Sexual Outsiders: Understanding Bdsm Sexualities And Communities by David M. OrtmannSexual Outsiders: Understanding Bdsm Sexualities And Communities by David M. Ortmann

Sexual Outsiders: Understanding Bdsm Sexualities And Communities

byDavid M. Ortmann

Paperback | February 19, 2015

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Sexual Outsiders: Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities delves into the unique experiences of individuals in BDSM communities. While misunderstandings surrounding these communities prevail, BDSM sexuality cuts across race, gender, nationality, and sexual orientation. BDSM describes forms of sexuality that incorporate restraint, pressure, sensation, training, and elements of both erotic and non-erotic power exchange between the engaged parties. Some BDSM "scenes" include role-playing, spanking, blindfolds, ropes, and erotic costuming.Sexual Outsiders is designed as a guide for BDSM community members who must wade through the quagmire of unique problems they face: coming out to family, friends and partners; distinguishing abusive relationships from healthy consensual ones; finding and developing community; overcoming shame and denial; exploring whether BDSM sexuality can be a healing tool; gaining access to quality, culturally competent psychotherapy; and finding strategies to develop a healthy sexual self-esteem in the face of current medical and social standards that view them as sick or pathological. The book also serves as an educational primer for those whose partners, friends, and family members are involved in BDSM.In terms of challenges faced by BDSM communities, the most significant is living with a stigmatized sexuality shame, prejudice, discrimination, isolation, depression, and a lack of adequate, competent mental health care. Issues such as coming out as a sexual minority, finding community and partners, and dealing with scenes and relationships that go wrong are some the common experiences shared by members of BDSM communities. Sexual Outsiders employs common sense, good humor, and vivid anecdotes while incorporating basic ideas about human behavior, psychology, philosophy, interviews, history, and clinical case studies to illustrate the real lives and experiences of men and women in BDSM communities. Anyone wanting to learn more about this unique, and more-common-than-you-think expression of sexuality, will find in these pages insight into the various challenges BDSM practitioners face, and the many strengths that people in the BDSM communities have developed in the face of social stigma and prejudice.
David M. Ortmann, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, sex therapist and author in private practice. His work has been published in journals, magazines, and anthologies of fiction and non-fiction. His areas of clinical focus and study are the sexuality of the BDSM, Leather and Kink communities, concepts and theories of masculinity, and the proc...
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Title:Sexual Outsiders: Understanding Bdsm Sexualities And CommunitiesFormat:PaperbackDimensions:184 pages, 9.03 × 5.96 × 0.53 inPublished:February 19, 2015Publisher:Rowman & Littlefield PublishersLanguage:English

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ISBN - 10:1442217367

ISBN - 13:9781442217362

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Rated 5 out of 5 by from Wonderful book! A must read book about negotiating and balancing power dynamics in a relationship. Also a great overview of BDSM relationship dynamics and the problems that may arise. A must read for those who are thinking about introducing BDSM especially power play in their relationship and for those in an already established BDSM relationship and who are just looking for some additional insight.
Date published: 2017-10-17

Table of Contents

PrefaceIntroduction1. The Power of Language2. The Curious Novice3. Coming Out4. Stories of Personal Growth5. When Things Go Wrong6. Power is Hot7. Getting Assistance8. Walking on the OutsideAcknowledgments

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Sexual Outsiders serves as a gentle introduction to BDSM while exploring the psychological needs of people who decide to explore this powerful realm of sexuality. There are few books that so beautifully position themselves as BDSM primers for the curious newcomer as well as the partners, friends and family of BDSM practitioners. This book does just that brilliantly and is destined to become a classic of the genre.