Second Firsts: Live, Laugh, And Love Again by Christina RasmussenSecond Firsts: Live, Laugh, And Love Again by Christina Rasmussen

Second Firsts: Live, Laugh, And Love Again

byChristina Rasmussen

Paperback | November 4, 2013

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After studying to become a therapist and crisis intervention counselor-even doing her master's thesis on the stages of bereavement-Christina Rasmussen thought she understood grief. But it wasn't until losing her husband to cancer in her early 30s that she truly grasped the depths of sorrow and pain that accompany loss. Using the knowledge she gained while wading through her own grief and reading hundreds of neuroscience books, Rasmussen began to look at experiences in a new way. She realized that grief plunges you into a gap between worlds-the world before loss and the world after loss. She also realized how easy it is to become lost in this gap. In Second Firsts, Rasmussen walks you through her Life Reentry process to help you break grief's spiral of pain, so you can stop simply surviving and begin to live again. She shows you that loss can actually be a powerful catalyst to creating a life that is in alignment with your true passions and values. The resilience, strength, and determination that have gotten you through this difficult time are the same characteristics that will help you craft your wonderful new life. Her method, which she has used successfully with thousands of clients, is based on the science of neuroplasticity and focuses on consciously releasing pain in ways that both honor suffering and rewire the brain to change your perception of the world and yourself. Using practical exercises and stories drawn from her own life and those of her clients, Rasmussen guides you through five stages of healing that help you open up to new possibilities. From acknowledging your fear, to recognizing where you stand now, to taking active steps toward a new life, Rasmussen helps you move past the pain and shows that it's never too late to step out of the gap and experience life again-as if for the first time.
Christina Rasmussen is a coach, crisis-intervention specialist, and speaker on a crusade to change the way we live after loss. As the founder of Second Firsts, an organization to help people create a pathway back to life after loss, Christina has helped thousands of people rebuild, reclaim, and relaunch their lives using the power of ...
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Title:Second Firsts: Live, Laugh, And Love AgainFormat:PaperbackDimensions:216 pages, 8.37 × 5.37 × 0.56 inPublished:November 4, 2013Publisher:Hay HouseLanguage:English

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Rated 3 out of 5 by from Second Firsts Over the past five years or so, several people close to me lost spouses due to death or divorce. From my position at one degree of separation, I watched them discover their individual paths to "second firsts." Each person took a different route and a different amount of time, but all their paths shared similar obstacles and milestones. "Grief walked into your heart and created room for your soul to grow." —Christina Rasmussen in Second Firsts I recognized these same obstacles and milestones in Christina Rasmussen's experience of loss and her recommendations for recovery. In her mid-30s, Rasmussen lost her husband to colon cancer. Much of the book content related back to her own personal experiences with grief and life rebuilding, so her stories will resonate with anyone recovering from a disrupted relationship. Anyone starting over after any kind of life change will find her book helpful though, because her themes resonated with me in other ways, too. I experienced the same fear, frustration and exhilaration when I left my career behind to become a stay-at-home mother. That was a "second first" for me. And I realized that a reluctance to let go is brewing inside me now as my children grow and lead more independent lives: when my home becomes an "empty nest," I will create yet another new life—a "third first." "Launching a new life is a strategic, active process. It doesn't happen by accident. . . . If they are operating in the default mode of the old self, they will continue to experience the pain of resistance. This pain should not be mistaken for grief. It's like trying to put on clothes you used to wear comfortably, which no longer fit you." —Christina Rasmussen in Second Firsts Most people are familiar with the Elisabeth Kübler-Ross book On Death and Dying and her theory of the five stages of grief. Rasmussen's book builds on that theory, offering a how-to guide on re-creating life even as people walk through the five phases of grief. She breaks it down into five "Life Reentry Stages": Get Real, Plug In, Shift, Discover, and Reenter Life. Her five stages encourage mindful reflection of emotions and circumstances and step-by-step "plugging in" to new activities. Gentle but persistent progress ensures that mourners don't get stuck in the "Waiting Room" of grief, immobilized by fear and a reluctance to let go of no-longer-appropriate "clothing." "It's important not to resist grieving. But distinguish between true mourning and the repetition of loss. Repetition of loss is a natural, albeit ultimately unhealthy, practice of going over the whys , the hows, and the if onlys of your past long after a loss has occurred." —Christina Rasmussen in Second Firsts From my position at one degree of separation from profound loss, I found this book comfortable reading. I think those with a recent, raw experience of grief would find it difficult to face immediately. They might need to set the book aside for a time until they are ready to start the first Life Reentry Stage. But if you need to re-create a new life, for whatever reason, this book provides encouragement and guidance. If you know someone stuck in the "Waiting Room," maybe this book will nudge them to begin their second first life.
Date published: 2013-10-30

