eat: Say Good-bye to Mindless Eating and Hello to the Joys of Eating

byLinda Mintle

Paperback | May 26, 2009

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In a world that acts before it thinks, it’s time to “press pause”...

Press Pause Before You Eat and say goodbye to hurried and mindless eating. This ground-breaking book shines a light on the most overlooked area of our relationship with food: mindless and unintentional eating. It teaches readers to understand WHY they eat and provides practical, proven strategies to control eating. Diets treat symptoms; Press Pause Before You Eat deals with the root causes of unintentional eating and restores the joys of mindful eating. Busy schedules translate into eating on the run or skipping meals altogether. Life is not only filled with multitasking and hurried moments but on-the-go consumption. Eating becomes a thing to do while doing other things and all too often becomes a source of guilt and distress. The more stressed and busier people feel, the more food becomes a source of gratification, relief and a numbing agent, as well as a welcomed friend. In order to address the current obesity epidemic and struggles people have with their weight, a new approach is needed—one that addresses the emotional, relational, and spiritual side of the individual and his or her relationship to food.

Dr. Linda Mintle, a licensed professional in clinical practice

and a specialist in eating disorders, knows that unless

people are coached to be intentional about their eating, they

will continue to eat mindlessly and be part of the 90-95 percent

of failed dieters. Therefore, Press Pause Before You Eat

is a prescriptive guide for intentionally cultivating a mindful

awareness of eating that attends to the body, soul, and spirit.

Food is not our enemy; it is something to be enjoyed!
Dr. Linda Mintle is a national expert on marriage, family and eating issues. She received her Ph.D. from Old Dominion University in Urban Health Services and Clinical Psychology, and she has a Master’s degree in Social Work and Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and Communications, both from Western Michigan University. Married for thirty...
Title:Press Pause Before You Eat: Say Good-bye to Mindless Eating and Hello to the Joys of EatingFormat:PaperbackDimensions:256 pages, 9 × 6 × 0.3 inPublished:May 26, 2009Publisher:Howard BooksLanguage:English

