Relationship  Intensive Care: A practical guide to saving and maintaining your relationship by Leonie R SchillingRelationship  Intensive Care: A practical guide to saving and maintaining your relationship by Leonie R Schilling

Relationship Intensive Care: A practical guide to saving and maintaining your relationship

byLeonie R Schilling

Paperback | March 20, 2016

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I have always wondered why relationships were so disposable, divorces so easy to get and why any subsequent relationships also tended to fail. Conversely, I also wondered why in the world others stayed in clearly dysfunctional and even abusive relationships.

Over the years, as I worked with couples I noticed a common theme among clients. Many were in their second, third or fourth long term relationship or marriage and were once again having the same issues. It was obvious to me that people would leave one relationship thinking their partner was the problem or that they were a bad combination and incompatible.

They would then take their learned dysfunctional behavours into the next relationship which, having no lessons being learned, would of course often result in another unsuccessful union: and their ex would do exactly the same. Like a bad movie playing out time and time again.

You could write the script of what the arguments would be about, what the patterns of discontent would be and how the relationship would be undermined just like the relationship that came before.

This book will show you how to effectively go about the business of healing your relationships and also;
•Explain why people behave the way they do
• Identify where most people go wrong and what to do about it
•  Help you decide what the real issues are and if the relationship should be saved
•  Give you a practical intensive care plan to help heal the identified issues
•  Teach you how to deal with people and situations that threaten your relationship
• Guide you in how to move on with dignity from a failed relationship
 • Give you strategies to heal your heart and get on with your life

Title:Relationship Intensive Care: A practical guide to saving and maintaining your relationshipFormat:PaperbackDimensions:182 pages, 9 × 6 × 0.39 inPublished:March 20, 2016Publisher:North Lakes Counselling ServicesLanguage:English

The following ISBNs are associated with this title:

ISBN - 10:1925471004

ISBN - 13:9781925471007


Table of Contents

Chapter 1. Disposable Spouses. The Culture of Cut and Run. People are not Penguins. People are organisms. There are no knights in shining armour. Why people don't rescue themselves. The case for pre - cohabitation conversations Chapter 2. Why things go wrong and why they don't get better. Thinking things will get better in time. Playing the passive aggressive game. Building resentments . The Artful Dodger. The poached frog syndrome. Developing patterns of dysfunctional communication. Failure to plan for inevitable changesChapter 3. The critical steps on the path to healing. The mandatory conditions for success. Becoming conscious. Become a fortune teller. Forgive it or Forget it. Stop Spreading the news. Don't believe the evidenceChapter 4. The Autopsy. What are the diseases making your relationship sick?. Should your relationship be taken off life support?. Your home should be your sanctuary. What is a deal breaker. Due consideration. Honesty and transparency - why they are importantChapter 5. Making the commitment to change. The Discussion. The negotiation. The Contract. Getting your head in the game. The Review. The Tune up. The Outcomes. When you know better, you do betterChapter 6. The interlopers. What if the kids are calling the shots?. Setting personal boundaries. Managing in-laws and extended family. Friends - managing each other's tribe. Careers and home management. Social Media Chapter 7. Uncoupling. Trial separation. Moving On. The trap of only remembering the good stuff. Strategies to recover from a broken heart. Take the lesson and move on. A truth about life. Is there more help?