Editorial Reviews

Second Firsts will change the way you think about life after loss. With simplicity, science, and raw authenticity, Christina takes you on a journey from a world of loneliness and pain to one of possibilities and action. Her kind and knowledgeable words provide hope and show you that loss can actually inspire the strength and conviction to create the life of your dreams. And her own life stands as a testament to the power of this process." -Marci Shimoff , #1 New York Times best-selling author of Love for No Reason and Happy for No Reason " Second Firsts is about creating a bigger life after loss. It is about dreaming of a brand-new way to fall in love again with living fully. It is certainly not an easy task, but this little book makes it easier." -Karen Salmansohn , best-selling author of The Prince Harming Syndrome and The Bounce Back Book "We can all learn from the wisdom of those who have experienced loss and survived. Second Firsts can be your life coach and direct you to heal and create a new life." -Bernie Siegel, M.D. , author of Buddy's Candle and 365 Prescriptions for the Soul "Christina Rasmussen brilliantly carries the torch for all of those who have suffered loss. She has created the life reentry process that will help all people of all ages, and Second Firsts will be the guidebook for those who are ready to let go and choose life again." -Kristine Carlson , New York Times best-selling author of Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for Women and Heartbroken Open: A Memoir Through Loss to Self-Discovery "In this moving book, Christina has drawn on both her personal and professional experience with grief to assist those who are suffering to find their way to a new 'normal.' In Second Firsts you will discover how to move from merely surviving to once again thriving." -Anita Moorjani , New York Times best-selling author of Dying to Be Me "Christina Rasmussen rode the roller coaster of exhaustion, hope, anxiety, and despair along with her husband throughout his battle with cancer. After he passed-just like everyone who loses a loved one-she faced the additional challenge of rebuilding her life. In Second Firsts , Christina does more than share her remarkable regenerative journey. She shows us why we must start living again and how to go about it. This engaging, touching, and helpful work is a must read for anyone facing or coping with the loss of someone close." -Edward J. Benz Jr., M.D., president and CEO of the Dana Farber Cancer Institute"This powerful book guides us through five transformational stages that awaken the journey back to life after loss. The steps ignite the fire within every human soul who has experienced a death or a divorce. Every word is delivered with compassion and truth. Christina is certainly not afraid to tell you to move on if you have been stuck inside that Waiting Room of loss for far too long." -Marie Diamond , star of the international bestseller The Secret, feng shui master, and global transformational teacher, author, and speaker"Christina gives people who are dealing with the physical and mental pain of grief hope for a sunnier tomorrow. I only wish Second Firsts was available to me sooner. This book will be on my night table forever." -Jackie Hance , New York Times best-selling author of I'll See You Again " Second Firsts is an important and powerful book! Christina Rasmussen not only beautifully inspires and empowers you to dream again after loss, but also gives you the tools to make those dreams come true." -Mike Robbins, author of Be Yourself, Everyone Else Is Already Taken " Second Firsts is a practical guide for anyone who lost too much and forgot to get back to life. If that's you, get this book and start living again." -Thomas Kersting , nationally acclaimed psychotherapist and TV personality" Second Firsts will take you on a journey where you get to rediscover yourself no matter the loss or the heartache you have experienced. It will not ask you to wait for time to heal you, that's for sure. Instead it will take you by the hand and lead you to a path of reentry with actions, steps, and tools." -Elizabeth Lombardo, Ph.D. , best-selling author of A Happy You: Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness "Christina Rasmussen's Second Firsts offers sage practical advice to individuals-widowed or divorced-who need to begin life anew. Readers will find a book that, while sensitive to grief and loss, offers hope and a roadmap to finding meaning and purpose after life-changing loss." -Kenneth J. Doka, Ph.D. , professor at the Graduate School, The College of New Rochelle andsenior consultant at the Hospice Foundation of America" Second Firsts walks into your life, grabs you by your courage, and gets you back on your feet. One day at a time. One action at a time. One new thought at a time. In the end you get to meet your new identity. Wow." -Allison Maslan , best-selling author of Blast Off!: The Surefire Success Plan to Launch Your Dreams into Reality " Seconds Firsts is an invaluable resource that not only inspires hope but also provides critical and practical information about healing for those who have lost so much. Christina's vulnerability and willingness to reveal the ins and outs of her own transformation make it feel as though she is walking hand in hand with you on your way back to life after loss. This uniquely honest book makes you truly believe that it is possible to connect again with life in a meaningful and rich way." -Carley Flam Decker, Ph.D. , clinical psychologist"In Second Firsts , Christina Rasmussen has created the ultimate guidebook for navigating devastating loss, discovering the gifts of grief, and reentry into a passionate, vibrant, thriving life. Let Christina light your way out of despair as she reveals the unimaginable grace that awaits your life after loss." -Nancy Levin , author of Writing for My Life . . . Reclaiming the Lost Pieces of Me "Finding happiness after tragedy and loss may seem hopeless, but as Christina Rasmussen has personally discovered through grieving the untimely death of her husband, life still happens. In this wonderful guide about rediscovery, Christina shares inspirational stories and offers practical advice to renewing your happiness while encouraging you to embark on a new journey." -Dan Caro , inspirationalist and burn survivor, author of The Gift of Fire: How I Made Adversity Work for Me "If you have experienced loss in your life, Christina's book will quickly empower you to vibrantly refill, renegotiate, and embrace your broken-hearted spirit. Please, use your limited time and energy wisely and seize her Life Reentry program early in your grief. It will undoubtedly be a big victory for you and the universe. It's a realistic, strategic, life-shifting, never-look-back program based on neuroscience and personal experience that leads you to feeling more genuinely alivethan you ever thought possible." -Carolyn Moor , founder of Modern Widows Club"Devastating, heartbreaking loss is part of every single life. Christina has been there herself, and in her book, Second Firsts , she takes your hand-offering comfort and step-by-step guidance to help you find your way back into the sunlight. This book will get you living and breathing again by showing you the way to a joyful, hopeful, and loving life." -Paul S. Boyton , president and CEO of The Moore Center"