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Read from the Book

1 Press Pause: It Takes Only a Moment Suzy and I took our usual places in the overstuffed chairs in our favorite coffee shop. As we sipped our tall, skinny, one-pump decaf mochas, her eyes kept wandering to the display case of pastries. She seemed unusually distracted. "Suzy, I know my problem with the rabbits eating my begonias is not exactly front-page news, but you seem distracted. Is everything okay?" "Huh? Oh, yeah, I guess so. I was just looking at those pastries in the display case. They look so tempting. I would really like an apple fritter with my coffee. My mouth is watering just thinking about it, but I know I shouldn't eat it. I've got to lose ten pounds. Oh, what the heck, I'm going to get it. It looks yummy. Coffee and pastry are great together." Suzy headed for the counter, bought the pastry, and began munching on it while I resumed our conversation: "Here's what a friend of mine suggests for my rabbit problem. Whenever you have your hair cut, you should ask for the clippings and then spread them around the bed of the begonias. Supposedly, this keeps the varmints away. Sounds a little creepy to me. Like a CSI episode for furry critters...Okay, you're not laughing. What is up with you?" "I just ate that apple fritter." "I know. I was sitting right here, remember? I witnessed the crime." "It's not funny. I do this all the time. I eat when I'm not hungry, and that makes me crazy." "Well, then, stop it." "If I could stop, don't you think I would have by now?" "I suppose so. I'm sorry. I didn't mean to be insensitive." "It's like I don't have control over this and then I end up gaining five pounds. It is depressing. I'm caught in this vicious cycle. I try to resist but have no willpower. Then I feel bad and could kick myself. So I try to be good, but then a pastry starts calling my name. And you know me. If it's calling my name, I'm going to answer!" "Do you have to answer by eating it?" "Yes. Otherwise, it wouldn't be a problem, right?" "Wrong. Anytime you think there is only one choice, you create a problem. There are other ways to handle this. You have more control than you think you do. Look, I saw that apple fritter, too. It looked delicious and I thought about how great it would taste with my coffee. I wanted it just as badly as you did. But I've learned a little secret that really helps me when it comes to eating. I've learned to press pause." "Press pause? What are you talking about?" "I've learned to press a mental pause button and become more aware of my eating. Basically, I've learned to be more intentional with my eating. It doesn't mean I am perfect when it comes to food, but it sure has made a difference." Press pause is more than a strategy. It is a mindset that has been the foundation of my work with clients in therapy and clinical practice for more than twenty-five years. As an eating disorders specialist employed by medical schools, hospital programs, public schools, universities, and private practices, I have used this technique to help people from all walks of life who struggle with food and eating. My professional life has focused on developing strategies that work when it comes to food and living a healthy lifestyle. During the past six years, I have had the privilege to talk to an even larger audience through speaking, writing, and appearing as Dr. Linda on ABC Family's Living the Life television show. I often remind our viewers that you don't need to be in therapy to have issues with food! In fact, have you ever said to yourself, Why did I just eat that? I wasn't hungry. I can't believe I just ate that? This book is for you and the rest of us who eat when we aren't hungry, eat without thinking, or overeat when we are full, then find ourselves saying, I hate myself right now. What is wrong with me? Once we eat to our own regret, then our sense of defeat only leads to more overeating. What a vicious cycle! We don't want to overeat but do. Then we feel terrible, make self-disparaging remarks or excuse our behavior, feel even worse, and overeat more. We give up and give in. We tell ourselves that the food is more powerful than we are and that we can't defeat this inner urge or impulse. We are left feeling hopeless. And statistics seem to bear us out. Despite the billions of dollars spent on diets and fitness products, Americans experience record rates of obesity and remain extremely weight conscious. According to a study in The New England Journal of Medicine, 90 to 95 percent of people who diet are unsuccessful in the long term1 -- and other studies indicate that most of those dieters regain their lost weight within one to five years!2 These are not encouraging statistics -- just thinking about them makes you want to grab the hot buttered popcorn. To make matters worse, after we eat something we don't really want or need, we don't usually tell ourselves to let it go and move on. Instead, we give in to the hopelessness of the moment. What we need to do is learn from the moment: think about why we just did what we didn't want to do and focus our efforts on changing this practiced habit rather than simply feeling bad about it or excusing it. Let's be honest. We know the facts about food. I mean, look around you. We are saturated with information. We are bombarded by diet and fitness trivia. You can hardly pick up a magazine without finding recipes or reading about a new ab reducer. Truth is, these days you don't have to be a registered dietitian to make good food decisions! Most overeating or unhealthy eating is not cured by more seminars on what to eat, another new and improved diet, or more creative exercise ideas. The problem most of us have is that we don't do what we know is good to do! What we need to focus on is Why? What is missing? Why do we eat when we aren't hungry? Our lives are busy. Food is always available and oftentimes we eat without thinking. We need to press pause. Our goal is to feel in control of the food we choose to eat, rather than the food controlling us. We want eating to be an intentional behavior under our control. Wouldn't it feel great to be in control of the apple fritter rather than have the apple