The Art of Conversation Through Serious Illness: Lessons for Caregivers by Richard McQuellonThe Art of Conversation Through Serious Illness: Lessons for Caregivers by Richard McQuellon

The Art of Conversation Through Serious Illness: Lessons for Caregivers

byRichard McQuellon, Michael Cowan

Paperback | May 1, 2010

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Every day, thousands of people receive a diagnosis of serious, life-threatening illness, and their families and friends suddenly become caregivers. Despite the best of intentions it is not always easy to communicate well under these circumstances, or find deep empathy for something one hasnever before experienced. When is it best to speak, and when to be silent? How can someone provide real comfort, and how can relationships with loved ones facing serious illness be enhanced in this most difficult time? This book is about how to be an encouraging caregiver and friend under the most difficult circumstances, when the possibility of death is all too real The authors believe that open dialogue must not be avoided until the last minute when opportunities will be limited, but that caregivers and lovedones can embrace this time, mortal time, honestly as a way to sensitively and compassionately engage with those for whom a central fact of life is realized--that all of our lives are time-limited.In The Art of Conversation Through Serious Illness, the authors consider how to best listen to and speak with one facing life-threatening illness, with lessons on being a primary conversation partner, becoming properly empathic and receiving empathy, maintaining everyday conversation, usingplatitudes appropriately, understanding healthy denial, and talking about dying. Offering bedside guidance usually only available to professionals and peppered with insightful anecdotes from the authors' own experiences, this gentle, succinct book is appropriate for anyone going through thisuniquely difficult yet universal life experience.
Richard P. McQuellon, Ph.D. is Professor of Medicine, Comprehensive Cancer Center of Wake Forest University Baptist Medical Center. Michael A. Cowan, Ph.D. is Assistant to the President, Loyola University New Orleans, and Executive Director of Common Good, a network of civic organizations working to rebuild and transform post-Hurricane...
Title:The Art of Conversation Through Serious Illness: Lessons for CaregiversFormat:PaperbackDimensions:144 pages, 8.25 × 5.5 × 0.68 inPublished:May 1, 2010Publisher:Oxford University PressLanguage:English

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Table of Contents

AcknowledgmentsPrologueIntroductionPart I. The Many Meanings of Mortal TimeMortal Time: How Long Does it Last?The Multiple Meanings of Mortal TimeShattered AssumptionsCreating MeaningCoping StylesWhat to Expect in Mortal TimeThe Challenge and the Invitation of Mortal TimeA Question of BalanceThe Prospect of DespairFinding MeaningLiving in Mortal TimeSources of HopeNevertheless, There Is MeaningPart II. Hope from ConversationHope for the DayAvoiding GloomFalse HopeConversationHealing Conversation: Basic ElementsTalking In and About Mortal TimeConversation PartnersEmpathyBecoming Properly EmpatheticReceiving EmpathyHonesty: What Can I Say?The Right WordsAcknowledging FearEveryday Conversation with FriendsPlatitudes: Let's Hope for the Best and Prepare for the WorstYou first!The Humane use of Words: Effective Phrases in Mortal TimeHow Much Time Do I Have?Appreciating Everyday ChatterDenial?Healthy Conversation about DyingPractical ConversationPart III. For Those Left BehindBeing a Companion in Mortal TimeKind CompanionsThe Costs and Risks of CompanionshipThe Nine Personal Virtues Most Needed in Mortal TimeConsideration and Disciplined SpontaneityCensored Conversation vs. Active ListeningClosing: A Word to CaregiversResilience and Absorbing SufferingEmpathy ShiftSharingMendingThe Art of Conversation through Serious IllnessNotesBibliographyIndex