fritter controlling you? Wouldn't you like to look at a yummy pastry and make an intentional decision whether you are going to eat it or not? Or if you do choose to eat it, to not feel guilty afterward? It can be done! To get there, we must understand that eating is more than a physical act that satisfies hunger. It is emotional, relational, environmental, and spiritual. We eat when we are hurried, stressed, and feeling all kinds of emotions: happy, sad, fearful, and more. Eating can distract us from uncomfortable feelings or connect us to memories of love. Food comforts us when we are lonely or rejected. It distracts us when we are angry and calms us when we feel stressed. We eat when we fight with our spouse, feel sexually insecure, are stressed by the demands of elderly parents, try unsuccessfully to comfort a screaming toddler, are frustrated with work, and so on. Food gives us pleasure and a momentary break. We eat because we can. Walking past the smoothie bar and seeing those machines foam up tropical concoctions moves us toward the counter. A cold winter night is warmed by a hot cup of peppermint mocha. The television advertisement of chocolate topping on rich vanilla ice cream is virtually telling us to march to the freezer. Our environment provides ample opportunities and cues to eat and provides inviting choices. We respond. And finally, we eat to satisfy a spiritual hunger that can't be satisfied with food. There is a natural emptiness in all of us, a longing for something beyond ourselves that can't be met through the natural appetite -- but hey, that doesn't stop us from trying! Even though in the long run, food doesn't satisfy those empty places or work to calm us down, sometimes it seems to fill emotional and spiritual emptiness. It provides a stop gap, but a very short one, and in its wake leaves us with guilt, pounds, and poor health. Understanding that there are so many possible triggers to eating when we are not hungry, we now recognize that examining why we eat is essential for life success. What are the triggers and how can we react in new ways? Unless we become aware of why we eat and learn to press pause before putting food in our mouth, eating will continue to serve unintended purposes and weight-loss efforts will fail. But most important, the enjoyment of eating will be gone forever! Food gives life. Somehow we've lost that perspective. Food has become our enemy. We obsess, overindulge, and wish we could just eat without giving so much thought to it. But we can't. Thinking about why we eat will help us. We have to become aware of what we are doing, take a deep breath, and make changes. The purpose of this book is to help you rethink your relationship to food. My hope is that you will enjoy eating and learn to use food in positive, life-sustaining ways. To do so, you need to press pause, to take a moment and think about the meaning we've given food in our lives. If we are to change our negative relationship with food to a healthy one, we must become aware of how we think about food and use it in everyday life. So what do we do? What is the cure for hurried and unintentional eating? How do we shift our thinking? It is not as difficult as you think, but does require honesty and press pause moments. We must be truthful to ourselves and develop an awareness of why we eat. Once we know ourselves better, we can consider our options, decide to make changes, and take action. Think about anything you own that uses a remote control. One of the beautiful things about a remote is that it has a button on it marked pause, which allows you to stop the movie or TiVo. With the pause button, you have control and choice. You decide what to watch or what you will do next. The pause button allows you a moment to reflect, to not react impulsively, and to determine your next move. This is what we need to do when it comes to food: press a mental pause button that allows us to be more intentional about our next move. It just takes a moment. This book will show you how to use that pause button: how to press pause before you eat, to be in control and develop a thoughtful approach to eating, and to think more about what you do and why you do it. Our moment-by-moment choices determine our future. We need to make changes that lead to happiness and health. The basic Press Pause Principle is this: Purpose in your heart to pause. Attend to the moment. Understand why and what you do. Strategize ways to make changes. Execute new ways to think, feel, and act. Each chapter will walk you through the process of being intentional. You will learn to press pause, take a deep breath, reflect for a moment, and choose your direction. That's the pattern to develop in order to change your relationship with food. And it takes only a moment -- a pause. Because we are body, soul, and spirit, this book will address all three aspects of our being. Our bodies are greatly affected by our eating habits, but so are our soul and spirit. Consequently, we will learn how to engage all three aspects of our being when it comes to food and eating. At the end of each chapter, you will find a variation of the Press Pause Principle that relates to the theme of that chapter. Each of these principles is part of an overall plan to develop a healthy lifelong positive relationship with food and eating. Pressing pause is the key to intentional eating. It requires only a moment but greatly affects our lives. The Press Pause Principle will help you remember how to make small but important changes. It is a summary of the information presented in each chapter and a reminder of how to approach food and eating with intention. As we learn to recognize our eating triggers and understand why they are so powerful in our lives, eating takes on new meaning. It becomes enjoyable, not filled with guilt and angst. Most of us have lost the joy of eating and need to find it once again or maybe experience it for the first time. Whether you are underweight, overweight, or at your ideal weight, learn to look beyond what you eat, to why you eat. Press pause and choose the path to success. Pause for Wisdom Eat your food with gladness, and drink...with a joyful heart. Ecclesiastes 9:7 © 2009 Linda Mintle

Bookclub Guide

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS: 1. When we are too busy to think about how and why we eat, we eat mindlessly. Learning to PAUSE and slow down is an important part of eating better and with intention. Based on the information and suggestions in the book, what specific steps can you take to stop being so busy and take better care of yourself? 2. Review the signs of physical hunger. Each time you want to eat, go over those signs and decide if you are really hungry. If not, identify the cue or trigger that is prompting you to eat. For example, is it stress, an environmental cue, an emotion, a relationship issue, etc. Keep the diary suggested in Chapters 5 and 8. Track your patterns of unintentional eating and notice what triggers you the most to eat when not hungry. Share with the group which type of cues trigger you the most? 3. Think about the meaning of food in your life. How does your cultural background influence your thoughts about food and eating? How does your family and prior experiences with food play into how you use food today? Do you use food as reward, love and ascribe other meanings? Discuss these meanings in the group. 4. On a piece of paper, jot down the foods you tend to eat when you feel stressed? Now, come up with strategies to de-stress yourself without using food. Make a list of things you can do when stress begins to mount in your life. Try substituting those things the next time you feel the urge to eat when stressed. Share your successes with the group. 5. Look at your eating area in your house, condo or apartment. Does it look relaxing, inviting and do you even use it? Review all the environmental cues in Chapter 6 that make us overeat and check those against your own eating environment. What physical changes can you make to improve your eating area? Do you also need to commit to eating in that space and take more time with each meal? Finally, count the number of family meals eaten at the table. What can you do to increase that number given all the benefits of families eating together? Have the group discuss the changes they made. 6. Evaluate the important relationships in your life. Are they meeting your expectations? Are your expectations realistic? Do you feel your intimacy needs are being met? Include your relationship with God in this evaluation. Now, think about the times you may eat when upset or disappointed in these relationships? What can do you to resolve these issues other than use food to cope with negative feelings? Identify the relationships that lead you to eat without thinking? How often do you use prayer and time with God when you feel let down in relationships? 7. It is so difficult to make time to be quiet. Yet, the Bible talks about the need for a pause to refresh our spirits. Look up these scriptures: Psalm 131:2; Pslam 130:5-6; Isaiah 30:15, 18; Psalm 40:1-3; Psalm 51:16. Read these scriptures and discuss the importance of waiting on the Lord. 8. This week, notice a time in which you are having food thoughts when you aren't hungry. Practice the skill of not resisting those thoughts but allowing them to come and go. Notice what happens to those thoughts. Write down your observations. Did this work better than trying to resist those thoughts? Did the craving pass? Practice this several times in the next week and report to the group on your experiences. 9. Take a few moments and examine your spiritual life. Do you practice spiritual disciplines or have you become complacent when it comes to spending time reading your Bible and sitting quietly before the Lord in prayer? If so, commit to those disciplines once again or perhaps for the first time. As you become more intimate with God, what do you notice about food cravings and mindless eating? 10. Eating in response to emotions is perhaps one of the most common things people do. Using the PRESS PAUSE principle, look at the chapter on regulating and tolerating emotions (Chapter 12) and come up with emotional rescues that would work. Decide which lifestyle changes you need to make and choose one to begin the process. Report on how it worked at the next study group. 11. Renewing the mind is a biblical concept that requires us to continually put on the mind of Christ. What can you do on a daily basis to fill your mind with truth and God's thought? Identify ways that will keep you operating in truth and empower your spirit with the fullness of God. 12. The final chapter in the book focuses on how to execute intentional eating. Evaluate each of the ten guidelines in terms of your own issues with food. Which of these will be the most difficult? Which of these is already a part of you? What can you do to keep these guidelines in place and develop a positive, healthy relationship with food? Discuss these in the group.

Editorial Reviews

"After every late-night bowl of ice cream or every second or third chocolate chip cookie, I find myself lamenting, "Why did I eat that? I wasn't even hungry!" Dr. Linda helps us examine why we continually sabotage our own good intentions in her new book, Press Pause Before You Eat!" -- Terry Meeuwsen, cohost of The 700 Club